No, you aren’t faking. Your gender feelings exist whether you tell other people about them or keep them to yourself. If you think you are genderfaun, then you are, regardless of whether it will change something in your life or not.

First of all, I want to make it clear that I absolutely do support trans people who do not experience dysphoria. Now, I am dysphoric too, and I understand how the concept of being trans without dysphoria could sound strange at first, so I’ll try to explain it as best as I can.

You know that feeling you have when someone uses the right pronouns for you, or your chosen name, or anyway when your gender is acknowledged? It feels great, right? The first time someone used they pronouns for me I was just amazed. That good feeling is called gender euphoria, it’s basically the opposite of gender dysphoria, and that’s what non-dysphoric trans people’s experience is based on.

Let’s say there is someone named Alex who everyone considers a girl. Alex is not completely against being considered a girl, per se, it doesn’t bring any strong negative feeling. Overall, Alex feels kind of “meh” about it. But as time goes by Alex realizes that being seen as a boy feels better. Alex asks people to use he/him pronouns, he asks to be called a boy, he wants to go to the boys side of the gym at school, he always picks the male avatar in videogames, and so on. In all of this, Alex doesn’t hate his body, he doesn’t feel dysphoric over it. Maybe he’ll want to medically transition anyway, because while he’s not totally uncomfortable he knows he will be more comfortable another way. Or maybe he doesn’t transition, because he’s not particularly enthusiastic about this body but he doesn’t hate it either.

If this example doesn’t clear up things, let me put it this way: I like cherry pie. It’s not something I ever crave or that I would go out of my way to buy, but if I’m at someone’s home and they offer me slice I’ll take it. It’s not that great, but I’m ok with it. On the other side, I love chocolate cake. If I had the choice between cherry pie and chocolate cake, I would say chocolate cake without thinking twice about it. The fact that cherry pie doesn’t make me throw up doesn’t mean I find chocolate cake a lot more satisfactory. Alex, in my example, can deal with being considered a girl, he doesn’t feel too bad about it, but not hating it doesn’t mean being a boy isn’t a greatly preferable option.

Furthermore, a thing I have noticed in this dysphoria-or-not-dysphoria discussion, is that usually people seem to focus on purely physical dysphoria, which isn’t the only kind of dysphoria there is. Social dysphoria is nearly never mentioned anywhere.

Say you have Amy, who is a non-dysphoric trans girl, who is perfectly fine with her body the way it is, really, she doesn’t feel the need to change. But if someone calls her by her deadname, she feels horrible. She can’t stand he pronouns. People calling her a boy make her want to be swallowed by the earth and never reappear again. Being socially considered a boy is pure torture to her, but despite this she never actively hates her body. 

And another thing to keep in mind is, what if you stop having dysphoria? What of trans people, of any gender, who have transitioned, who don’t feel dysphoria anymore, are they cis now? If I could make my dysphoria go away - which isn’t likely at all because as a nonbinary and genderfluid person it’s virtually impossible for me, at the moment, to get rid of all of my dysphoric feelings - I would still be trans. Hell, there are days when I am not dysphoric at all, because since I’m genderfluid sometimes everything matches with my assigned gender, but I’m not like cis for a week or something like that.

To wrap this up, I firmly believe anyone who identifies with a gender different from the one they were assigned at birth, regardless of how much dysphoria they feel, to be allowed to call themselves trans because of it. If you want to know what I, personally, don’t understand, is why a cis person would ever want to deliberately call themselves trans and expose themselves to transphobia if they are just doing it because they want to look cool. Especially in real life, a cis person saying “I’m trans” would soon take it back if they didn’t mean it.

There’s genderfaun

You need to be more specific, anon.

I’m not sure where you heard that stellarian describes the axis of oppression, because I only know it as being an identity. Lunarian isn’t “experiences misogyny/looks like a woman”, solarian isn’t “has male privilege/looks like a man”. Those labels were made precisely to describe how one feels about themselves, not by how society sees them and whether they benefit from privilege or suffer from oppression. They were made to replace terms such as man-aligned and woman-aligned, which some people interpreted as basically man/basically woman.

Besides, in a society that still sees people as always only male or female, where would stellarian fall if we tried to apply it to oppression people face? Would it be the level of privilege/oppression faced by people whose gender cannot be clearly interpreted as either male or female? What about combined labels such as sollunarian and so on, how do they work within the context of oppression?

The alternatives to stellarian I know would be simply saying that you are unaligned, or that you reject alignment language, if you feel that applied to you. But personally I would say you can keep using stellarian.

When you say “as a whole”, you are referring to only yourself or about your system in general? I assume you are asking only about yourself, I apologize if I’m mistaken.

So, being feminine or masculine is not synonymous with being female or male. You can be very feminine but still have a gender that is masculine.

You say you aren’t a trans man but you feel like it sometimes, if you feel male at times but not always you might be genderfluid. You could also be demimale, so partially male and partially not.

If you want advice on how to question yourself, try to figure out if your femininity is only connected to your preferences such as your look, what you enjoy, etc, or if you actually consider yourself to be female, or close to it. Try to imagine if being considered male (or nonbinary) would make you happier than being considered female.

You can try asking someone close to you to refer to you with different pronouns or gendered words to see if you are more comfortable with them than with female ones, or if you don’t have anyone who you trust you can try the pronoun dressing room for starters.