They always talk about taking responsibility for our own actions, our life, and our past instead of blaming our parents.
But people who blame their parents do so because everything they did in their lives was either for their parents or because of their parents, it was all about them, so of course they’d consider them responsible!
The key to taking back control of our lives and actions and moving forward can’t be found in taking responsibility, before it is found in taking credit!
Once you take credit for all your achievements and all your good deeds and the good way you’ve turned out to be or were after all that hurt, you will be able to take responsibility for the damage and the dark parts in you, because only then will you be able to see that it was you all along who did everything.
You are the one who’s chosen to act and react in the ways you did, even if your parents were the reason or the motivation.
You were the doer, you were the achiever. Feel “responsible” for the good things first, and then it’ll be easier to feel responsible for the other tougher things.
You have to stop ascribing your success solely to your parents and claim your wins first, in order to take responsibility and control over your own life and take action in the present…take credit, then responsibility.