Can i propose a new fandom rule for the mental health and safety of fans?
If someone talks extensive shit about another fan, don’t participate in their fandom events.
For real. A good steward of fandom makes it welcoming for EVERYONE.
I’m not gonna do any events for a hot minute because yall. I am So Tired. I don’t wanna follow a fandom event and suddenly be inundated with drama. Either side, both sides, whatever.
We come here for fun and enjoyment of our blorbos. If you’re gonna post on the daily about your own shit and mention your event in the same breath, please take a moment to remember why we came to fandom in the first place. Reevaluate what you are doing and seriously ask yourself “Is this going to grow the fandom in a healthy way, and make space for everyone to enjoy this content safely?”
Because if it’s not, give up the hashtag for someone else to handle so you don’t monopolize a ship or holiday event with your personal bullshit.
I’m sorry you got hurt. Like, I really, really am. Frankly, I was hurt too!! It’s the reason I pulled the plug on my own fandom server years ago!!
I did that because I knew I could no longer curate a safe space for others in the fandom.
We are (mostly) adults. Creating a fandom event comes with certain responsibilities. Be aware of your own biases and tunnel vision. Let’s act like adults and not make our own personal hurts everyone else’s problem.