Getting Bi

I mean I know a certain level of projection on fictional characters and situations is inevitable and even healthy, but sometimes you got to step back into the real world to remind yourself that Character X is not your shitty parent/abusive ex/asshole boss/bully from high school, and that people who like Character X are not personally victimizing you.

The foam was not as gross looking irl😂😭

who tf is looking at the foam

@minko_draws

ABBOTT ELEMENTARY S02E07, Attack Ad

Paramore at Austin City Limits taken by Brooks Burris for Austin 101 Magazine (2022)

ABBOTT ELEMENTARY 2x03 — “Story Samurai”

Max and Clance - A League of Their Own (S1–)

Wayhaught comforting one another through the seasons

they should remake breaking bad but instead of making and dealing meth it’s a suburban white mom who makes soap and the same levels of violence, gore, and drama remain

Bi men exist. Don’t forget about us on Bi Visibility Day!

If you are the child of wealthy parents, this does not make you rich: it makes you a possible client of wealthy patrons

I have encountered children of rich parents denied tuition funding bc they came out as gay. I have encountered children of rich parents forced into psychiatric confinement begging their parents on the phone every night to please let them leave. I have encountered children of rich parents accustomed to living a life of luxury, cut out of their family’s wills for their disobedient attitude, and left unsure how to live an ordinary life bc nobody taught them. I have encountered children of fabulously affluent and abusive parents who can effectively buy off judges and pay to have them hunted down if they run from home. If you don’t have discretion over your money, it is not yours; and if your “wealthy” lifestyle is subsidised with strings attached (which it always is), you are not wealthy yourself

Financial abuse is a real thing, and people should seriously look it up. I’ve seen people whose parents refused to fill out FAFSA forms so then they couldn’t get student loans to get an education away from their family. And people whose parents “expected contribution” was more than tuition so they got nothing, meanwhile they’re about to be kicked out of the house and off health insurance. I’ve heard stories of people who went into fields they absolutely hated because otherwise their families would cut them off, and people who avoided getting necessary medical care because while yes their parents insurance would cover it, it would mean being forced to live exactly the way their parents wanted them to (not being openly queer, not studying the things they want or living the places they want, not being able to escape). And while not all of them would count as Rich™️, they’re certainly in comfortable situations, enough so that they could absolutely destroy their children’s lives

I know at least two survivors of childhood SA that were continually controlled by their abusers well into adulthood through money. One was also institutionalized as a child despite being obviously an abuse victim because when your parents are rich they can just do that.

Another friend managed to get a criminal investigation opened against their childhood abuser who had a conservatorship over them and then it just… vanished. Their abuser paid off the police to make it go away. They had to flee across country, go into hiding and fight a multi-year legal battle to get out of the conservatorship.

This is what happens to the children of rich people.

just in case anyone sees this who is in this situation, if you're at risk of being homeless, you can fill out a FAFSA without your parents' information so it doesn't matter if your parents won't give your their information or if their expected contribution is high. initially my younger sibling was told by the aid office at their school that they didn't qualify for anything since they didn't have our parents' info, but that is incorrect. there's a different application if you're at risk and my sibling ended up with a full scholarship after providing documentation of their situation.

From studentaid.gov:

Men in Black (1997) dir. Barry Sonnenfeld

I use this scene to explain implicit bias to people. his first instinct is to assume the aliens are violent and the girl is innocent, but instead of acting on those assumptions he takes time to recognize his bias, look at the situation again, and then act. 

I watched this with my dad when I was fairly young, and I remember thinking that this was why he got chosen; before he even really knew what was going on, he didn’t assume that aliens were dangerous monsters.

It goes even further. The Men in Black IMPLICITLY are pro-non-violent-aliens-living-among-humans.

Therefore Jay taking note of how each one seems menacing but notes the smaller details is exactly what the MiB are looking for. The other candidates fired at every nonhuman looking entity in the simulation.

Look closely and you’ll see the simulation is full of big teeth, dangerous looking aliens doing mundane tasks like crossing the street, preparing for a sneeze, hailing a taxi, getting a hot dog from a vendor.

The Men in Black SPECIFICALLY look for people who are perfect at sorting out what an actual problem is in a crowded situation. Zed must have been beaming on the inside. This man really WAS a perfect candidate.

I love pointing this out: the novelization confirms, yes, he was 100% right in his assessment there