Can i propose a new fandom rule for the mental health and safety of fans?

If someone talks extensive shit about another fan, don’t participate in their fandom events.

For real. A good steward of fandom makes it welcoming for EVERYONE.

I’m not gonna do any events for a hot minute because yall. I am So Tired. I don’t wanna follow a fandom event and suddenly be inundated with drama. Either side, both sides, whatever.

We come here for fun and enjoyment of our blorbos. If you’re gonna post on the daily about your own shit and mention your event in the same breath, please take a moment to remember why we came to fandom in the first place. Reevaluate what you are doing and seriously ask yourself “Is this going to grow the fandom in a healthy way, and make space for everyone to enjoy this content safely?”

Because if it’s not, give up the hashtag for someone else to handle so you don’t monopolize a ship or holiday event with your personal bullshit.

I’m sorry you got hurt. Like, I really, really am. Frankly, I was hurt too!! It’s the reason I pulled the plug on my own fandom server years ago!!

I did that because I knew I could no longer curate a safe space for others in the fandom.

We are (mostly) adults. Creating a fandom event comes with certain responsibilities. Be aware of your own biases and tunnel vision. Let’s act like adults and not make our own personal hurts everyone else’s problem.

Can i propose a new fandom rule for the mental health and safety of fans?

If someone talks extensive shit about another fan, don’t participate in their fandom events.

For real. A good steward of fandom makes it welcoming for EVERYONE.

I’m not gonna do any events for a hot minute because yall. I am So Tired. I don’t wanna follow a fandom event and suddenly be inundated with drama. Either side, both sides, whatever.

We come here for fun and enjoyment of our blorbos. If you’re gonna post on the daily about your own shit and mention your event in the same breath, please take a moment to remember why we came to fandom in the first place. Reevaluate what you are doing and seriously ask yourself “Is this going to grow the fandom in a healthy way, and make space for everyone to enjoy this content safely?”

Because if it’s not, give up the hashtag for someone else to handle so you don’t monopolize a ship or holiday event with your personal bullshit.

I’m sorry you got hurt. Like, I really, really am. Frankly, I was hurt too!! It’s the reason I pulled the plug on my own fandom server years ago!!

I did that because I knew I could no longer curate a safe space for others in the fandom.

We are (mostly) adults. Creating a fandom event comes with certain responsibilities. Be aware of your own biases and tunnel vision. Let’s act like adults and not make our own personal hurts everyone else’s problem.

Endou Yuu versus the cosmic unknown 

have some more 

ok have one more before I go to bed 

Ren is also an eldritch being

I don’t think I ever posted this here

What’s the difference between negative and intrusive thoughts?

Examples of negative thoughts:

Examples of intrusive thoughts:

As you can see from the examples above, intrusive thoughts are often questions, as if to deliberately provoke rumination and obsessing (in which the initial question is never truly answered). Intrusive thoughts can come about randomly, are graphic/disturbing in nature, and have no connection to the person’s usual behaviour or even the situation at hand. They are difficult to ignore because they either imply a catastrophic consequence or give the person an increasing sense of discomfort. Intrusive thoughts can also come in the form of false memories in which it’s difficult to tell if it’s an intrusive thought or a memory.

Anyone can have intrusive thoughts from time to time. However when the thoughts are more frequent and/or distressing it often indicates mental illness. Conditions that have intrusive thoughts as symptoms include: OCD, social/general anxiety disorder, depression, eating disorders, ADHD, personality disorders, PTSD, bipolar disorder, brain injuries, dementia, Parkinson’s disease.

Negative thoughts are more likely to be an emotional response to an event, relationship, or situation and are the result of a person’s low self esteem or past trauma. 

Sometimes negative thoughts can lead to or come after intrusive thoughts; e.g believing you’re being ignored and then having intrusive thoughts questioning/listing odd reasons why the other person is doing so, or having a specific intrusive thought about a loved one and believing yourself to be an awful person.

With negative thoughts treatment usually consists of re-framing them, and seeing the situation from a different, more positive perspective in order to adjust your thinking patterns and behaviour in the future. “If they’re ignoring me, that’s their problem. While I don’t understand why I won’t hold it against them. They might be busy, as people often are.”

With intrusive thoughts treatment can focus on the person allowing the thoughts to pass through the mind, reminding themselves that the thoughts are involuntary, and to not fear these thoughts or react emotionally to them (cognitive diffusion). Often a way to do this is through exposure, in which the person builds up to confronting their intrusive thoughts/object of fear and sitting with the uncomfortable feeling until it no longer bothers them and being able to do daily activities despite the anxiety.

Maybe some of you are in a place where you need to hear these things. Trust me, it does turn out okay. 💛

Loading Penguin Hugs | Instagram | Patreon

there’s not enough bruce banner on my dash and i’m fixing that 7/ ∞

All Might is Puzzled because the kids are following him even more than usual and staring determinedly at their phones for some reason. (All Might is a goddamn mobile pokestop where various rare pokemon gather. Literally every pokemon with an alt. form or that looks like him.)

I STILL DON’T REALLY KNOW HOW THIS GAME WORKS BECAUSE THE SERVERS ARE ALWAYS DOWN WHENEVER I TRY TO PLAY, JUST PRETEND THIS IS POSSIBLE

I’m having fun.

*draws more Kairi kicking Vanitas’ ass.*

Geography for Racist People by Lilly Singh

SHE WENT THERE

Writer Problems

When you lose interest in a story that you’re writing but YOU HAVEN’T LOST INTEREST IN THE STORY, YOU’VE JUST LOST INTEREST IN THAT PARTICULAR PART THAT YOU’RE WRITING AND YOU WANT TO GET TO THE GOOD STUFF THAT YOU’RE ACTUALLY INTERESTED IN BUT YOU CAN’T DO THAT WITHOUT FINISHING THE BORING PARTS

Friend just posted a meme on facebook like “the cake is an alternative fact” and i havent laughed at a cake is a lie joke in at least five years but

So you’ve decided to take your cell phone to the protest. What now?

1) First, make sure you’re following EFF’s Digital Security Tips for Protestors (above). You might also do a little further reading about how to secure your devices over here at PCMag (although ignore the part about turning on fingerprint unlocking - do not do that - the police can force you to use your fingerprint but it’s harder for them to legally force you to reveal a passphrase, as far as we know).

2) Understand the threat context. See our previous posts on “The Problem with Mobile Phones” (another EFF classic), CityLab’s excellent overview of police mass surveillance and how to figure out if you should bring a cell phone at all. 3) Before you go, you should also prepare a contingency plan about what exactly you plan to do if you are arrested or lose possession of your phone. This could include: - how you will quickly protect (or more likely, destroy) your data - who it is safe to contact for help, and how you will reach them - who it is NOT safe to contact for help (remember the police may have mass surveillance equipment on-site, and contacting someone electronically in this environment may draw attention to them, which could be a problem for some activists)

And remember that the safest option of all for avoiding mass surveillance is leaving the thing at home and turning it off. Next up: What to do if you’re arrested with your phone. [Share this with anyone who needs it.]

THEY CANCELED THE WHOLE MUSICAL INSTEAD OF JUST HIRING ACTORS WHO WEREN’T WHITE

Wow

As much as racial diversity is a good thing, you’re not gonna find an entire cast of acting Egyptians in New York…

do you, um… do you understand how large and diverse new york is? between 2008-2012, there were 39,000+ egyptians living in new york, new jersey, and long island. that number has probably only increased. it’s not difficult for me to imagine that many of them are either working actors or aspiring actors. and that’s just egyptian immigrants. these roles could be played by people of egyptian descent. i don’t have a statistic for you on that one, but again, new york is densely populated and very diverse. i can’t imagine it would be that difficult to find egyptian actors, especially if you put out a casting call specifically for egyptians

Also there are tons of North African Jews for the Israelites lmao

I personally know off the top of my head enough multi-talented MENA Jews to fully cast a historically accurate Broadway show and you’re telling me that a massive theater company with a large budget and financial backing couldn’t pull something together with an open casting call in New York City?

Bullshit.

imagine being this isolated from the world.

This is one of many consequences of the whitewashing of cities like New York and LA in media, too. When shows and movies consistently portray these cities as containing 95-100% white people even in background shots (hey Fantastic Beasts, how’re you doing!), folks like @minus-three wind up genuinely convinced that that is what those cities look like.

And people don’t look things up before speaking so they end up looking dumb as hell. The demographics of major cities are easy to find.

The most valuable thing I learned doing a Masters degree with depression, anxiety and ADHD was to change my “things I’m bad at” list to “things I can’t do on my own.” Stop thinking of them as things I could do if I tried hard enough, and accept that I can’t accomplish them by effort and willpower alone; they’re genuine neurocognitive deficits, and if I need to do the thing, then just like a blind person reading or a mobility impaired person going up a storey in a building, I need to find a different method.

I’m “bad at” working on long-term projects without an imminent deadline or someone breathing down my neck? Okay, let’s change that: I can’t work on long-term projects without an imminent deadline and someone breathing down my neck. So let’s create an imminent deadline and recruit neck-breathers. Find a sympathetic prof who will agree that 3 weeks before the due date they expect me to show them my preliminary notes and bibliography. Get a friend I trust to block off an hour to sit with me and keep asking, “Are you working on your project?” Write a blog post about my progress. Arrange to trade papers and proofread them with another student.

Accept your limitations and learn to leverage them, instead of buying the neurotypical fairytale that they’ll go away if you just try hard enough.

Even before I realized that I had a thing called attention deficit disorder, I was already starting to figure out that there were certain things that I just couldn’t do the same way that other people did them and therefore had to do a different way. And sometimes the way I did them seemed cumbersome and silly and slow to other people–because they had a faster way that took fewer steps for them. But their “faster” “easier” way wasn’t actually “faster” or “easier” *for me*. They only *think* their way is easier because that’s how *they* experience it–and don’t have the insight to realize that different people simply experience the world in different ways.

It may have helped that as a deaf person, I always have needed to do certain things differently from everyone else, including sometimes taking approaches that might seem slower or more cumbersome for hearing people. So for me I had less mental adjusting to do when realizing that sometimes you have to be creative about finding another approach, and that it’s okay if another approach seems slower or silly or cumbersome for other people because other people aren’t the ones who need to do your thing, therefore it isn’t really their business how you do the thing. 

But even with that, I still often felt embarrassed or self conscious or defensive if someone said something critical about how I was doing a thing. Because society keeps our environment utterly drenched in all these messages saying that there are only a certain, limited “right” ways of doing certain things, and everyone trying to do them a different way has something “wrong” with them like being “stupid” or “lazy” … when, no, it’s not wrong, it’s just different. Non-disabled people are the ones hurting themselves when they refuse to consider that there are always multiple ways to do the same task. Many hearing people, for example, often still insist on using their mouths to talk to each other with sounds even when other noises are much too loud for them to hear each other, which means that even hearing people might sometimes find it easier if they just gave up and held their conversation in writing. Meanwhile, those of us who are always having to modify or even completely throw out the “usual” way of doing things learn to be more creative and resourceful because of it. That’s always a strength, not a weakness. Sometimes it still sucks having to deal with executive functioning issues or other issues, but it does teach a kind of flexibility that many non-disabled people never really have to learn.

favorite star wars memes

GOLD