So I just saw a post from a trans creator that I really looked up to for the past few years saying “As a trans man, misandry is the answer” and it pushed me to make this post saying that man hating does not hurt who you think it does.
The one I feel should be obvious that it’s the basic point of a lot of transmisogyny. “Men are bad” is the biggest talking points that terfs have that harm trans women and be transphobic. This rhetoric literally gets trans women killed because they’re seen as “dangerous men”. It’s terf rhetoric.
It hurts closeted trans women, who often have a lot of self hatred because of this rhetoric, that because they haven’t transitioned that they’re “gross, evil, dangerous men” and that they won’t be loved by the queer community if they’re “not woman enough” for them
It hurts trans men. We’re constantly put down for wanting to be men, and often told to be quiet on our own conversations about transphobia towards us because we’re men. Trans men get shamed for their transition, being told their “switching to the wrong side” or getting shamed for “mutilating their perfect female body”
It hurts closeted trans men, as they’re constantly having the “men are bad and gross” idea pushed on them from people in the queer community, making them scared to come out or ashamed for wanting to be a man. I’ve literally had younger trans men tell me that they were scared to come out and transition because of it.
It hurts queer people attracted to men. Bisexuals are shamed for liking men and are often told that it’s such a shame that they’re attracted to men. The same thing happened to gay men, shamed for their attraction to men. I remember when I realized I was gay and not pansexual that I was so ashamed and scared to come out because only being attracted to men was just “such and awful thing”, getting told by people that they were sorry for me, because being attracted to men was just the worst possible thing that could happen, right?/sar
But you know who it doesn’t really affect? Homophobic cishet men. It doesn’t affect them at all. They leave this conversation with no harm done to them.
It hurts queer people. You are hurting queer people with this rhetoric. Believing “man bad” is giving into the terf ideals you claim to hate. Kill the terf in your brain.
