So Ineffable

girl help I'm getting they/them'd by well-meaning people who don't know what a tomboy is

This feeling is strange and complicated. On the one hand it's legit quite cool that nonbinary pronouns are becoming more widespread! On the other, I've spent my whole life pursuing interests and hobbies and ideals that weren't seen as particularly feminine, and when I was younger this was a major source of bullying and stress alongside some generalized misogyny taking the form of "you can't do or be anything you think is cool because you are innately inferior and to do otherwise means violating your nature," and it took me a while to conclude that this was just straight horseshit top to bottom and I could do whatever I wanted and present myself however I wanted without in any way being Not A Girl, and now it's like the exact same concept has flipped sides and is coming from a point of theoretical validation but still calculates out to "that's not very ladylike of you, you must be something else". anyway she/her thanks gang

I think it's like. the understanding that the gender binary is a small part of a much wider space of identities is separate from the understanding that a lot of that gender binary is a false dichotomy that artificially walls off universal human experiences behind specific pronouns and while the first concept is gaining wider understanding the second is lagging a little, which means "I am a girl and I like doing boy things" reads as "oh I've heard about this, you must be one of the Others who don't do the binary" rather than "the concept of 'boy things' is stupid from the jump"

just to be 100% clear

what this post is NOT talking about: using they/them pronouns for someone you don't know, aren't sure of, hasn't had a chance to introduce themselves, etc.

what this post IS talking about: my highly personal experience seeing some people "correcting" my commenters that were using she/her pronouns for me, because, despite me exclusively using she/her pronouns and saying so whenever asked, through no action of mine they had gotten the idea that I was using "they/them".

girl help I put a nuanced personal experience on the reading comprehension website

I love you Mint Condition i love you dean locking himself away in his room and laying on his bed with his cuffed jeans and one layer on i love you dean eating food and watching movies that comfort him because theres a bunch of strangers in his home i love you caring sam that can see that deans hurting i love you dean having a goofy interest thats shown to have an absolutely heartbreaking origin i love you random side characters learning things about dean that sam doesnt know i love you classic goofy 80s horror movie spn with subtle but amazing character work

im so normal about michael sheen's nose

Here are some pictures from my phone with Michael Sheen in them...

As a mom of a two-year-old, I'm finding these photos of Amanda Palmer nursing their toddler on the bench next to MS/ Aziraphale like important and blessed in a really deep way.

This scene goes unappreciated and it doesn’t deserve to!

I just gotta point out Gabriel’s reaction here. It would’ve been so easy to make him a selfish coward who hides behind others to keep himself safe.

But, no. Hellfire is being blown at them and Gabriel’s first instinct is to throw out his arms for Sandalphon and Uriel, shielding them. They even look to him for protection as they hold onto him. (Makes me wonder about some other times he’s protected them)