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@nekobakaz / nekobakaz.tumblr.com

Hi!! I'm Corina! Check out my About Page! Autistic, disabled, artist, writer, geek. Asexual. nekomics.ca .banner by vastderp, icon by lilac-vode
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Heyo! I got a notification back on May 15th that my zine was in "Pre-Shipment" and can see it's still pending in that status as of today (June 19th). Have all of the zines gone out yet? I don't mind waiting, just wanted to check in to see if it was a USPS issue or if it just wasn't in the mail yet.

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There is a delay on a small number of orders. Our mod has been out of town for three weeks and there was an issue with some of the orders right before she left but she'll be back soon and will finish shipping when she is. Thank you for your patience, I appreciate this process is taking longer than expected!

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nekobakaz

hi, I've also experienced this issue. Has there been any update to this?

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Anonymous asked:

Why everyone in the art community has something against tracing?

Tracing is an excellent tool for learning, in my opinion. I used to trace pictures of horses all day when I was a kid. It's great for teaching your eye and your hand to recognise and recreate shapes.

Some people call the use of reference images 'tracing' which isn't accurate or really an issue?? Unless you're a purist who thinks using ref images is "lazy". It gets iffy when you use other Artist's work as a reference, but that more often has to do with the percentage of 'inspiration' you take from their work.

The only time it becomes a problem is when people copy part of, or the entirety of another artist's work, and claim it as their own. That's just straight-up theft. And I'm not talking about vaguely copying a pose because it looked cool, I'm talking every detail from the armour to the hair has been copied but the second artist just flipped the image left and recoloured it. This exploits the hard work of the original artist and is generally seen as a dick move.

There's room for discussion regarding homage/tribute and satire, but in general, tracing is just another tool.

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can you stop fucking adding commentary to tags? it isn’t funny and it makes almost all of your posts un-rebloggable due to cringey comments

The Greek alphabet, from which the Latin alphabet used to write English today is derived, was originally created by adapting the Phoenician alphabet. (Ok, yeah, technically the Phoenician writing system was an abjad not an alphabet but nobody who isn’t a grammatologist knows what an abjad is so I’m calling it an alphabet. Fight me.) The funny thing about it is that, when the Phoenician alphabet was adapted to write Greek, the letters were rotated. This isn’t abnormal (writing systems sometimes rotate as they evolve, usually because the material on which they are being written changes), but what’s weird about the Phoenician-to-Greek rotations is that they’re inconsistent. Some of them got rotated 90°, like Phoenician aleph 𐤀 to Greek alpha A. Some got flipped symmetrically, like Phoenician gimel 𐤂 to Greek gamma Γ. And some, like Phoenician daleth 𐤃 to Greek delta Δ, didn’t rotate at all. For those of you who don’t know a lot about writing systems and to whom this might not register as weird, let me assure you that it is extremely weird.

Naturally, this weirdness has led to a lot of theories about how the hell this happened. Most of those theories are complicated and boring, like that a change in media from stone carving to papyrus combined with a simultaneous change in writing direction from boustrophedon to…..and now I’m asleep.

But there are three good theories which I would like to share with you. One of them, put forward somewhat facetiously by Marc Zender, is that the Greek who originally learned the Phoenician script learned it by watching a Phoenician write from across a table, and was therefore constantly turning his head in order to get a better angle, resulting in him seeing different letters with different degrees of rotation.

The other two theories are theories which I personally invented, and I believe wholeheartedly that at least one of them is true. My theories are that the Greek who first adapted the Phoenician alphabet was either a) dyslexic or b) drunk. As your science teachers no doubt taught you, Occam’s Razor is a fundamental principle. Since my theories are both infinitely simpler than anything else anyone has put forward, I’m sticking with them. Any linguistics or anthropology departments interested in hiring me should send me a message.

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Anonymous asked:

Hello! Why do you think low/high functioning is bullshit language? Not challenging you, I'm honestly curious. Thank you for your​ a+ content, I love reading your spot-on comments on all the tags!

A(n incomplete) list of things I did in the last couple of days that I think were functional:

1. Felt all the textures in a room so I could decide which ones I liked and sit near them.

2. Lectured my grandfather, two separate therapists, my friend, and my dogs about my current special interest.

3. Walked out of a play I was enjoying because I’d lost the ability to distinguish the words the actors were saying from the music playing in the background.

4. Rolled my entire body back and forth on my bed while humming very loudly.

5. Refused about 8 different hugs because I panic if someone hugs me.

These are all things that are, by the definition of the average neurotypical person, weird. Many clinicians would tell me these are behaviors I should suppress if I want to be “high functioning”. Fuck that. I like having good textures around and I like infodumping and there’s no point to being at a play that you can’t process and hugs are awful and rolling around and humming is great fun and I’d happily do it for hours. These things may seem weird to neurotypical people, but they make me happy. They’re functional for me. A scale that tells me that these things mean that I’m not functioning at a high enough level is a scale that ignores my actual experience. Doing these things helps me function at exactly the height I want to function at. Anyone who thinks that height is insufficient should fuck off, because I’m the one living my life, not them. If I want to wander around saying the word “duck” over and over, I will and no one on earth gets to tell me that means I’m not fucking functioning.

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nekobakaz

**waves** another autistic here. Another way of putting it is that functioning labels are often used as if we exist in a static, as if every single person has good days and bad days. The thing is that with autistic neurology, our bad days look different than other neurology's bad days. The other thing is that functioning labels get used to either deny services/supports/accommodations, or to deny capabilities and agency. All based on a static image of us that might have been made on a good day, or a bad day, a long long long time ago. And so, they are bullshit.

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Hi. Uh I just saw the 'you might be autistic' post and well...how do u distinguish ADHD and Austism? It feels like it should be easy but for me its not. Bc ive had a suspicious about me being somewhere on the autistic scale, but at the same time, I did an evaluation at age 11.I got an ADHD diagnosis. And a lot of what would say im autistic could be excused by my adhd. So i just feel split...I kind of want to try and look into it, but at the same time im probably just silly and its my ADHD. Tips?

Hi! 

As a neurodivergent peer, I found that post relevant to destigmatize autism as well as the misconceptions around its diagnosis, but I’m not autistic myself nor I have ADHD or authority on the matter so I couldn’t say.

I’ll recommend saying hi to @iamatinyowl as I know she is both autistic and well versed in mental health subjects. She is also a very cool person, you’ll adore her. She could give you a better orientation on your concerns. 

Finally, I must say that no concern about your health or identity overall is silly. 

Thank you so much for writing!

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nekobakaz

Hi! I wanted to pop in; it is possible to be both ADHD and autistic. At the same time, it is possible to be one or the other and have similar features. It’s why ADHD is a cousin.

Also, when I was first diagnosed as autistic, back in 2002, I had some people try to convince me that the diagnosis was wrong. That somehow my ADHD made me "only look like [I'm] autistic". I have heard countless stories of people, at various ages, being denied/mis- and partially diagnosed by professionals, for any number of stereotypes. I know that a chunk of the autistic community doesn't put much stock in a paper diagnosis; it's sometimes too inaccessible to get. So we're very accepting of self-diagnosis. If it turns out you're wrong about being autistic, that's fine! You're a cousin, so you're welcome to know what neurodiversity is all about.

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Hi. Uh I just saw the 'you might be autistic' post and well...how do u distinguish ADHD and Austism? It feels like it should be easy but for me its not. Bc ive had a suspicious about me being somewhere on the autistic scale, but at the same time, I did an evaluation at age 11.I got an ADHD diagnosis. And a lot of what would say im autistic could be excused by my adhd. So i just feel split...I kind of want to try and look into it, but at the same time im probably just silly and its my ADHD. Tips?

Hi! 

As a neurodivergent peer, I found that post relevant to destigmatize autism as well as the misconceptions around its diagnosis, but I’m not autistic myself nor I have ADHD or authority on the matter so I couldn’t say.

I’ll recommend saying hi to @iamatinyowl as I know she is both autistic and well versed in mental health subjects. She is also a very cool person, you’ll adore her. She could give you a better orientation on your concerns. 

Finally, I must say that no concern about your health or identity overall is silly. 

Thank you so much for writing!

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nekobakaz

Hi! I wanted to pop in; it is possible to be both ADHD and autistic. At the same time, it is possible to be one or the other and have similar features. It's why ADHD is a cousin.

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(C-PTSD, autism, and ADHD anon) I'm always open to learning more about the differences between ADHD and autism! There are few resources comparing them, and the overlap does make it a bit confusing, like difficulties with socializing. I always found my difficulties socializing were because I just didn't know what to say or do, what the rules were; not because I would say things impulsively. But again, there's an overlap that makes it confusing!

This post does a really good job at explaining the similarities and differences between autism and ADHD. The following is a summary taken from the post:

more ADHD than autism:

  • impulsivity
  • getting distracted
  • constantly forgetting what you were just doing or thinking
  • being unable to sit still ever
  • hyperfocusing randomly
  • hyperactivity
  • losing every object. always
  • forgetting plans and appointments and everything really
  • addiction to distraction and entertainment

more autism than ADHD:

  • sensory hypersensitivities
  • sensory hyposensitivities
  • the bliss that stimming is
  • the overwhelm of sensory overload
  • auditory and visual processing difficulties
  • trouble with verbal communication
  • trouble with nonverbal communication
  • being unable to figure out social rules and conventions
  • relying on sameness, rules, schedules and rituals

both autism and ADHD:

  • needing to fidget or stim
  • special interests or hyperfixations
  • living in a fantasy world
  • trouble with socializing
  • appearing eccentric
  • appearing childlike or younger than you are
  • executive dysfunction
  • reactions to over- and understimulations
  • meltdowns / shutdowns
  • developing anxiety or depression
  • creativity and unconventional thinking
  • daydreaming and spacing out
  • getting caught up in a task

The post goes through and explains each trait i more detail. I’ve also written a post about my experiences with ADHD and autism and the differences and similarities between the two that can be read here

I hope this helps. As always, if you have more questions feel free to send another ask.

-Sabrina

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nekobakaz

welcome to my wonderful world of having ~both~

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I have only recently learned about the concept of "white coded", from your Twitter. Do you think you could explain more about this? I might have an idea of what it means, but I want to make sure I'm as close to the truth as I can be.

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I understood the concept but was using the wrong term prior to this. I was using white passing, but âpihtawikosisân did a great thread on white coded tonight so I’m using that now.

White coded means you’re seen as white. It applies to light skinned Indigenous people (and other non-white folk).

People assume we’re white and treat us that way until we tell them we’re not. And even after we tell people we’re not white, we are still treated ““better”” (ugh) than our brown relations.

Light-skinned folk are Indigenous or non-white, but we have different experiences than our deeper skinned relations. We have never experienced living while brown in a white supremacist society, and can’t truly understand it either.

So we have this privilege. We’re not consciously choosing to pass, so “white passing” isn’t quite right. It’s just that our outward appearance has a lot of the phenotypic markers that people associate with “white”. So we’re white coded.

I’m going to reblog this ask onto my native/feminism blog too I think.

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nekobakaz

In literature, doesn't it also refer to the automatic assumption that characters are white, based on lack of any distinct description?

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Anonymous asked:

I'm struggling with the realization I'll probably never have a "happy ending". I'm really a pathetic and pretty awful human being. I'm not as bright nor as talented as I used to think, and I'm extremely awkward, and generally not a person who is going to succeed in anything. I know a lot of people are like that and are more or less fine about it, but I really just wish to cease to exist instead of living like this.

Hi Anon,

I know exactly how you feel, you are not alone in this. Life in general, and the things we have to go through can bring us down to the point where we believe that we will never be able to amount to anything.

We live in a highly competitive world, in which seemingly your best is just never enough. We are pushed to always go that one extra mile, take that one step extra, make ever more money, have brilliant carreers, be ever more succesful at whatever we attempt. Our highly individualistic and materialistic society, that thrives on so-called succes stories and happy endings, requires us to always overreach. And if we don’t, we will be judged and found wanting.

What’s more, we live in a world that teaches us that all that stands between us and success is us. No matter what the odds, the ultimate battle is between us and our own mind, and we have to overcome everything. There is no backing down, and if we do, we are weak. We are the engineers of our own happiness and success.

But is this true? No. It has never been true. Life is in a continuous flux, and we never know what will come next. We can make plans, have dreams, set goals, but ultimately we have to deal with that one aspect that we simply cannot exercise control over: life. 

This is called “black swan theory”. A black swan is something that happens in our lives, that we never saw coming, can explain in hindsight, but changes our life and the course that it will take forever and in a crucial way. In history, examples of black swans are WW1, the fall of the Berlin Wall, the attacks of 9/11 and most recently the annexation of Crimea by Russia. Nobody saw it coming, everybody could explain it in hindsight, and it changed the world and the course of history for ever. This is also true in individual lives. A black swan can be meeting and marrying that partner you thought you would never have, finding out you are pregnant, getting a diagnosis, landing that dream job, losing someone that is dear to you. You never saw it coming, but there you are and all of a sudden your life has changed forever.

The above is something that is of great interest to people as diverse as military planners, business people, and politicians. And we can learn a lot from the way they approach this. It is not about planning for every eventuality, and reaching your goal no matter what, it is about planning in such a way that you leave room for whatever sudden event comes on your path. It is all about adapting to what life throws at you and set your goals accordingly.

For example: let’s say that your dream job is to become a heart surgeon. You work hard to achieve this and then, while applying for university, you hear that you just don’t have what it takes, for whatever reason. You will not be able to study to become a surgeon and you will not be able to fullfill your ambition. Does that make you a bad person? Does that make you weak? Does that make your life miserable and will it ensure that you will not experience a happy ending? No. When one door closes, two other doors with just as many possibilities open. You won’t get to be a heart surgeon, but where are your capacities then? Define those, and set a new goal accordingly.

A happy ending doesn’t constitute the achievement of all your plans and ambitions and desires. Because life doesn’t function that way. A happy ending constitutes having adapted to whatever comes your way to the best of your abilities, and to have made the best of whatever challenge you encountered. A happy ending is looking back and being able to say that you did your best and have no regrets. 

You are unique, Anon. And you bring to the table your own unique strengths and capabilities. It is all about putting those to work in a way that will benefit you and your environment. And you have many strenghts and capabilities. You have found that you might not be as talented and bright as you thought you were, but you are still very talented and bright regardless. Work with that, it will be enough, I promise.

All the best,

Lost.

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Anonymous asked:

URGENT I think my mom might be gaslighting me? I have some memory issues but there have been times where I was absolutely certain that something happened one way but my mom insisted that it happened in another way and this usually happens when she's guilt tripping me for being upset at her or to get me to do something and I'm scared. How do I know whether my memory is accurate or not? Please help me.

Make records at the time. Take photos, write notes, keep a journal - preferably on paper rather than digitally, so it’s clear if it’s been modified. Do it as close to the event as possible. That way, you have something from the time in question to use as evidence. And if all you need is to know what really happened on the day in question, you don’t have to show her. It can also be useful to show a friend or a therapist a record of her behaviours.

In the end, sometimes people remember things differently and there’s no ill intent at all. But if it’s causing you worry, keeping a log of what happens is the best way to clear it up.

- Mara

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I have an unreliable memory in that it makes memories that are WRONG for the times I don’t have a correct memory. Which includes things leading up to temper tantrums and meltdowns (two different things).

I do have people that I trust to tell me the truth about what really happened - but since they are not always the ones involved, there is always the risk that someone might try (and some have) to influence the unreliable memory in their favor.

All my communications are tracked - since I use text and text-to-speech to talk that is easier, but it can be done with making notes at the time of the disagreement if you are able, or as soon after as possible. It was this keeping of notes and recordings that showed I really was the one with the unreliable memory and I was spinning the events in my favor (usually, but not always) and sometimes fabricating things that never even happened.

It also showed the times that someone WAS trying to gaslight me.

Record keeping is invaluable when you are in a high-tension relationship, such as it sounds like the Anon may be in.

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