56, Butch, Gender Critical

the amount of women out here theorycrafting heinously pseudoscientific and delusional copes for why the men they date act like they don’t give a fuck about her makes me want to tear my hair out. i lose 6 months off my life every time i hear about “anxious attachment.” please get real

he ignores you for days at a time because he doesn’t care. he ghosts after sex because that is all he wanted from you. he strings you along but refuses an exclusive relationship because he does not want to date you. he won’t introduce you to his friends because you are not one of his friends. he doesn’t do his share of the housework because he thinks you should do it. he acts inconsiderate because he does not think about you. his words don’t match his actions because the words are lies.

postulating about his “attachment style” and his “unhealed trauma” and his “neurodivergence” and the deep conflicting reasons for his behavior is a waste of your fucking time. he acts like he doesn’t like you because he does not like you, and because he can get away with it. y’all are making up a whole different man in your head because you so badly want to believe he isn’t a womanhating parasite. you are imagining a soul in the dried up corpse of a roach. you are projecting depth and vulnerability onto a dog shit wedged in your shoe. stop giving losers the benefit of the doubt PLEASE i am on my knees like a dog BEGGING all women

It’s insane that the actual definition of the 4B movement is no sex, dating, marriage, or pregnancy with men, and leftists online think that is just too exclusive! Therefore, you must include trans women in your dating pool. They cannot be grouped with men, that’s transphobic! And excluding all men means excluding black and asian men, and that’s also racist! And gay men wanna practice 4B, too! So instead, they’ll only fuck other openly gay men! Because excluding DL men from your sex pool is exactly the same as a woman refusing to date her oppressor, apparently. Oh, and it’s only for MAGA men! So your liberal Jakey is fine! He voted FOR your rights, so how can he be viewed as an evil man??

Like it’s exclusive for a reason!!! If you don’t want to stop dating men, then just say that instead of trying to worm your way into a movement.

Oh look the ‘not all men’ movement is trying to get into your pants.

Men can never grasp what it feels like to risk IMPREGNATION.

garden variety conservative transphobia is going to get worse but radical feminism is also going to get worse. if youre a cis women terfs are going to try to recruit you and make you believe that the reason your rights are at stake is because of trans people. they're going to tell you that all men are your violent oppressors and they're going to include trans women in that category. they're gonna tell you about women who are gender traitors and joined the enemy and they're going to point to trans men. don't believe them. trans people are not your enemy, we have no power over you, and we desperately need your support and your solidarity.

be aware of radfem pipelines and dog whistles too. be skeptical of anyone that talks about the divine feminine or correlates birthing, menstruating, or female reproductive organs with womanhood. be especially skeptical of people who use those biological things as reasons to why women are more spiritual, or more in tune with nature, or just that they're better than men (read: anyone they decide is a man)

radical feminism is an expected reactionary outcome from cis women who are being oppressed by conservatives, especially when all they practice is ciscentric, liberal, white feminism. they feel the need to be radicalized but don't have the experience and information to pinpoint the true source of their suffering. trans people are not your enemy, AMAB people are not your enemy, anyone who identifies as a man is not your enemy. we're all being crushed under the same stone

Adding to this that if you’re a trans man or afab nb then TERFs will ALSO try to recruit you. They already do; they’ll just work more at it now.

I didn’t realize TERFs had a recruitment process pls elaborate further. What are the steps is it like AA.

sign me up for the radfem army

I’m just here for the answer to finding out the enemy of women’s reproductive rights that’s ISNT men but… a stone apparently? Is that an especially incoherent metaphor?

why are the people on social media clamoring for a revolution always the kind of people you wouldn’t trust to run a bake sale

yesterday there was a "dyke*-festival" in berlin and initially i wanted to go, but then i looked up their website and found out that straight males have access but god forbid you think that lesbians are homosexual (exclusively same-sex attracted) women (adult female humans).

this should tell you everything about the current state of the lesbian community. lesbophobic and male-centered.

after we went to a lesbian bar and found this:

remember kids: sexual violence and harassment is okay if your target is a woman that disagrees with you!

in the swing state of PA the ads about boys in girls bathroom and on girls teams ran constantly. i really do believe it had a massive impact on the way white women voted.

I’m 100% done with anti-trans politics. Online radfems are fucking blind to the fact that this has become little more than rage bait, about an issue that directly affects very few of those obsessed with it. Meanwhile women who can’t access abortion anymore are dying. Fuck terminally online radical feminism. Women who focus on this above everything else are just pawns for fascists.

I'm not sure why OP assumes this only influences white women - is there any evidence to support that? I think MOST parents find this unfair, that's why those ads are running - because it matters to people. Men don't really care about women's sports or safety, but parents don't like the idea of this stuff affecting their kids.

And if the left keep ignoring reasonable protections needed for women and girls then it's an easy win for conservatives. Why shouldn't they make political gains on it? It won't matter if you have the input of feminists or detrans people or not, the story writes itself. The whole idea is as crazy to most people as flat earth conspiracies.

Now, if people decided that they should be single-issue voters who decide Palestine and gender critical policies are their sole consideration in voting for Trump or 3rd candidates, or just stay home... well they're about to find out why coalition politics return much better outcomes. But to really learn the lesson here, the left has to put aside its sense of moral purity and sustain a coalition where you don't get crucified for questioning 1 or 2 of the 6 impossible things you're supposed to believe before breakfast.

i actually didnt say it ONLY influences white women. just that it did influence white women. why? because i am a white woman in white womens communities. that was all.

Ok that makes sense of your perspective then but you do make it sound like hard fact. I do feel like women - in particular - are a bit too eager to assume that this election is somehow all women’s fault - Harris wasn’t nice enough, or too nice, or women were too easily duped. It’s something the left has been doing to women for a long time - everything going wrong is a white Karen’s fault! We’ve got to stop that. Figuring out what happened will take time and data, but trump won the popular vote this time. In some ways this has nothing to do with feminists, or white women, or the first women of color candidate, there were 5 million new voters who found trumps message appealing including people who lefties thought were sure bets who’d be offended by trump. Turns out they weren’t. That’s why he won. Now the dems have to figure out why, and I don’t believe simple answers are going to give us insights to really learn from this lesson.

in the swing state of PA the ads about boys in girls bathroom and on girls teams ran constantly. i really do believe it had a massive impact on the way white women voted.

I’m 100% done with anti-trans politics. Online radfems are fucking blind to the fact that this has become little more than rage bait, about an issue that directly affects very few of those obsessed with it. Meanwhile women who can’t access abortion anymore are dying. Fuck terminally online radical feminism. Women who focus on this above everything else are just pawns for fascists.

I'm not sure why OP assumes this only influences white women - is there any evidence to support that? I think MOST parents find this unfair, that's why those ads are running - because it matters to people. Men don't really care about women's sports or safety, but parents don't like the idea of this stuff affecting their kids.

And if the left keep ignoring reasonable protections needed for women and girls then it's an easy win for conservatives. Why shouldn't they make political gains on it? It won't matter if you have the input of feminists or detrans people or not, the story writes itself. The whole idea is as crazy to most people as flat earth conspiracies.

Now, if people decided that they should be single-issue voters who decide Palestine and gender critical policies are their sole consideration in voting for Trump or 3rd candidates, or just stay home... well they're about to find out why coalition politics return much better outcomes. But to really learn the lesson here, the left has to put aside its sense of moral purity and sustain a coalition where you don't get crucified for questioning 1 or 2 of the 6 impossible things you're supposed to believe before breakfast.

god i wish that fucking kid didnt have such bad aim

stop that. assassination undermines democracy.

kamala would've won if she wasn't being deeply unserious n unprofessional and just answered questions about the genocide fr

Are you serious?

How can so many people be this fucking stupid

Because someone bothered to listen to them and their fears. If the lefty message didn't get through, or didn't appeal to people, then honestly it's on the losers to realize why they lost.

will never get over what happened to the women’s march. the largest single-day protest in the history of the WORLD. 82 countries and 7 million people. an incredible display of female solidarity, hope, strength, and resistance. reduced to “white women in pussy hats.” not by conservatives but by leftists!! who gleefully dismissed this enormous protest because “white women voted for trump.” never mind that the women who attended the march very obviously did not vote for trump. they were all vilified anyway, even though a huge percentage of the protestors and organizers weren’t even white. the whole protest somehow came to be seen as a cringey, frivolous display of white woman privilege. again, the women’s march was GLOBAL and unprecedented in WORLD history. yet it’s pretty much never talked about anymore, except to joke about pussy hats.

hearing a political analyst on the news say that "the democrats clearly misread how high on the priority list that women's rights are for the average american" is just so chilling

Women are trained to care about everyone except women. Men have incredible solidarity when it comes to defeating a woman threatening their turf.

this campaign makes me feel like imliving in some crazy ass supernatural paralleluniverse. what do you mean you wont be voting harris bc of palestine. can i ask who told you that trump would force israels hand and make them stop?? what on earth leads you to believe that trump cares for palestinians' lives and wants them safe ???????? can i see whatever secret camfootage youre watching where he admits that his racism is just a longcon to uncover american voters' racism and he secretly really really likes and respects arabs ????? who exactly told you that trump would ever do anything against his personal best interest ??? or do you think his antisemitism actually trumps his racism and thats why he would intervene just to own the evil jews......? LIKE can someone explain to me that thougt process ????

So here’s the thought process: I will not vote for a war criminal that’s actively supporting the bombing of civilians so I’m voting for Jill Stein. Harris still has a few days to announce an arms embargo and win my vote. Ball’s in her court.

voting for stein is the same as voting for Trump atp bc u know in ur heart of hearts that she won't win.

Yeah, it’s a protest vote. The idea is that she might actually change her policy on Palestine if she think it might cause her to lose.

Also, I just won’t vote for anyone doing something so horrible.

Russian election saboteurs fuck off challenge (prev, not you)

... you do realize that it's possible for you to pursue policy changes even AFTER the election? That whatever you think Harris will or won't do about Gaza might change, but if you vote against her right now, Trump will get selected and a WHOLE HOST OF OTHER problems will come up, most of which you will not be able to do shit fuck about?

Leaving this here

Any blog promoting left-leaning people to NOT vote is just repeating Russian campaign points. Note how the phrasing is passive "I will not vote for..." so now you're only talking about not voting, not who you WILL vote for.

October 7th was greenlit by Russia for this exact purpose - to disrupt the US election and suppress Democratic voter turnout. The psyop narrative blames Biden for a war even though.. the US isn't at war? And is trying very hard to broker a ceasefire? And even if you disagree with me or Biden's approach so far, Trump would let Ukraine fall to the Russian invasion and says Israel should 'finish the job' so there's a very clear policy difference here. But if you follow the mental trap that Russian has laid out for you, that just means you won't vote for either of them.

And that's the kind of passivity that let Russian's man take office.

Russia doesn't need to you make sense of it, they just need to make you hesitate, not turn out, spoil your ballot, waste your vote - and their man wins.

Russia tried to disrupt Moldova's election last week. Candidates and voters were subject to bomb threats, kidnapping threats to their families, organized crime involvement, threats of future invasion, cyberattacks and more - yet people braved all this to turn out and support a candidate who does NOT want to follow Russia.

Sitting on your ass is not activism.

Voting is your democratic responsibility. Use it.

not shocking at all, really.

Some witches skating

Have y’all noticed how the misogyny of young men is treated as the effects of some internet trend called the “manosphere”.

As if the misogyny of these men is somehow unique. As if their fathers and grandfathers didn’t hold exactly the same opinions when they were teens and probably still do.

There is a perception that young men are backsliding from their previously held progressive values, but I think that young men were never progressive or feminist in the first place, even over the last ten years. They pretended to have those values so they could consider themselves good people, but as soon as large internet personalities showed them that misogyny is still considered acceptable all they had to do was remove the mask.

I’m not saying that men aren’t being radicalized online, but I think that researchers overstate this to the point that they forget that our society is still deeply misogynistic even without the internet.

Remember when some Reddit cesspool was hacked and users revealed - they turned out to be governors, lawyers, middle managers, union organizers. Middle aged men who grew up on misogyny and stayed online to lead the next generation online - just as they do IRL.

The leaders of the manosphere are not young men.