Our Trans Experience

My trans experience lately is befriending other trans people and then finding out their NSFW is full of violent transphobia and misgendering stuff that feels like a real TERF blog and suddenly not feeling safe around them anymore.

Like if you think something this transphobic and awful is hot, what do you actually think about me as a real trans person...? Especially if you send me that stuff without my consent and I can't tell if you're a real TERF or not? 😬😭😥

Like how can I trust people without wondering if they actually see me as my agab and want to force me back in the closet if that's what they talk about as being attractive? 😰

Hey, things are really tough for trans kids rn, especially in America but also in the UK and everywhere else. Community and connecting with others is more important than ever, so I just wanted to say that my inbox is always open at @our-trans-youth-experience and we have an amazing community and safe space with over 900 trans youth! I hope this helps some of the kids that are scared about the current situation or just want someone to talk to <3

Note: if anyone wants, the blog also has an attached community called "our-trans-youth-community! " which is super chill and a nice place to chat and hang out with other trans, nonbinary, and gender nonconforming youth :)

Stay safe, stay alive, and stay together

-Sage [he/they/neos]

I'm a trans man and today is my birthday, I received messages from friends and family alike and was happy if even a little uncomfortable because I have been deadnamed (because I haven't come out to most of my family), but mostly happy.

Yet I've been referred as 'female friend' by a person that I thought that was my friend for more than half of my life (13 years), when I came out to her 2 years ago, in my birthday...

It just made me sad, I feel betrayed even when she wasn't exactly an ally, but I thought she was trying.

I've been losing many friends (trans and cis) as the years go by and feel more and more lonely, and the worst part is that she's best friends with one of my dearest friends. I'm afraid of losing this other person too.

Maybe I should move from here and leave everything behind but my dog, I think most people won't miss me, not really. Maybe there's something inherently wrong with me? And that's why things just don't work with me and people, maybe I should stop trying to make friends and flee away from here.

im so sick of having a massive saggy chest i cant exercise or do fuckiny anything without getting extremely uncomfortable because even in the only functional binder ive been able to find shit keeps moving around and i hate it so so much. genuinely especially since im on t i think 99% of the hatred i have towards my body would be gone if i got top surgery

(16, she/her, transfem enby)

yknow how for a lot of ppl say that estrogen makes you gain weight and look like your mom?

im scared that when i transition, ill get obese and ill end up looking like my mom, the woman i fear the most and who has hindered my journey

im scared of lookin gin the mirror and getting scared

im scared that i can only choose between looking like a boy and looking like my mom

im scared that im doomed to never be my own person and can only be someone else

hello! I was wondering on if you had any information for what T would do to my voice ? hopefully make it lower but i'm a musical theatre singer and i would still like my voice to sound.. good. would it be like puberty? voice cracks and weird stuff? or just straight down

is it at all possible to be loved if you're pretransition? asking for a friend

i'm a transman and i'm so afraid no man will ever love me. i hate myself and my body i wish i was on t and had top surgery already!! no man will love me until i transition fully because my body is so disgusting :'(

I truly believe the term femboy pushed the trans community back a few years. its a transphobic fetish in the same vein as trap and was used to fetishize transfems! but now its looped around to fetishize transmascs too! I can't tell you the amount of times creepy chasers have only talked to me cause they think I'm gonna be their femboy fetish, and think I'm a cis woman. its so gross and dehumanizing. not to mention that literally ANY guy, trans, cis, or otherwise, can't be the least bit feminine or gnc without immediately being called a fucking femboy. unless you're hyper masculine, you get called a femboy regardless. even guys who are masculine but not PEAK masculine get called femboys???? like. cmon

femboy is the worst term people have come up with and I wish it would die already. I don't trust anyone who uses the term

I had a dream that I asked my mom for a binder and it went kinda wrong

and my response to her was "why do you want your child to be insecure"

- water boy

Had a shower thought

Even if my mom hadn't said i will have saggy tits by 20, that i barely have boobs and that my boobs are small (im a TEENAGER) i'd have still gotten rid of my boobs when I can transition but like

That shit is so damaging for teens. Like if I was a cis girl, could you imagine my body image? My self worth? I bet girls who get told that and who want boobs will do anything for a fucking boob job because they feel inadequate and thats just so sick and awful.

To anyone who has major boob dysphoria, regardless of gender, please understand that you should only alter your body because you want to. Dont let anyone bully you into that shit.

Your parents will be your biggest bullies. Don't let them ever win. Much love <3

my nephew has a habit of sticking to men over women and he is extremely attatched to me. every one else is all like "oh you're the only woman he likes!" while I sit there in closeted trans person like 👁️👄👁️

im dysphoric and realized this at 11 and did everything to try to pass as male and i think it worked and most strangers did think i was male but i wasnt out to anyone i knew. but after like a year for a bunch of different reasons i thought that this maybe wasnt the best solution for me. so i started presenting more femininely even tho i mostly hated it. anyways fast forward to now im 16 and i changed my mind i wanna go back but i only have girl clothes and i feel bad if i gave them away/sold them because my mom really likes them and she spent lots of money on them. so im kinda lost idk what to do. sorry if this doesn't make sense im kinda sleep deprived rn

sorry if this isnt an advice blog just ignore this in that case

any tips on how to come out to your mom if she's kinda like ehhh on trans people - mainly trans women and I'm transmasc | I've asked her what she would do if I came out and she said she'd love me no matter what I'm just nervous

- water boy

I just recently came out as trans to my mom and she was supportive and stuff, it was great. But for some reason I’ve felt really weird ever since then, I don’t know how to describe it. How is it supposed to feel? I feel like I’m too young to come out (even though I know I’m trans and don’t feel like I’m too young to be) or like, I was supposed to wait or something. Really I have no idea how to describe it other than it doesn’t feel right

I wanted to start binding. I already know a lot about chest binding, but can somebody tell me more about hips? My hips are so fuckung feminine, my dysphoria is terrible about them, so are there any binders for hips? And if so, are they safe?

I'd be grateful for your advice.

I sent another ask that I doubt will be publish (I SENT IT TO NOT THIS BLOG ON ACCIDENT 😭)

But y'all

Lets spread love, not hate okay? It's not cool to devalue others experiences and its not cool to say another persons experience is less than anothers

Transphobia sucks and its different for everyone so instead of infighting and destroying each other, like what transphobes see as a faster was to get rid of all of us, we explode transphobes together

Just tired of the hateful rhetoric :(

Much love to everyone