Self Care Tips From Tumblr: When you feel like everyone hates you, sleep. When you feel like you hate everyone, eat. When you feel like you hate yourself, shower. Someone out there feels better because you exist. 

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I decided to create a masterpost that would help you with what you are struggling with. Hopefully any of the links below will help you! Reminder; You’re going to be okay. What you are going through will pass, just remember to breathe. 

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Distractions;

Here are some distractions to help keep your mind occupied so you aren’t too focused on your thoughts. 

Sleep issues; 

 Uncomfortable with silence; 

Anxiety; 

Sad, angry and depressed/depression; 

Isolation and loneliness; 

 Self-harm;

Addiction; 

 Eating disorders; 

 Dealing with self-hatred;  

 Suicidal; 

 Schizophrenia;

OCD;

Borderline personality disorder; 

Abuse; 

 Bullying;

 Loss and grief; 

(Other loss and grief)

 Getting help; 

Things you need to remember; 

Please remember to look after yourself and know that you are more than worth it and you deserve to be happy. Keep smiling butterflies x

thanks bud

hearing the john mulaney “do my friends hate me or do i just need to go to sleep” bit is the best thing to have happened for my mental health because every time i’m afraid my friends hate me it’s around the time i should be going the fuck to sleep

I read somewhere “if you feel like everyone hates you you need to sleep and if you feel like you hate everyone else you need to eat” and it was honestly world-shattering and I wish I’d heard it years ago!

A reminder about fasting

You don’t have to fast if it will endanger your health.

If you need to eat when you take your meds, you can.

If your meds dehydrate you and you need to drink, you can.

If you have a health condition that requires you eat regularly, you can.

If you are recovering from an eating disorder and food restriction will interfere with your recovery, you don’t have to fast.

If you have no specific health condition but you are getting dehydrated or you feel faint, so can eat or drink if you need to.

Your health comes first. The Torah tells us to “live by” the commandments. Live. That means following them in ways that help us live and aren’t detrimental.

If I may? You are not permitted to fast if it will endanger your health. If you need to eat when you take your meds, you should. (Also you should not forego your meds in order to be able to fast: take the meds and eat the food.) If your meds dehydrate you and you need to drink, you should. If you have a health condition that requires you eat regularly, you should. If you are recovering from an eating disorder and food restriction will interfere with your recovery, you shouldn’t fast. If you have no specific health condition but you are getting dehydrated or you feel faint, you should eat or drink if you need to. Your health comes first. The Torah tells us to “live by” the commandments. Live. That means following them in ways that help us live and aren’t detrimental. This includes the mental/emotional aspect of fasts and days of mourning as well. If you are not, psychologically, in a position to mourn; if you are already dealing with self-loathing and grief and feelings of worthlessness, you are not obligated in that aspect of the fast because it is dangerous for you and undermines your well-being. Mental health is still health, and your obligation to take care of yourself comes first.

it is time to remind you all that you don’t have to fight.

i know, i know, the Right Message is the opposite. a call to arms, to inspire you to resist, to support those brave incredible gen Z kids, to fight for our own lives and all the futures that come after us.

but sometimes you can’t.

or sometimes it’s too much. you don’t have to burn yourself up so we can bask in your light. you burn for you. conserve your heat. you’re going to need it.

remember why we fight. we fight for a kinder world and better lives. to live in misery, to die or destroy yourself in support of that? that is not better. that is not kind. the means don’t justify the ends.

remember that to fight, you must first survive.

you are more important than the struggle. yes, you are. the insistence that we must all push and sacrifice until it hurts is nothing but a replication of capitalism’s work-guilt complex, a puritan morality. we don’t need that in the new world we dream of. don’t bring it with us.

mary oliver says it best. “you do not have to be good. you do not have to walk on your knees for a hundred miles through the desert repenting. you only have to let the soft animal of your body love what it loves.”

give whatever you are able to give, if you want to. but remember it’s yours to give. no one is entitled to your energy, even for the most noble reasons. you are yours. your worth is inherent and requires no proof. you do not have to fight.

people are more important than money. people are also more important than the cause. some days the olam you can tikkun is your own, and some days not even that. you are still good.

Exhaustion is not a moral failing.  Knowing what you need, and doing it, is a brave and noble act. 

Self-care is far more than “treat yo self”.

and “treat yo self” has value too, especially for those of us who are forever told we don’t deserve necessities, much less comforts.