being sensitive is embarrassing, ohhh your tone was different than usual well i'm gonna go jump in front of a trolley now bye

what they don’t tell you about uncluttering your countertops/tables/general spaces is you’ll think it’s dumb as hell & allow it to all pile up because the idea of organizing and removing shit is daunting but once you do it and step back and See how things look without clutter you will feel as though you just snorted a line.

I think we should have a turn of phrase for "I'm not in the right, but I AM annoyed with this situation, so I just need to go bitch to a friend about this before I suck it up and go do the right thing" because more and more I'm finding this is a critical element of functional adulthood.

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Various tags on this post like "isn't that venting?" "isn't that kvetching?" and sure it's a subcategory of that. But those are missing the key detail of this specific case which is the "I'm not in the right."

It's the "fuck I'm NOT in the right, I GET that, I WILL be mature about this, I WILL just suck it up, I WON'T take it out on the person who's annoying me because they haven't actually done anything wrong, but by satan's spicy asshole I AM annoyed. So I'm gonna spend 5 minutes in private being a dramatic bitch about it before I get over it and go be a perfectly civil reasonable adult about it."

This is important.

Acknowledge the fact it's okay to be wrong and annoyed about it. Vent the frustration.

Put your adult undies on and be responsible for resolving the issue.

“Unfortunately my circus, unfortunately my monkeys”

shout out to people who's family isnt entirely bad or entirely good, but something in between and you dont know how to feel about them. you feel angry but you also feel guilty, because you know they genuinely love and care about you, but sometimes they show it in a way you know its not okay. your feelings are valid, your anger and sadness and grief are valid, and you dont have to prove this to no one. bigger shout out to those with memory issues who know something isnt right but can't recall all of the bad events, only the feelings, which only increases the guilt.

this is so awkward because Pestilence seems to have come back out of retirement this year so now there is FIVE Horsemen and only FOUR Horses

The fifth horse has been LOOSE IN A HOSPITAL for the last 4 years.

Soon to fixed.

The entire history of the world, religion, politics, and pop culture came together to make this joke possible.

2020 has been like:

Honestly if your anxiety is so bad that you can’t read like… something in the horror genre that I wrote (and tagged correctly) without tagging the post I made with “this literally made me have an anxiety attack i’m panicking omg my dereality is acting up” maybe you SHOULDN’T INTERACT WITH ME, because I’m a horror fan, I’m very open about being a horror fan, and I don’t like being guilt tripped over and over about a harmless piece of “creepy” writing I made!!

I’m talking about this kind of… growing group I see on this site and other sites who blames horror content creators for their anxiety issues that the creators have no control over? 

For example, Adam Ellis drew a pretty good horror comic about the ghost of a creepy nurse (it was not graphic in any way, and was fairly tame) and posted this DM he received about it on his Twitter:

For any concerned, Adam Ellis put absolutely no id’ing info on this post, so the person who sent it is safely anonymous. But I honestly hate this so much. If you are THIS afraid of a drawing of a creepy ghost, you should not engage with media that is LABELLED AS A HORROR COMIC! Many people with anxiety (including myself) create horror as an outlet for our own fears–Ellis even discussed the fact that his comic was tied to his very real fears of doxxing and harassment by certain fans/enemies online. Do you have any idea how genuinely horrible it feels to be told “this thing you created for fun/to vent caused me direct and terrible mental damage?” 

In short, stop being a manipulative, guilt-tripping asshole to horror creators. Stop engaging with horror media if you are so, so viscerally distressed by it that you send genuinely cruel things to people in an attempt to force them to apologize to you. A lot of horror creators use horror as an outlet to vent THEIR anxiety, and you are an asshole for trying to increase their anxiety by telling them that they “hurt you” by writing horror. G’night.

This also, imo, routes back to the entire idea that if you know you are triggered by a certain kind of content, do not engage with that content.

Of course, people owe you the common decency to not intentionally expose you to triggering or otherwise upsetting content if you have stated it’s upsetting to you and they should apologize if they do so unintentionally, but when consuming content, there is a certain level at which it’s on you and not the creators.

If you know a certain person posts a lot of content that upsets you, don’t follow them—block them, even, if you need to. If a certain character is a trigger for you, block the character tag and block the character name.

It’s not on the creator if you engage with their content and are upset by it after they’ve already appropriately tagged it, it’s on you for viewing it despite knowing the kind of content they create, or no one if you didn’t realize it would contain upsetting material.

You can’t touch a red hot burner then blame the stove when you get burned.

I collected a bunch of "haha I don't have 2020 vision" "oh God not like that" posts

aw fuck = “I can’t believe you’ve done this”

CANONICALLY YES 😂

the worst damage marvel movies did to entertainment is make it so any dialog in anything ever has to be witty quips back and forth

People Who Didn’t Realize They Were Talking to the Expert

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Same.

This perfectly summed up what I’ve been feeling.

So one of my tweets kinda blew up. :v

This reminds me of the time that a Hungarian doctor called Ignaz Semmelweiss noticed that the bulk of patients in a maternity ward treated by doctors were dying horribly, while the ones treated by nurses were more likely to survive.

He figured out that this was because the doctors were dissecting corpses inbetween delivering babies, while the nurses weren’t, and came up with his controversial “hey, why don’t we all wash our filthy, filthy hands before sticking them in a woman?” theory.

The result, short term, was that the mortality rate on this one maternity ward decreased by a ridiculous amount. They went from “write your will before you come here, because you’re probably gonna die” to “we’re not 100% sure, but you’ll probably live”.

The result, long term, was that Semmelweiss was hated by absolutely everybody, lost his reputation and had his career suffer terribly.

His eventual reward was that eventually people finally started sashimg their hands with soap before operations, history remembers him as a misunderstood hero, and the instinctive angry and defensive reaction so many people give whenconfronted with new ideas that conflict with their established view of the world is now called ‘the Semmelweiss reflex’.

Because some people care more about themselves not being wrong than they do about things in general being right.

Because some people care more about themselves not being wrong than they do about things in general being right.