trans guy getting his first binder: hey local queer community do you have any binders

trans girl getting her first bra that holds breast forms: hi online store that's calling me a billion slurs-

Just some information for any dolls in their early days, buy forms and bras for them from mastectomy websites. They are soo much more comfortable, better made and you don't have to endure "slur.com" and a fuck tonne of bullshit advertising emails to get them. They tend to be a little pricier but they are totally worth it.

reblogging SPECIFICALLY for the End Note which is widely applicable

For any trans (or really any queer) kids who are struggling through this right now, I want you to know

This is not your fault,

you are not wrong,

it wouldn’t be fixed if you were just somehow a different person

Because this guy is right, love is unconditional and this type of parent only loves you on the condition that you are exactly what they want you to be

Reblogging this because it definitely didn't make me cry.

to the trans girl/woman saying "i wish i were a girl/woman":

i just wanted to say that you're already a girl/woman no matter whether or not you want to transition or ever get to, no matter if you have to be stealth 24/7 or most of the time for safety reasons, no matter how butch or masc you are or want your body to be, no matter how you present, sound, or behave, no matter who you are attracted to, no matter how feminine, neutral, butch, or something else you are, no matter if you're intersex, no matter if you're genderfluid, no matter if you're bigender, no matter if you also identify as a boy/man, no matter if you're gender non conforming, no matter if you're genderfluid, no matter if you're nonbinary no matter how you identify or what you do or don't want to change about your body-

you're already a girl, you don't have to 'earn' that or anything, you're a girl because you are. it's okay to call yourself a girl (or woman) no matter what

“to be a woman is to experience pain”“to be a woman is to perform”“to be a woman is to-” SHUT UP SHUT UP 💥💥💥💥

maybe being a woman is looking in the mirror and going “fuck yeah i’m a woman” maybe i don’t want my little cousins to feel like shit to be women maybe i don’t want trans women to feel like their right of passage is pain maybe i just want girls to be happy

i firmly believe that if your feminist ideals cannot imagine a world where womanhood exists without suffering, you will not be able to create a good world for women to live in. you don’t actually want liberation you are convinced that to live in society is to suffer

Its this weird thing where people are so trapped in hegemonic thinking that they stop considering these elements as things placed on women, forced on us, and instead see it as part of what being a woman is. Its like capitalist realism but patriarchal. It is the incapability of imagining womanhood outside of patriarchies rules and definitions. They do not say "Patriarchy forces women to perform" they say "Being a woman is performing." They enshrine the patriarchal as definitional, as neccessary to womanhood.

If a trans girl tells you that she wants to start dressing more femme and your response is "but you're conforming to gender stereotypes" then she is entitled to punch you in the face as hard as she wants

Also, if a trans girl says she wants to go on hormones and your response is "but you're still valid if you don't get hrt" then she is also entitled to punch your face as hard as she wants

reblog this version you fucking cowards

The trans girl you have a crush on is literally never going to get the hint, you gotta fucking tell her, now, go do it.

Also like, even if we do get the hint we're incredibly used to our flirtations being treated as predatory. Like if I had a nickel for every time someone expressed interest in me and was being extremely flirty and forward and then I matched 1/10th of their energy and suddenly all the air was sucked from the room and their interest disappeared the moment I was not a passive object of their affections.... I'd probably be able to buy myself some ice cream and bubble tea right now

Seriously. Please, if you're crushing on a trans woman, be forward about your intentions if you decide you want to act on it.

Being coy while playing with a trans girls heartstrings is a terrible way to get her to like you back, especially when trans women are so often emotionally manipulated and abused, where people take advantage of our need for human connection.

If you want the trans girl you're crushing on to feel safe around you, be genuine. Be sweet. Be there for her when no one else is. And above all else: be patient. You don't know how many times her affections have been used as a weapon against her.

Post-Covid with the boys

everyone say thank you to transgender women

I haven't seen this version anywhere so I made one!

This flag is pissing off TERFs of course but i am seeing so much colorful JOY from trans lesbians and other lesbians in the notes like I've never seen a set of tags so happy before omg

Trans girls please keep living forever. You never take up too much space You are never too loud You are never exaggerating when you're just talking about the oppression you face. Love as many (/other) trans girls as you can forever and ever and ever

if you’re lgbt and a transmisogynist like i’m really sorry you’re an idiot and don’t realize trans women literally created this community cause that’s really sad, like we wouldn’t have a community without them. you waving your pitchfork and incomprehensible rhetoric  to thank them is sad. and all i’m gonna feel in response is utter secondhand embarrassment for how stupid you are. like you’re dumb bye

anyways trans women are amazing! i love you gals and i hope you love yourselves as well! thank you so much for your contributions to this community! stay safe and happy!

yknow i regret my other response to this post bc it was a little guilt trippy and i wish ppl had reblogged this one instead

How to Feel more Feminine (for closeted Trans Girls)

· Part your hair · Paint your nails with a clear coat of nail polish · wear “Manly” Jewelery like a shark tooth necklace or a cross necklace (if you’re Religious) or a dog tag, or a mood ring · wear panties under your Boxers or pants · wear a cupless sports bra under your shirt · wear slightly tinted chapstick · wear eyeshadow that is a shade close to your skin tone · paint your toenails & keep them hidden from unsupportive people under your socks

There’s a lot of additional tips in the notes!

Azaj,17, Oakland, Calif. Transgender girl. Part 1

1-As long as I can remember I always knew I was a girl. I was just very feminine, not because I tried to be, but because it was just natural. I remember when I was in elementary school everything was separated by girl and boy, it was confusing for me because I was a boy physically, but was a girl with my heart, mind and soul. It was not until I was in the 6th grade that I came across the term transgender and when I did so many questions I had started to be answered. I finally felt like I knew who I am. I knew I could trust it because it made me feel complete, that confused feeling was no longer there, but it was still a secret.

2.  It was not until I was in the 10th grade that I came out as transgender. I was really difficult because I was so used to hiding myself, but when my friends gave me the courage I needed I was unstoppable. I was finally being myself. I was wearing make-up and the clothes I wanted to wear. I truly believe I was a happier person once I came out. I started to regain that light I lost as kid. I wanted to spread my pretty colors everywhere! I had to show everyone that I had found my place in this world and that is anywhere I choose to be.

4. It is really different living as myself. I never thought that this would be happening. Before I felt like I was always trying to squeeze into jeans that were 6 sizes too small, but now it feels like am in jeans that were made just for me. I don’t feel uncomfortable. I am not always sad or overly upset. I am free. I now feel like I have a purpose. I no longer wake up hating myself or this world that does not understand me. I wake up with a smile, not because my life is so great, but because I love who I am. We will not hide anymore!

5. Have people you know been supportive?

Yes, I have a really great support system. My friends and family loves me for me and I am so grateful, but I mean not everyone I have told supports me.  It is something that comes with being transgender. People come and go in life and it hurts, however life goes on. I was told by my aunt that I am not in charge of anyone’s happiness, but my own. I strongly agree! If you support me I have room your opinions and ideas, but if you don’t you should have nothing to say about what I am or what I do in my life.  

Photo by Annie Tritt

anyway trans girls belong in safe spaces for women. trans lesbians belong in lesbian safe spaces. trans girls deserve better than what the world has to offer.