Last night as a 22 year old and aging like fine wine. Going to a house party for the night before my party, my fro is crazy beautiful even the delivery guy was like woah you look beautiful :3

Gosh

The one good thing about journaling or having a social media account is you get to see your growth, and holy shit have I had character growth, like before tumblr I met some people who helped me realize what values and things were important to me and I'm just so glad i'm not that person anymore. Was kinda upset and horrified to see that I posted such crap and just accepted it as the status quo. Like I had transphobic stuff on my page, I never realized how it could be seen as hateful and I'm so glad I realised I wouldn't stand for anything like that again but it's funny I would have unfriended high school me for that stuff. 

Goes to show , you can grow, ignorance is not an excuse and you can make amends genuinely and change your ways. And you don't do it caus you get a special "ally" cookie , you do it because it's human decency and you shouldn't get congratulated for being decent.

And guess what i'm not finished growing yet.

something i'm working on this year is when I see someone going through stuff, is to not necessarily jump in and try and help because sometimes people don't want you in their process or you end up doing more harm than good. I know I do it out of the desire to be what I'd like people to be for me but it's not always welcome or appropriate. That being said, I refuse to be a bystander if people actually want some input/help from me, it just means especially online, I need to be more careful about where I jump in.