@painandpleasure86 / painandpleasure86.tumblr.com
I’m trying to prove something.
Reblog if your blog is a safe place for asexuals.
I don’t need to reblog it to say that this blog is a safe place for all LGBT ppl (and that includes ace ones 🥰), but this is a good excuse to say it. 🖤💜🤍⚫️
One year later...
I'm grayace, of course aces are valid on my blog! Any kind of aces!!! We're a wide spectrum, full of different experiences... 🥺💜
Trying not to laugh when the nurse very quietly and gently reminds me that I need to 'abstain' from trying to conceive for a month after my MMR vaccine.
Lady, don't worry: NOT having sex is my default setting.
I know that when I'll have my next Papanicolau & Colposcopy I'll can be 3 days without sex easily lol.
Yay my friends saying I'm too innocent to talk about kinks because I'm asexual. Yay thank you :)
Hate that misconception that allo people have about asexuals. We aren't innocent doves. We understand sex...
Any other aromantic, asexual, or aro ace people write smut or romance? I've had fans tell me my work is really good, despite me being aroace and having no experience with that shit 😭
In my case, I always loved writing romance/romantic shit, smut looks so hard to me. I tried it twice and it wasn't my best.
And I'm asexual (graysexual more specifically) 😅💕
sex is weird and i never want to do it ever
Sometimes I wish to not engage in sex anymore, I'm pretty fine without it, but it's impossible having an allo partner :(
your past does not determine what you can identify as
THISSSSS.
I wasn't "the stereotypical ace teen" that didn't understand the concept of crushes or the idea to have sex.
Also, I was quite femenine my whole life. My doubts about my gender identity came recently, because I don't fit the women "norm" of makeup, stilettos, go to shopping, having a full wardrobe with 1837188137 outfits, depilate my face, style my hair and waste a lot of time taking care of it, I'm not The Toxic Partner(TM) that doesn't trust their partner... and so on.
Well, enough rambling lol. When I come with a better idea of my gender identity, I'll post it.
You know your experiences, you know what you've been through. Nobody else can say that but you.
You can use very specific labels to describe your identity as accurate as possible. You can use vague or unspecific labels. You can use labels that don't exactly describe your experiences, or don't describe all of them, but still describes it closely enough to be useful. You can use no labels. You can label yourself in whatever way works best for you.
asexuality is not innocence. if they think it's just a bunch of smol uwu beans, they'll think they can kick us out with no biting back. be fucking indecent. break shit and get dirty and fight for your right to exist. let the rest of the queer folks know that we will stand alongside them, and let those who would see us expelled know that we'll fucking fight.
💜Happy ace week! 💜
Your aceness is valid in whatever form it takes/whereever you are on the spectrum, and someone not understanding your sexuality doesn’t make you wrong or any less valid.
You are great just the way you are.
happy ace week
Sorry my delay, here's my little story:
I thought my whole life that I was heterosexual, even I fantasized a lot with “enjoying sex with the one” (I was raised in a religious family). Even when I started to date my partner, I was open to have sex (but I was too shy to undress in front of other person… so it were baby steps in that).
But the problem started to be visible when I started to stay the weekend with him. We talked about “my lack of initiative” and “my lack of sexual desire” countless times, even I started to worry, thinking I was wrong.
It went even worse when we started to live together, I wasn't up to sex even less than before... and that exploded last December, when my partner was losing his patience waiting to fix myself. So, I confessed the whole problem to my psychologist, and she told me that we could try some techniques to make more visible my existent sexual desire.
My psychologist's advice worked until last August, where we had a brief split up with my partner (for two weeks). In these weeks, I realized that what I missed the most were the hugs, the kisses, the acts of love; I was fine without any sex. But, really fine. Even I “joked” with my psychologist saying “I'm in an asexual era”. I didn't expect the realization I'd make some days later...
When we came back to live together, he started to ask for sex, I started to reject him, saying what I've missed the most. I said "I think i'm in the asexual spectrum". So, after he went to bed and sleep, I started to search about asexuality. I almost ended being defeated, I wasn't finding myself... Until I saw a hyperlink that said graysexual. I thought "well, I'll read its article just in case". And while I was reading the article, the truth was revealed. My situation has a name. I wasn't broken.
Since that night, I started to feel more free, more happy... and relieved.
I'm like this, take it or leave it.
Last but not least, thanks to this I'm questioning another things, like my gender identity, which wasn't that femenine lately... let's see where it leads.
Credits for the first image with the cat: @meoskyan
hope everyone on the asexual spectrum had a great ace week !!
Mine was the first one, I'm so happy 💕 I was waiting the whole month of October to celebrate it!!!
Sending a good friendly hug to you 🤗
I just learned that it was Asexual Awareness Week and today is the last day. (;_;)
Tho it did give me some inspo to draw something to commemorate the fact I found out I was greysexual this week!
Also if your ace spec and you haven’t been told this yet today, don’t let anyone tell you you aren’t valid. Whether you’re ace, grey, cupio, demi, or any part of the spectrum, you’re just as worthy of being respected and accepted as anyone else. Don’t let shit talkers keep you down. Stand your ground and don’t be afraid to make yourself known. I love y’all(platonically lmao) and hopefully y’all have a good rest of your day!
-Karma💜🩶🤍🩶💜
Welcome pal!!
While I was transferring over files to my new PC earlier this year, I found a word document I don't remember writing, talking about my feelings as an asexual person being ace in the current day
This is something Ive worked on for so long I don't even know if it's good anymore, but please take it regardless 🖤🩶🤍💜
(this is a repost because the flow was off and I figured out what the issue was, so this is the new and improved version. I can eat my cake in peace)
happy asexual awareness week!! here are some transparent pride hearts for you to use if you want: asexual, aspec, fraysexual, demisexual, graysexual, reciprosexual, lithsexual, apothisexual, abrosexual, aceflux, cupiosexual, and aegosexual! let me know if you want any more!!
Happy ace week to all asexuals, wherever you are on the spectrum!!!
