Gay Shark Man

“Trans men are men, but a lot of them don’t like it when you say that” yeah maybe because literally every time you say that it’s not out of actually wanting to validate trans men and our identities or defend us and you actually said it because you want an excuse to talk shit about us and be transphobic

Late night thought but I think the thing that really ties it together for me on transandrophobia/anti transmasculinity stuff is how quickly people will turn on a transfem if they side with transmascs. Like I’ve seen people in real time try to find any way to take a transfems ‘status’ as transfem away when they say they agree with us, saying that they’re not “transfem enough”, accusing them of secretly being transmasc, trying to find any past take that would invalidate them, or just flat out say they’re lying about being transfem. Like these people immediately fall back on transmisogyny if a transfem sides with us, despite accusing us of being the transmisogynistic ones, which kinda comes back to my assumption that these people just want to silence any trans people that don’t agree with them

Idk man I just think the reason people demonizing force masc and praising force fem pisses me off so much is the willful ignorance. Like yeah, being forcibly masculinized (not kink) is pretty traumatizing for trans fems, but I think it’s really interesting how you hype up force fem (kink) while making posts about how forced masculinization (not kink) is horrible and traumatizing to put down force masc (kink) and yet ignoring literally the entire history of force feminization (not kink) (which include things like corrective rape and forced pregnancy) is also traumatic for trans mascs.

Idk man, seems like you’re just cherry picking things that either traumatize or comfort trans people for your own self righteousness.

“Just another man making it about himself.” - someone on *MY*post that *I* made *SPECIFICALLY* about transphobia to trans men

Mfs will be like “We need to listen to and uplift trans voices!” and then when a trans man is in front of them trying to tell them something they plug their ears and go “Lalalalalala I can’t hear you!!!”

Some trans men: *pass relatively easily*

Other trans men: *have a harder time passing*

Other trans men:*can’t bind due to health or financial reasons*

Other trans men: *binders don’t work because of chest size or body type*

Some other trans men: *can’t transition because of home, financial, or safety reasons*

Other trans guys: *struggle to pass despite transitioning and even being on t*

Other trans men: *can’t get on t for health, financial, or safety reasons*

Some other trans guys: *cannot pass no matter what they try*

Dumbasses on the internet: *looks at trans men group #1* “…ermmm….so actually all of you collectively pass very easily! Just put on an oversized flannel! Think about your privilege!”

Something I’ve noticed in my years as a trans guy is the way people talk about us. Like when people like us it’s “boypussy” and “I need to fuck a tboy” (boy, never man) but when people are mad at us it’s “cunt boy” “zipper tits” and “I know their 🐱smells horrible”. Like people can NEVER keep their minds out of our pants, loving us or hating us, and they will always deny our manhood, calling us boys instead of men in some weird and infantilizing fetishy way

I dream for a day that trans fems and trans mascs can all talk about their experiences and discrimination together in peace and harmony instead of having someone throw a fit over “who has it worse”, or what words we use, or how we look, or claiming that we must hate the other, or how we experience things differently, or someone making nasty side comments about the other, or literally just being at each others throats all the time. Why can’t we have that?

Hey so I just wanna remind you that your experience as a trans person is not the only one to ever exist. I had someone in my DMs saying that they, as an older trans man, don’t care about the types of things I post and that they think the people who are saying things about trans men, like trans men not being affected by misogyny or having male privilege, are right because it’s true for them. And hey dude, that’s great! It’s great that you pass and are at a point in your life where misogyny doesn’t affect you! However that does not mean that every other trans man does! I am pre-t, I do not pass, I cannot bind, am in an unsupportive household, and I am generally viewed as woman. I am affected by misogyny and the like every single day, along with transphobia! So if someone makes sweeping generalizations of trans men or say dumb shit like “Trans men don’t experience (X)” etc. then yeah, I’m gonna point it out. And yeah, if someone’s being transphobic to trans men, I’m gonna call it out. Again, it’s great that you’re at a point where things like that don’t affect you anymore, that’s great for you, but take a second to think about how that’s not the case for everyone and why we want to speak up about things that actively affect us!

After my last few posts I ended up on the side of tumblr where people think calling people “theyfabs” and shit like that is okay and it’s just…wow. Like the lack of compassion that you have for other trans people is actually fucking insane. Like yeah some people were transphobic to you, but that doesn’t mean it’s okay to be transphobic back???? And also you are not the only trans person to ever exist and the transphobia that you experience is also not the only transphobia to ever exist??? And other trans people also do not have power over you???

Well guys we’ve finally reached the point where the “transmasc specific transphobia doesn’t exist” crowd has gotten to the point where they say that someone calling a trans man dramatic, slurs, or straight up being told to kill themselves for being trans men is “just being rude”, not transphobia at all because “actually transphobia can only be transphobia if it’s directed at trans women because of the patriarchy”. Fucking crazy

“Why do trans men make a big deal out of everything” hey so that’s actually insane to say especially as anothertrans person

It’s so odd how a lot of people in the community feel so entitled to talk over transmascs on our own experiences. If someone who’s not a transmasc makes an incorrect statement about transmascs and I try to correct it, it feels like a 50/50 on whether they’re going to apologize and correct themselves or scream at me. Almost every single time I’ve made a post talking about my experiences, someone always feels entitled to tell me, a trans man, that my experience as a trans man is wrong. Like this shit is genuinely crazy. Why do I have to wonder if what I say about my experience as a trans man is gonna be “too controversial” for some people because it challenges their opinion on who is and “isn’t” oppressed or if they take me speaking up about the things that happen to me as “hating and speaking over trans women”. It’s so stupid.

I fucking hate how people are complaining about transmascs/men being “centered” in the trans community lately as if transmascs/men have not historically dealt with invisibility and erasure. Like yeah, you’re seeing more transmascs because we’re finally able to speak up about the shit that happens to us. Like think about all the “transmasc centered” things (which is probably mostly on the internet and not in real life trans spaces) you see and how much of it is just…made by transmascs and for transmascs. Of course transmascs are gonna speak up about what we experience now that we have more of a voice dumbass

In the great big year of 2024 can we all finally acknowledge how fucking stupid those “transmasc vs transfem oppression” posts are? You cannot look me dead in the eyes and tell me that you think all transmascs just put on a hoodie and pass, that we don’t get beaten, and that we have great support and literally never go through anything. You also can’t look me dead in the eyes and tell me you believe that every single trans woman ever doesn’t pass, looks like man, is abused and are all defenseless little girls that need to be protected, because that’s just blatantly transmisogynistic. You’re literally helping no one with these posts and are cherry picking each experience. You’re contributing to trans masculine erasure, stereotypes of trans women, and also the “oppression Olympics” that you all claim to hate because you’re LITERALLY MAKING IT A COMPETITION.