i love an author’s relationship with fanfiction. could we be doing much more than writing 200k of a fanon couple falling in love in a third different way? we could. but we’re pleasantly attached to these character who we relate to, who we dearly adore, and we want to engage in their world through any mean it is allowed. i think that is fairly what writing and art embodies.
people who are non-confrontational to the point where you can’t address any issue with them because they will immediately ignore the actual conversation and just “give up” in the name of appeasement so nothing actually gets fixed are the actual bane of my existence. yes, there’s so many reasons why someone’s go-to response is automatic appeasement without discussion but as an adult you have a responsibility to be able to communicate and problem solve effectively in your relationships, it can’t always be on the other person to ignore issues for the sake of not putting you through anything that vaguely resembles a confrontation.
lol anyways since y’all were already pissed abt this one i do wanna add that if you treat your friend like they’re being unnecessarily “aggressive” or “sensitive” for bringing up a genuine issue they’ve had and go out of your way to avoid addressing it OR you have an issue w something a friend did and instead of bringing it up like an adult, you just hide it and get frustrated/passive aggressive without actually having a conversation: you’re a shitty friend and i hope they stop talking to you
this is going around again for the holidays and i just wanna make it clear: a “fawn” response is not a neutral response. it can be just as harmful and manipulative as anything else. every adult has the personal responsibility to find appropriate means to communicate with the people you have relationships with. while, again, there are plenty of reasons beyond one’s control that could cause a default fawn response, that’s an explanation, not an excuse. you still need to find ways to address issues with other people and respond appropriately when others address issues with you.
