*pretends to be surprised*

I’VE BEEN FUCKING TELLING PEOPLE THIS SHIT FOR YEARS!!!!!

One more thing that’s fucked in America.

did not know this wow

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That. That is the entire high literature summed up. You just broke all man-written novels

I just can’t believe marvel made TWO superhero teams with only one girl on them originally and then killed off the girls in the exact same way, each time for the development of a male character!! like, just say you hate women and leave!!!!

I want to apologise to

- Britney for making fun of her when she had her breakdown

- Monica Lewinski for judging her when she was a 22year old temp sexually assaulted by the most powerful man in the world

- Ke$ha for ever thinking she was trashy when all she wanted to do was make party music

- Kristen Stewart for ever thinking she was dumb when she’s actually one of the coolest people ever

- Megan Fox for ever thinking she was just a slut when actually she was an actress being harassed by her employer. 

- Hating all the women who made a career out of having a hot body. Being is shape is hard, beauty is a weapon and auto promotion is hard work. 

- All the Mary-Sues, who exist because young girls everywhere want to be part of a story they love so much

- All the female characters I ever snobbed because they got in the way of my ship.

- Hating the color pink during my teenage years, when it’s actually a lovely color and what I resented was society’s pressure to perform femininity. 

Why the female cashier is being nice to you

◻ She is uncontrollably sexually attracted to you

◼ Because that’s literally her fucking job you cretin

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Finally, a sane celebrity who doesn’t bend the knee to feminist bullshit.

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My god I love her.

I know people are gonna get salty af about this but by God she’s RIGHT.

When Brad Pitt did Fight Club, he was cutting weight for every single scene to maintain his physique at 155. I’ve you’ve ever cut weight, you know how horrible that must have been. He did it because they needed a “look”.

Changing Tatum said his Magic Mike body doesn’t last for more than five days. He starved down and dehydrated his already fit physique for a “look”.

The male soldiers on Spartacus: Blood and Sand were eating pretty much chicken and veggies for every meal to maintain a “look”.

Why is this such a big deal? Because all these characters are considered physical goals for men. These are actual unobtainable physical standards for men. Male body image issues get swept under the rug so often that some people don’t even think they exist.

You want proof? Just check out that scene in Captain America: First Avenger where Cap just transformed into that beautiful beefcake of a man. Agent Carter’s actress just HAD to touch them muscles, it was completely unscripted.

Chris Evans had to wear shirts so small they physically hurt, and he dislocated a shoulder during the helicopter scene in Civil War. But who cares, girls got to wet their panties watching Captain America flex.

If we are talking about unrealistic physical standards of male fitness given to us by movies, I would like to mention Hugh “Wolverine” Jackman here.

Yeah, he is ripped, isn’t he?

Well, it is true, but to get that kind of definition, he went through 36 hour period of dehydration, which caused him to temporarily lose 10 pounds of “water weight”. 

Thus during the fight scene he was filming, he was a hair breadth from blacking out whole time, just to look unrealistically muscular.

As he said during interview with Steven Colbert, “If You go three days without water, You will die. Then, when You are halfway there they shout ‘Roll it!”

It’s the same with professional bodybuilders who get into periods of extreme fasting and dehydration to lower their fat-to-muscle ratio to inhuman levels, all in hopes of making their muscle definition a bit better.

According to experts, healthy body fat percentage for a healthy male ranges from 8% to 20%, depending on height, lifestyle and numerous other variables. 

Fitness model and professional bodybuilder Helmut Strebl also known as “World’s Most Shredded Man” as he supposedly managed to get his body fat percentage below 5%…

… But only when he partakes in competitions, since it is not humanly possible to live with such low fat percentage of one’s body for longer periods of time.

I mean, yeah, he keeps a draconian training regime, as well as a very strict diet even off-season, but looks much more human then…

There are documented cases of incredibly fit and muscular bodybuilders fainting on the stage in the middle of their flexing routines, as well as several who outright died, because of cardiac arrest caused by their blood becoming too thick, due to long dehydration…

And let’s not forget about Muscle Dysmorphia, colloquially known as “Megarexia” or “Bigarexia”.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Muscle_dysmorphia

Yeah, it’s a thing, but it’s barely talked about, since it’s apparently not manly to admit to having problems like that, which also creates problems with researching this particular disorder…

So… Thanks Hollywood?

I had no idea that most people who looked like this are dehydrated until I read posts like this.

dehydrated to the point theyre about a day away from actual organ failure okay so chris hemsworth is a absolute god of a man, but hollywood says ‘thats not good enough’ and for the thor movie he has to spend several days having the juice squeezed from his body untill he looses about a gallon of whats supposed to be him so that he can do 2 days of shooting scenes without his shirt, after which he has to have recovery time before he is hospitalized because i am not joking about ‘one day away from organ failure’ thats the benchmark- look at chris hemsworth and process that he is told he isnt suitable for a shirtless scene without prepping for three days and nearly fainting

real feminism acknowledges the unhealthy standards that men are held to. radfems brush them off as non-existent

guys, feminism is for you, too. it’s for all of us.

ok but…we’re talking about two different things here. “Objectification” and “unrealistic body standards” while related, aren’t exactly the same. 

Hollywood does ask unrealistic and harmful things of actors and actresses. The thing is, this is not objectification. It’s shitty and dangerous, but it’s still not objectification. 

Hugh Jackman and Chris Evans and Brad Pitt were not objects in those movies, in these scenes. They are active, powerful figures, and while a person might get pleasure from viewing them, that’s not the sole purpose of their appearance. 

Objectification is when a character or person becomes a collection of body parts, when a person is reduced to an object of sexual desire. Hugh Jackman as Wolverine and Chris Evans as Captain America are not on screen just to be sexy. 

Men absolutely can be objectified, but men are in no way objectified in pop culture to the extent that women are. Do an image search for perfume and cologne ads. How many headless women do you see? Legs, arms, perhaps. How many men do you see, staring in the camera while the women in the picture are gazing at the man, looking off to the side–because the women are meant to be looked at.

Again. While Chris Evans, Hugh Jackman, etc, etc, can and are objectified by these movies, that’s not their role in the movies. Their characters have agency and we are meant to see them as powerful–if they happen to be nice to look at while looking powerful, that’s secondary. Female characters, particularly when they are side characters in action movies, are designed to look pretty first, and powerful second (and only if she can still be sexy while doing it)

Do these movies promote unrealistic body standards for men? Absolutely. But again, in media representation, men see more diverse body types than women do. But again, this is not Natalie Dormer’s original point. This is not objectification. Unrealistic body types and unhealthy demands made of actors and actresses is not the same as being a sexy piece of furniture for the hero to win at the end of the day. 

The fact that this posts starts by talking about Game of Thrones is wild to me. There is no frontal male nudity in GoT, but there is plenty of female nudity. This nudity does not advance the storyline. It’s not meant to show us how powerful these women are. It’s there just to be there.

There’s a post, somewhere–it may even be in the replies of this post–about how these body standards are, by and large, an extension of a male power fantasy, and that you can see this when you look at Hugh Jackman’s magazine covers for Men’s Health vs. Good Houskeeping. On Men’s Health, he’s sweaty, ripped, looks like he could kick your ass, easy. On Good Houskeeping, he’s wearing a sweater, his hair looks nice–he looks like he just put a casserole in the oven and is ready to bingewatch something with you while giving you a foot rub. 

Everyday men aren’t expected to look like Chris Evans and Hugh Jackman ready to rip your head off. Again, this is something media shows us. Guys can be ripped and beefy and get the girl. Guys can be nerdy and schlubby and get the girl. Guys can be okay looking and rude and get the girl. Guys can be pervy and average and get the girl. 

But the girl, by and large, is always the same. Skinny, conventionally attractive, moderately fashionable. She’s something to be obtained. She’s a status symbol. She wears impractical clothing because she’s not there to be believable, she’s there to be beautiful. 

That’s objectification.

(I’ve got nothing om Magic Mike, though. I’ve never seen it but I’m willing to accept other conclusions and say it’s objectifying)

Like, for fuck’s sake let’s keep talking about Hollywood’s interpretation of a male power fantasy and how heteronormative it is! Let’s talk about unrealistic body expectations and how nobody’s ever allowed to have stretch marks! Let’s make noise about how there’s more than two body types: muscled and skinny! Let’s talk about how “celebrity diets” are bullshit because most of us don’t have personal trainers or chefs! Let’s talk about being healthy instead of just looking healthy! Let’s talk about fatphobia and eating disorders–let’s talk about how toxic masculinity feeds into these unhealthy male body standards! Let’s burn bullshit beauty culture to the ground!

But like, let’s just make sure we’re all talking about the same thing and using the same vocabulary first.

I wish people would focus less on ‘women are expected to wear makeup’ which often isn’t true anyway and therefore very easy to ignore and more on ‘women are expected to visibly and obviously perform femininity through appearance and even down to the way they move, and non compliance is punished’ which is much more universally true and a lot harder to dismiss

Women are largely expected to wear makeup at least on occasion, although I would go as far as to say that the average woman only wears makeup a handful of times a month. When you take specific economic factors in account, it’s even less universal, because women whose jobs are more physically demanding are less likely to wear makeup. Ex, a CNA in a facility that requires a lot of lifting and turning patients is less likely to feel that she has to wear makeup to work, while a doctor almost certainly has to wear some level of makeup to be taken seriously. A woman who works in a facility’s kitchen sweating all day is less likely to have makeup play a part of her job needs than a woman waiting tables for tips.

And some women may be able to go through their lives without feeling any real level of pressure to wear makeup, and that’s largely due to the fact that they conform to gendered expectations more fully than many other women are seen as doing. Like, a woman who is seen as conventionally attractive and wears fitted clothes, has long hair, a delicate bone structure, is pale skinned in their community, and is thin with noticeable breasts is likely able to go without makeup completely, sometimes even to special events.

While a woman whose very body is seen as performing womanhood inappropriately will be required to compensate for that in a multitude of ways.

Because of this, it’s easy for people who have no real interest to engage about the difficulties of women’s experience to say that makeup is wholly a personal choice, devoid of political force. Because they can easily point to many of the women in their own personal lives hardly ever wearing makeup, so it’s not a real issue.

And this is largely because it frames the issue as just that: women feeling they have to wear makeup. Instead of women being punished for not conforming to a very specific and rigid gendered expectation. And it’s one of the reasons heterosexual feminists who argue women should be freed from the expectation of makeup will still present huge amounts of distaste and hatred for gnc women and ‘mannish dykes’.

Like. If tomorrow, it was just as normal and expected for men to wear makeup as it is for women, women’s lot in the world would not be improved in the slightest. If your could go back and somehow prevent makeup from ever being a thing, women would still suffer in the same ways, the rituals women must perform would simply look slightly different.

TL;DR: By choosing to focus on an issue that while real is easily dismissed and impacted by a million other factors because it is a symptom of the much larger problem without discussing what the problem is and that this is simply a single facet of how it happens, the argument is easily dismissed and frankly not going to do much but loosen the shackles on a very limited number of women while most experience no loosening of their chains.

And for gods sake ‘this is easy to argue against because it’s not as universal as it’s often framed, and discussions of this often don’t really touch on why it’s an issue’ doesn’t warrant a ‘but it was true for me so oh well’

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some nice bits that were on the link! medicine has a massive misogynistic bias it needs to address.

my family has a history of hypothyroidism, but my mom wasnt diagnosed for decades. she was misdiagnosed and only symptoms were addressed without searching for the actual reason. even now, because how how long she went untreated, her bodys systems are extremely taxed, causing other issues. her body is permanently off the deep end to some degree because doctors refused to investigate to a proper degree.

if you have consistent symptoms, keep pushing. the doctor is not always right. keep pushing.

Doctors really need to think. >:(

I was in and out of hospitals for 20 years and the doctors said it was asthma and a lot of stress and being over weight. Went to a new doctor for the first time this summer and he sees all my blood results and was shocked that no one looked into my high WBC count. Turns out I have a rare blood disease, that untreated can be fatal.

It’s ridiculous that doctors see female health problems as just “female problems” and not real concerns

This is why so many diseases are “more common in men” no one tries to diagnose women

Earlier this year, I had a severe allergic reaction to Penicillin. My throat began to close up, and my body was convulsing so badly that when the paramedics finally got to my home it took two of them to hold down my arm just to check my pulse.

The entire time they were here (as far as I can recall, at least) and in the ER itself, it was insisted repeatedly that what I was experiencing was just an anxiety attack, just an anxiety attack. Do I have a history of anxiety? Clearly I’m *not* having an allergic reaction, even though my family has a history of Penicillin-based allergies! It must just be a woman having a “fit”.

It’s a bit hard to insist that, no, I know what an anxiety attack is because I have experienced plenty before and this is *not* one when you’re so out of it that the only thing you can open your mouth up for is to puke half your guts out, but I did. So did my mom, much more vocally, and *finally* hours later we got the nurse practitioner to listen to us.

I was tested to see if I have a Penicillin allergy, and guess what? I do.

Tl;Dr, being female or female-presenting in this society is basically a fucking death certificate if you ever need medical assistance. Don’t be afraid to insist. Push, and push for those you love, too. The embarrassment of making “a scene” is nothing compared to the alternative.

From what I’ve been told, there’s a way higher chance that doctors will be shit at diagnosing/treating you unless you’re a white male (cuz that’s the demographic that gets most of the research and whatnot done on!)

that friend is vestal

I appreciate this immensly

@we-are-knight @weareladyknight

…… I mean… Maybe?

@bikiniarmorbattledamage

I think that a couple other characters from the parodies we posted over the years would gladly patronize this blacksmith as well ;)  Consider: Lyla from the College Humor sketch, the angry Dorkly comic lady, this poor heroine, the Chainmail Bikini Squad, Princess Adrienne… Oh yeah, there’s also this poor dude from Oglaf strip which we never knew how to address on BABD.

What I’m saying is, bad blacksmiths/armor merchants are kind of an recurring subject in bikini armor satire. And it’s nice for once to see one who’s fixing sexist armors instead of perpetuating them ;)

PS: This is what Arbalest and Vestal’s boobplates look like in the original artwork of Darkest Dungeon: 

~Ozzie

Not all heroes wear capes.

-Icy

This map shows every state where women are more likely to live in poverty than men

Wait… hold up. Every state is colored in. That can’t be right… right? 

Unfortunately, the map is accurate. And it’s especially problematic for millennial women, who are much more likely to have a bachelor’s degree or higher than millennial men, but who are consistently earning less living and living in poverty more. 

SLAMS THE REBLOG BUTTON

“But women earn more degrees” and still get paid less, so eat my whole ass

Something I see a lot of people missing in the reblogs: KIDS KIDS KIDS THIS IS LIKE 92% ABOUT KIDS

Yeah, there’s other factors too, but “women don’t ask for raises” and “pink-collar jobs aren’t valued” are smaller factors than the simple fact that caring for your own children is mandatory for women and optional for men.

Here’s the life story of, I’m going to say, about half the women I’ve ever worked with:

- Had children.  Possibly voluntarily, possibly through lack of contraception education and/or funds.

- Broke off relations with the father.  Frequently this was for a reason that was not a choice on her part, like he abused her or went to prison or just plain disappeared.

- Kept the kids.  Even if it was an amicable split, she likely has weekday custody and is the one who takes charge of the vast majority of their needs.

- Dad may or may not pay child support, but even if he does, the average child support is $2550/year and the average cost of raising a child in a low-income family is $8610/year.

- The mother can’t afford paid childcare, but she has some friends/family members who watch her kids, but they can’t commit to a consistent schedule, which means she can only work limited hours and has to take a lot of unplanned time off.

- This drastically limits both which jobs she can take and how much she can earn from those jobs, and completely locks her into poverty until the youngest child is old enough to be home alone.  But by then she’ll have an unimpressive resume of assorted part-time gigs, plus likely health problems from 15 years of eating junk and barely sleeping, so it’s not a fabulous career launch point.

There’s lots of factors in why women get paid less than men, but lack of childcare is hugely, gigantically more important than stuff like “women don’t speak up enough in meetings,” or even stuff like “female neurosurgeons make less than male neurosurgeons.”

so my brother was telling me about this human resources certification he attended a while ago. in a panel, the panelist asked a bunch of people in attendance, “who here knows if an applicant for a job is right for it in under 60 seconds?”

hands shot up around the room, people smug about their ability to “weed out the riff-raff” when it came to hiring for their fortune 500.

“you should all be fired and probably in jail,” they said, waiting for the whole room to get uncomfortable, then continued, “because the only things you can really learn about a human being in under 60 seconds are all things that are fueled by prejudices and biases covered by american law. so now, i will teach you how to stop being racist, sexist, judgmental assholes and hire people that will better your company of employ.”

I need this to be force taught at all companies

This is a good example of why study after study after study has shown that discrimination against racialized people looking for work is very real.  Oh, and don’t get too smug if you’re not in the USA - similar studies have shown that the same shit happens in Canada, Germany, the UK, Sweden  - basically in every country you can think of. 

I CAN’T WALK TO MY CAR LATE AT NIGHT WHILE ON THE PHONE  I CAN’T OPEN UP MY WINDOWS WHEN I’M HOME ALONE I CAN’T GO TO A BAR WITHOUT A CHAPERONE AND I CAN’T WEAR A MINI SKIRT IF ITS THE ONLY ONE I OWN I CAN’T USE PUBLIC TRANSPORTATION AFTER 7 PM I CAN’T BE BRUTALLY HONEST WHEN YOU SLIDE INTO MY DMS I CAN’T GO TO THE CLUB JUST TO DANCE WITH MY FRIENDS AND I CAN’T EVER LEAVE MY DRINK UNATTENDED BUT IT SURE IS A SCARY TIME FOR BOYS YEAH GENTLEMEN! BAND TOGETHER, MAKE SOME NOISE ITS REALLY TOUGH WHEN YOUR REPUTATION’S ON THE LINE AND ANY WOMAN YOU’VE ASSAULTED COULD TURN UP ANYTIME  YEAH, IT SURE IS A SCARY TIME FOR GUYS CAN’T SPEAK TO ANY WOMEN OR LOOK THEM IN THE EYES ITS SO CONFUSING, IS IT RAPE OR IS IT JUST BEING NICE? SO INCONVENIENT THAT YOU EVEN HAVE TO THINK TWICE I CAN’T LIVE IN AN APARTMENT IF IT’S ON THE FIRST FLOOR   I CAN’T BE WEARING SILK PAJAMAS WHEN I ANSWER THE DOOR I CAN’T HAVE ANOTHER DRINK EVEN IF I WANT MORE I CAN’T MAKE YOU FEEL INVALID, UNSEEN, OR IGNORED I CAN’T JOG AROUND THE CITY WITH HEADPHONES ON MY EARS I CAN’T SPEAK OUT AGAINST MY RAPIST AFTER 35 YEARS I CAN’T BE TAKEN SERIOUSLY IF I’M HOLDING BACK TEARS AND I CAN’T EVER SPEAK EARNESTLY ABOUT ALL MY FEARS BUT IT SURE IS A SCARY TIME FOR DUDES CAN’T TEXT A GIRL REPEATEDLY ASKING FOR NUDES CAN’T MAKE HER HAVE SEX WHEN SHE’S NOT IN THE MOOD AND WHAT GIVES HER THE RIGHT TO GIVE YOU ATTITUDE?? YEAH, IT SURE IS A SCARY TIME FOR MEN GIRLS LIKE TO ACT LIKE YOU’RE TO BLAME AND THEY’RE THE VICTIMS HER DRESS WAS SHORT AND SHE WAS DRUNK, SHE’S NOT SO INNOCENT THANK GOD YOUR DAD’S THE JUDGE AND YOU WON’T BE CONVICTED OH WAIT… THAT’S RIGHT… IT’S NOT SUCH A SCARY TIME FOR BOYS THEY’VE ALWAYS HAD THE UPPER HAND, THEY’VE ALWAYS HAD A CHOICE IT’S TIME FOR WOMEN TO RISE UP,      USE OUR COLLECTIVE VOICE THE DAY TO VOTE’S NOVEMBER 6, SO LET’S GO MAKE SOME NOISE 

I am just going to assume that the 2k of dislikes on the vid are from just the kind of people she’s singing about.

this never gets old

I met the creator of this a month ago and he said he got a lot of hate mail from dudebros who thought that he was a woman complaining about these problems.

Gold.

Bolding mine.

Watch the real thing. Its perfectly creepy

This guy also made Night In The Woods

this is the best thing i’ve read in a while

Ah ha ha ha ha. Brilliant.

OMG, you must look at this. Outdoor Research eviscerated GQ.

They slaughter them on the sexism and the bizarre fashion-obsessed capitalism angle, I love it

DRAG THEM NEIL