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Q. I have a rather boring question: I’m a 20-something virgin who wants to take the plunge and get herself a vibrator but I have no clue what to look out for. Any tips to help there be some rain in this desert? (more…)
Q. I’m fourteen and masturbate very frequently — especially when it’s close to my period. And sometimes during (I read that it can relieve cramps… it works). However I’m not sure if this is normal. Can you tell me if this unusual or unhealthy? (more…)
The first time I saw Madonna’s “Justify My Love” music video, I was only about 6 or 7 years old. It was playing on a late night music video show on MTV, and because I always had minimal supervision, I saw the whole music video without interruption, or fear of my parents finding out. I watched in awe and discomfort, instantly intrigued by the vivid images and movements between Madonna and the…
Q. How does someone who is accomplished at giving themselves orgasms do it with a partner? Like not let their mind wander off and think of all the ways that they can do a better job of giving the orgasm, instead of focusing on what is happening at the moment? How can one enjoy someone else’s technique? (more…)
My wife and I put Uncle Sam’s money to good use. Not only did we pay for our upcoming honeymoon to Portland, we finally bought a toy we had been coveting for a year or so. I had heard amazing reviews from my friends especially from a few trans friends about how awesome the Hitachi Magic Wand was. We had to feel this for ourselves. (more…)
This Week in Misogyny (and Other Assorted F#@%ery)
I don’t know about you, but I’m exhausted from the ups and downs in the news this week. Wendy Davis…
All For One, One For Lube: What Lube To Use?
Q. What is the best silicone lube? (more…)
Performance As Play: Masturbation With An Audience
Q. I have a goal: I would like to masturbate in front of my boyfriend. But whenever I try to, I end…
Q: I masturbate a lot, and today I masturbated on my period. Is that normal?
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But today, I want to address erotic/sensual/sexual pleasure. The reason I want to address it is that I encounter a lot of clients who have given up on it or feel unduly stressed out just thinking about it. And really, that makes sense. If you're struggling with body image issues, it's hard to enjoy your body. It's hard to be naked. You're often waiting for that magical day when you lose x number of pounds, get a nose job, or basically have a different body. Perhaps you avoid or avoid sex altogether because of how you feel about your body. And these body image issues affect a wide range of people, even people who may be perceived as having an ideal body.
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I feel like we (as in adults, men and women both) take for granted that we all just intuitively know how to pleasure ourselves. Most people I know, myself included, stumbled upon this great spot that felt good when I was young and just sorta figured it out. I started rubbing it, the rubbing felt good, I had my first orgasm, and I’ve been rubbing that same spot ever since with an ever increasing collection of accessories. But, what happens when you don’t stumble upon that spot and you don’t figure it out? It’s not really a part of our culture that our parents or a friend are supposed to sit us down and show us how to do it like riding a bike or balancing a check book.
I’ve been surprised over the last few years how many adult women I’ve met (I’ve yet to meet a man who hadn’t figured out how to jerk off. I’m sure he exists, though) who haven’t ever had an orgasm because they simply don’t understand how to make that happen. While I will continue to remind you that you will need to figure out your sexuality and what turns you on, I think I can at least get you started. First we need to discuss what you’re working with “down there.”
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From the article:
"You have vibrators, right?" I asked. They both tittered and teehee'd like embarrassed schoolgirls, exclaiming that, no, they did not. My girlfriend and I looked at each other, aghast. How had these young women reached adulthood without obtaining toys designed for their pleasure? I think I bought my first one when I was pretty young, around 16, but I had discovered the joys of back massagers long before that. They both claimed that they didn't need anything like that, that they were capable of having orgasms through vaginal sex alone, to which I, in my head, called bullshit. While they may be among the small percentage of women who can, I doubt that both of them are able to, and then I got sad that perhaps they actually hadn't ever had an orgasm. After hearing stories of the men they had dated, they didn't seem to pick the most giving and charitable partners, so it wasn't an assumption made with no back-up.
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