but why do we have to get married and have children
why can’t we just get a group of friends and live happily ever after in an apartment and share the profits
i’d be much happier that way
this is the most millennial thing ive ever read
Nothing wrong with this, you can have roof parties and grill food. Better yet just save up together and buy a small house split the bills and mortgage.
- the nuclear family as an economic unit has really only existed for a few hundred years, across part but not all of the world
- the nuclear family unit is the easiest to exploit under capitalism, because parents have to work externally to provide for their children. They work to pay for child care for their children while they work. They work to earn money to feed their kids and to give them nice things to make up for all the time they spend away, at work.
- a huge amount of labour is necessary every day to keep a family fed, their house clean, etc. some families are wealthy enough to outsource this by hiring staff, most are not.
- capitalism is a pointless middleman in this. we should just live cooperatively.
- share houses and intentional communities are awesome
- people of different life stages function well together because they have complimentary needs and abilities
- kids are less of a stress and burden in a home with lots of different adults to provide support and love, as well as sharing household tasks.
- destroy capitalism through cooperativism.
And think how GREAT this would be for folks who want non-blood family, or polyamorous relationships, or like kids but don’t want to have their own, or like having housemates but don’t want to get married.
I’m telling you, as long as I could have a space that was mine (small group of houses or one very large house), I would be so happy with this setup.
This is how I currently live. There are 5 of us right now splitting rent on a house. And it’s wonderful.
I see this post and every time think of my mum’s story of my parents and their friends who thought about doing exactly this with buying a house and she, because she has a tame lawyer, asked said lawyer and he said it’s doable financially but don’t do it I’ve seen so many friends no longer be friends from doing this.
*trying to convince more people to move into house because communes are useful and everyone feels les stressed and there are actual humans around who you don’t hate who understand when you need to go hide for a while*
….I’m gonna need a larger house.
ALLLLLLL OF THIS!!!
I’m professionally fascinated by different housing typologies, and how they have changed and evolved over time due to cultural influence. As a previous poster said, the idea of the nuclear family living in isolation is very new. Unfortunately it’s also deeply engrained in modern society at a policy level. Most zoning and subdivision ordinances are very quick to define “single-family” with a very narrow view, and make it the predominant housing option allowed, with “multi-family” aka apartment complexes as the unwanted but necessary evil second option. Very few jurisdictions leave allowances for anything else. Atypical housing arrangements, like commune-style homes, have to fit themselves in with special permission if they’re LUCKY - in a lot of jurisdictions you are completely shit outta luck if you want to do even something as basic as a garage apartment. Forget a home actually designed for "multiple" overlapping “families”, friend groups, or etc.
I’ll save my rant about the impacts and implications of single-family housing on economic classes, because there’s probably only three people on the planet that care. But just so you know, I am VERY ANGRY about it.