Gay Shark Man

“Just another man making it about himself.” - someone on *MY*post that *I* made *SPECIFICALLY* about transphobia to trans men

Some trans men: *pass relatively easily*

Other trans men: *have a harder time passing*

Other trans men:*can’t bind due to health or financial reasons*

Other trans men: *binders don’t work because of chest size or body type*

Some other trans men: *can’t transition because of home, financial, or safety reasons*

Other trans guys: *struggle to pass despite transitioning and even being on t*

Other trans men: *can’t get on t for health, financial, or safety reasons*

Some other trans guys: *cannot pass no matter what they try*

Dumbasses on the internet: *looks at trans men group #1* “…ermmm….so actually all of you collectively pass very easily! Just put on an oversized flannel! Think about your privilege!”

Something I’ve noticed in my years as a trans guy is the way people talk about us. Like when people like us it’s “boypussy” and “I need to fuck a tboy” (boy, never man) but when people are mad at us it’s “cunt boy” “zipper tits” and “I know their 🐱smells horrible”. Like people can NEVER keep their minds out of our pants, loving us or hating us, and they will always deny our manhood, calling us boys instead of men in some weird and infantilizing fetishy way

I dream for a day that trans fems and trans mascs can all talk about their experiences and discrimination together in peace and harmony instead of having someone throw a fit over “who has it worse”, or what words we use, or how we look, or claiming that we must hate the other, or how we experience things differently, or someone making nasty side comments about the other, or literally just being at each others throats all the time. Why can’t we have that?

It’s so odd how a lot of people in the community feel so entitled to talk over transmascs on our own experiences. If someone who’s not a transmasc makes an incorrect statement about transmascs and I try to correct it, it feels like a 50/50 on whether they’re going to apologize and correct themselves or scream at me. Almost every single time I’ve made a post talking about my experiences, someone always feels entitled to tell me, a trans man, that my experience as a trans man is wrong. Like this shit is genuinely crazy. Why do I have to wonder if what I say about my experience as a trans man is gonna be “too controversial” for some people because it challenges their opinion on who is and “isn’t” oppressed or if they take me speaking up about the things that happen to me as “hating and speaking over trans women”. It’s so stupid.

I fucking hate how people are complaining about transmascs/men being “centered” in the trans community lately as if transmascs/men have not historically dealt with invisibility and erasure. Like yeah, you’re seeing more transmascs because we’re finally able to speak up about the shit that happens to us. Like think about all the “transmasc centered” things (which is probably mostly on the internet and not in real life trans spaces) you see and how much of it is just…made by transmascs and for transmascs. Of course transmascs are gonna speak up about what we experience now that we have more of a voice dumbass

In the great big year of 2024 can we all finally acknowledge how fucking stupid those “transmasc vs transfem oppression” posts are? You cannot look me dead in the eyes and tell me that you think all transmascs just put on a hoodie and pass, that we don’t get beaten, and that we have great support and literally never go through anything. You also can’t look me dead in the eyes and tell me you believe that every single trans woman ever doesn’t pass, looks like man, is abused and are all defenseless little girls that need to be protected, because that’s just blatantly transmisogynistic. You’re literally helping no one with these posts and are cherry picking each experience. You’re contributing to trans masculine erasure, stereotypes of trans women, and also the “oppression Olympics” that you all claim to hate because you’re LITERALLY MAKING IT A COMPETITION.

“I told people I was trans, but they thought I’m a trans man and now they’re treating me like a woman and doing nice things for me haha isn’t that nice 😊😊😊”

That. Is. Transphobia. To. Trans. Men. Stop. Celebrating. It. Because. It. Benefits. You.

I’m here to remind you that you’re never going to be “trans enough” for some people. I am a trans man. I am strictly masculine most of the time and use strictly he/him pronouns. I play sports, I work out, and I do generally “manly” activities. I have a gender dysphoria diagnosis, I was masculine as a kid, and I’ve been transitioning for six years. Despite all this, there are still people who will try to point out how I’m “not actually” trans. It ranges from my name (because it’s a “basic transmasc name”), to not having a binder yet, to dying my hair once in a while, and the list goes on. If they disagree with me, maybe over some dumb queer discourse, people will always be trying to find a way that’s I’m “not trans enough”. When I defend other trans people, when I disagree with someone, if I stand up to trans medicalism, they are always trying to find a way that I’m “not actually trans” despite meeting all of their criteria for a “real trans man”, because they don’t like me. So do what you want, dress how you want, use what pronouns you want, use what labels you want, and don’t give a single fuck about anyone that doesn’t like it because in the end you will never be “trans enough” for everyone.

Trying to stay calm and act like everything’s fine and that there’s not a possibility that life is gonna get 10x harder in the next few months

A terf that only posts about how much she hates men came onto my mlm account where all I talk about is how much I LOVE men and this is all I can think about