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Hey! It's me the girl with the INTP Friend and the squad-story. I've seen someone else ask the question if one could change their type and I have about the same question, but with another story: My younger sister (almost 13 years, if that helps answering my question) did the MBTI-Test not much more than a year ago and just a few days ago and got different results. Seems like I need to write two messages again, sorry, this was part one

part two: A year ago, she was an ESFP and now she said she got ISFJ, what surprised me, especially the “I” because if anyone is extroverted it’s my sister. The thing is, when she got ESFP, I sat beside her when she did the test while the other time I didn’t. Do you think there’s any logical explanation for this change, besides she wasn’t quite honest when she did it on her own? That’s possible, but unlikely. I’m a little confused, please help :)—————————————————————————————-

Hello there, so good to hear from you and to see that you created an mbti blog in the end. On your friend:

I can think of two main reasons, not mutually exclusive:

12 might be too young, we are all slowly developing and outlining our personality throughout the teenage years.
I don’t think binomial tests are too accurate. Binomial in the sense that you are EITHER e.g. S or N. That’s why I am into the cognitive functions theory. Basically, we all have the 8 functions (Ni, Ne, Si, Se, etc.) it is the order of the functions that changes and defines each personality type. There are tests based on the cognitive functions and that might give you a hint. However, I think one of the best ways to type someone is reading on the cognitive functions themselves in order to really understand them, as well as the function order (primary function, auxiliary function, etc.); after an introspective analysis, one might find themselves more in sync with some functions than others (e.g. if auxiliary Fe resonates with you).

We have previous posts on cognitive functions in case that helps you. If you are interested, send us a message and I can try to recommend you some sources.

– INTJ

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Anonymous asked:

I'm an INTJ, I'm a good friend of this INTJ girl. I never ever had feelings for someone before, now all of a sudden I don't know what is happening to me, I feel things, we are friends only but I feel things, which is weird. should I talk to her less to kill the feelings? I don't want to say something and lose her! feelings are confusing! what to do?

Hello my dude, chilax. Feelings are tubular, I promise.

Your feelings don’t have to get in the way of the relationship, really. Just keep going with your gut. You miss her and feel like meeting her? Ask her to go for a walk or something. Repressing feelings never works, even though it makes you guys (INTJ) feel in control of them. What you are really doing is making them stronger until they can overrule you.

You can’t lose people, bro. You just never have anyone to begin with. Just appreciate you came across someone so amazing it makes you feel the feels and enjoy the time you have with her.

– INFJ

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Anonymous asked:

Just read your IXTJs being IXTJs post. Reminds me of how seamless and easy it is to converse and make plans with other XXTJs. I just recently tried putting something together with an ESFP close friend of mine, and he doesn’t even want to give me at least a hint of time or any kind of schedule – he just says “just trust me, I’ll get it to you”. And I’m like, eisuebdjuxrhid it’s difficult for me to naturally do that can’t you just give me at least an estimate of time? He refuses. - INTJ

Oh, I get the struggle. To be fair, these pseudo-science theories can actually help understanding how different people have different minds that work in diverse ways. When I spot xxFPs I try to focus on the advantages of their spontaneity rather than on the downsides. You can be the one setting the major points of a schedule (or just abstractly having them in mind if the xxFP gets overwhelmed by too many plans) and see what they provide you that you lack. I mean, as long as their laxity does not imply irresponsibility when results affect you, I’d try not to stress too much about it – better for you!

– your fellow INTJ

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Anonymous asked:

I have a very unpopular opinion. As INTJ female and I dont like ENFPs males, like, at all. I would never in my life date or befriend one. I dont know if it is the ones I know, but their logic is broken and they don't accept the DONT KNOW WTF THEY ARE TALKING ABOUT, as well as like to make fun of everything, even pretty serious things that you just shouldnt make fun of, at least not in front of some particular people. Females ENFPs tho, they are sweet hearts and I'll protect them with my life.

Oh, sweet innocent rational human.

I mean, usually if you hate a type it means you have found pretty annoying people with said type, but if it is consistent enough it probably means that there are things that might make you clash.

I don’t think that’s a problem though. We can’t like everyone and that’s fine.

However, if you want to hear me out, as a dirty feeler, I could point out how people like that tend to work (in my opinion). Maybe if you understand them better, it is easier to deal.

I am not talking about ENFPs (they can be different as you have point out), but about that specific type of sensitive jerk (that I am very close to).

So:

Sometimes I make jokes for the sake of jokes. I have no idea why. It’s like I can’t miss the chance. Sometimes I even say things I don’t believe, for the joke. Super irrational, honestly. But INTJ deals with me now, usually giving me a very stern look and either saying “Really?” or “Dude, not funny”. And I usually agree, and slowly I am less shitty about it. If they keep insisting that something upsetting to you is funny for them and therefore okay to say, they are just pretty entitled and have little empathy. If they are not very important in your life, I usually don’t bother explaining why it’s wrong because they don’t listen. Just have formal contact and keep in mind they are not worth making you upset.
-Feelings are not irrational! Feelings are amazing dude. Feelings /can/ be irrational, and when they are they are the worst guides.

In the end, I think it’s the way society presents some characteristics as acceptable and even necessary for some genders. You could probably meet an INFJ guy, or an ESTP guy just as annoying in a similar way (with differences based on their characteristics). Some guys truly believe everything they have to say is extremely valuable and overestimate it to a degree it comes as absurd for someone more informed on the topic. And there is this notion around that being offensive and ignoring everyone’s feelings is cool and should be recommended. So when this things mix, you get overconfident assholes that believe they are god’s gift to this world, while they repeat the same four unfunny jokes all the other assholes like them say.

So… Yeah.– INFJ

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01-25 asked:

P.S. I'm in love with your blog. I may be projecting cause my bff is an INFJ, but I feel so related to everything you two post, and I've learned so much (aka my fav thing to do ever)

Thank you so much! We probably have a lot in common. We’ve seen that we INxJs only seem original in the outer world because we respond to scarce patterns. But we’re so stereotypical.

PS: INTJ’s favourite thing to do ever is learning. And INFJ’s too, although the nerd might state otherwise.

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