I've always been an INTJ on the MBTI test (via 16personalities)- however I decided to redo it. And this time around I've landed on INFJ. There's a lot there that's relatable. But one thing bothers me. I am not that emotional when it comes to me. When it comes to others, yes. Logic sometimes drifts, because I feel like I have to work on compassion in relationships. But when the focus on me, I'm 100% logical and take a rational approach. Can these co-exist? And would that fall under INTJ or INFJ?
Welcome to the blog!Let’s try to define your type once and for all! =)
Option 1: Trying other binary tests
The thing about 16personalities (as much as I’ve used it in the past as a tool for character description when I write) and these sort of tests is that they are too binomial. They rely only in binary choices (you’re either one option or the other, eg. Feeling or Thinking) and in cases where this differentiation is not sharp enough (your F vs. T), it can end up sorting you into different types, which is what happened here.
Option 2: Trying cognitive functions tests
Since I only want to recommend you sites that I’ve used, I can only suggest this one: http://www.keys2cognition.com/explore.htm I find it useful but difficult to answer for some reason. Plus, it sometimes types me as ENTJ because of my strong Te, but I’m positive that my dominant function is Ni and that I’m an introvert.
Option 3: Understanding cognitive functions and typing yourself
Let’s be honest, this is my favourite option. Why rely on tests when you can read the theory, understand it yourself and apply it on your own?Since I don’t want to bore you with too much technical information, I’ll just mention the most important points. INTJ and INFJ have similar functions:
- INTJ: Ni - Te - Fi - Se
- INFJ: Ni - Fe - Ti - Se
Basically both types share the same dominant and inferior functions. Our work here is to see wether your auxiliary function is Te (INTJ) or Fe (INFJ). Both Te and Fe are extraverted and perceiving functions. This means that: a) they are focused on the outer world and its events; b) they are used in the process of decision-making. Now let’s spot their differences:
Te (extraverted thinking) – used by INTJ as the auxiliary function
Te uses objective facts when making decisions about the external world.It values structural order and consistency, it tries to understand and organize the environment and its elements.
Fe (extraverted feeling) – used by INFJ as the auxiliary function
Fe strives for interpersonal peace. Fe users are good at understanding the needs of others as well as their feelings, motivations, etc. It is generally based on collective rather than individual values.
I think the best hint to see wether you are a Te or a Fe user is analyzing how you make decisions.
- INTJ: you make decisions based on what you think.
- INFJ: you make decisions based on what you feel.
This has nothing to do with having feelings or not. I can be a very emotional being (a fact that surprises many people for some reason). I have emotions as a result of the situations that I am in and its circumstances, I just don’t act on them. My decision making process is based on what I believe is the best option and not the one that feels like the best one. The difference might sound subtle but it is not. It also has a lot to do with your priorities.
Bonus: comparing myself to INFJ
Note: this is a subjective comparison between two specific individuals (me and the INFJ moderator of this blog) based on my own observations. What applies to us does not necessarily apply to other INTJs and INFJs.
Priorities: – INFJ: values the option that is most likely to assure emotional stability, well-being, feeling safe, comfort, their own happiness or the happiness of others.– INTJ: values the option that is most likely to assure success (whatever definition it might have for each individual), what is better for the long-run no matter how unpleasant.
Orientation:– INFJ: emotion-oriented (”I don’t feel like doing this”) –INTJ: duty-oriented (”So what?”)Emotional support: – INFJ: is a very good listener. Offers both real emotional support and ways to deal with it (focusing on the first one). – INTJ: tell them your problems and they’ll help you deal with them and take action. Don’t expect any other kind of support (”why are people telling me this if they don’t want to deal with it? What’s the purpose of useless whining?”)
Socialisation: Imagine this situation: INFJ and INTJ are in any sort of social event and they want to leave. – INFJ: can’t leave because “what if someone gets upset”. – INTJ: “lol, bye”.
Guilt:– INFJ: “If someone feels upset because of something I said, it’s probably my fault”. – INTJ: “If someone feels upset because of something I said, it’s probably their problem”.
Please let us know if there’s any point in particular that you want us to analyse more in depth.