It's also because Sam x Dean, y'all need someone to be the "woman" in the relationship. It's gross and sexist as fuck.
Gay couples do not need a "woman role" or "male role" in mlm couples. Gay men can be bears together. Not everything has to be stereotypical.
Lesbians can be both girly and sweet. Yes they can be fem x masc but they can also be fem x fem
You people just hate to see Sam as what he is. A man who is kind and caring and vulnerable, a man who actually has feelings, a man who's actually somewhat of a decent person.
i agree with you, anon. albeit less harshly, but i’m not going to tell u to be polite about it because you can say what u want in my inbox haha. in regards to what ur saying, i often see the same dynamic with dean and cas, where cas is coded to be ‘the girl’ in the relationship, and this especially picked up after jack was introduced. it’s quite annoying to me personally because it is steeped in heteronormativity (in my eyes) and stereotypical gender roles. in the case of wincest, this is what it turns into: sam is the woman and dean is the man (and this often turns into dean is the abuser and sam is his victim) and i simply don’t see the point in arguing for that’s how things are in canon when that’s not the case. people can do what they want when it comes to headcanons and meta and allat, but i do think when u break down what people are saying it is ultimately rooted in gender essentialism, misogyny, and a pepper shake of homophobia, because as you said, queer couples don’t have a heteronormative dynamic. that concept is rooted in homophobia. and yeah, i think in that regard, you’re right as well. sam is soft [compared to dean] so he’s the woman. like get me out of here lmao men who are kind, caring, and vulnerable do exist. it’s also not an inherently feminine trait to talk about your feelings.