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skellerbvvt
Anonymous asked:

Why dd you say 'queer' not LGBTQIA+ rights?

skellerbvvt answered:

Because the varied and fascinating ways of being a human being in relation to other human beings is not a laundry list to be recited, nor is it a chance to further split marginalized groups from a support structure, and the term “gay rights” makes me angry because then the subject of discussion is primarily, centrally and solely the legalization of non-normative weddings (which is not, let me add, an unimportant symbol, and is one of those things that is easily measured. An IQ test doesn’t actually measure intelligence, and it’s skewed, and it’s flawed, but it is standardized. It’s something you can point to and go Look. This.) when it should include a range of topics about the state of living in these United States for queer folk of all identities. Like (and this is all just fucking basic):

  • Job security (you should not be at risk professionally for being queer)
  • Personhood security (you should not be treated as an object/token for being queer.)
  • Identity security (you should not have your identity questioned if you don’t display stereotypical or expected behaviors (e.g. a queer man who has identified as gay his whole life falling in love with a cis woman. A transman who finds he’s perfectly happy with himself with T and a top transition, asexuals who masturbate, bisexuals who are in seeming straight relationships, ect.)
  • Chosen gender security (IT’S A FUCKING PRONOUN IT’S NOT THAT GODDAMN HARD, if someone identifies as one gender or another (or another, or both! Or neither) they can portray that identity however they so wish. A transwoman does not cancel herself out of existence by participating in male-coded activities because if I say the phrase “Mary declared war in order to further her political agenda.” Mary is the subject of that sentence and thus dictates who she is, the male-coded activity thus is owned by her, not the other way around.)
  • Right to medical agency security (you should not be turned away by any medical facility/insurance for being queer.)
  • Home and shelter security (We need a better system in place for kids in dangerous/unstable homes in general, but you should not become homeless because you are queer. Either due to parents, or backwards dorm-rules, or any other external factor.)
  • Life security (your life/health should not be at risk for being queer.)

And that’s not even getting into the deep details of daily life. That’s just basic, elementary school stuff. That is yellow+red=orange level shit right there. I am not saying anything new or exciting here. But it’s why I say queer rights instead of Media Conveniently Forgets What All Those Letters Mean rights. Because while labels are important to us to explain who we are, so we can take a deep breath and sigh oh thank god I thought I was broken but it’s actually a real thing, it also  shouldn’t cut them off from someone else who sighed the same thing and picked up a different label. This is not a jostling of which letter is more important, it’s a jostling of let’s not die and let’s give each other the respect we have always deserved because the face of non-normative sexualities is not just two clean-cut white guys who just want to get married, settle in suburbia and adopt 3 kids, it’s people respected as the gender they are and people respected for the relationship they’re in (regardless of how many relationships that may be or what they consist of) and people not at risk for no longer being treated as people.And I will understand if that doesn’t make any fucking sense, but I’m not known for being super coherent, you brought this on yourself I brought whatever follows on myself for not just sending your words off to be eaten by the monstrous nothing between posts.

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#queer#we're here we're queer#mogai#for a while back I used#quiltbag#it's difficult to decide what to tag these things because there's a lot of choices and things being promoted#and a lot of angry talk when you use any one version#because ofc there are people out there who disagree#so I'm stuck with lgbt and mogai#lgbt for more people actually track that tag so the post has a higher chance to be seen#and mogai because so far I've seen it's the most inclusive abbreviation#clearing out my likes
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hannigraham

Hey everyone! I’m sure you remember this lovely post suggesting fantastic movies of queer ladies. And I thought that I might be of help, and give you links to those movies with some lovely lesbian romance.

To see the summaries of the films, check the post that gave me the idea. They make good summaries, and make them funny too. :)

R O M - C O M S
F U N N Y  S H I T
A C T I O N / T H R I L L E R / M Y S T E R Y
P E R I O D  D R A M A S
H O T  A S  F U C K
D R A M A S
T E E N A G E R S ?
T R A N S  W O M E N ?
O T H E R S

YES.

#movies#reference#we're here we're queer#lesbian movies#mogai#quiltbag#important stuff
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strifetxt

during world war 2, “punk” was slang for an effeminate gay man, or the younger partner in a homosexual relationship

bucky affectionately calls steve the 40s equivalent of “twink”

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partytimexelent

could we have a source for this because this is just too damn good. 

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chujo-hime

Punk generally denoted a physically slighter youth who let himself be used sexually by an older and more powerful man, the wolf, in exchange for money, protection, or other forms of support.

From George Chauncey’s Gay New York: Gender, Urban Culture, and the Making of the Gay Male World, 1890-1940, page 88

#Steve Rogers#Bucky Barnes#stucky#punk#mogai#slang#we're here we're queer#quiltbag#hietory lesson#stevebucky
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bumblewyn

File under: Things I did not expect in this month’s Cosmopolitan, but I am quite impressed by. Now if they could write a little more about it that would be great.

(Also if someone who was asexual could actually confirm this is an appropriate and nice response, because I’m assuming it is.)

As an Asexual (not that I speak for anyone, but since you asked, I’ll gladly pitch in my two cents), I think this is a great response! c: Also good that they throw in a site for further education, since there’s different kinds of asexuality.

As an asexual as well I am definitely agreeing with the above. The information and wording in that response was very well put and I’m incredibly proud of Cosmopolitan for doing so.  :)

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upallnightogetloki

Also asexual and I’m very impressed with the response especially considering the magazine it’s in. Well done, Cosmo.

#asexuality#we're here we're queer#mogai#quiltbag#cosmopolitan
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bialogue-group
I gave a speech on bisexual health at a medical association conference a few years ago. One of the attendees, who is a mental health professional — he’s a therapist — wasn’t at my talk, but when he heard the topic of my speech, he told me, "Oh, when I have clients who say they’re bi, I really question it. I really make them talk it through, and we examine it very closely." I said, "What if they say they’re gay?" He was gay, by the way. He said, "Oh, in that case, we just talk about whatever they came to me for."

Amy Andre in “Nothing About Us Without Us” from her speech on problems of Physical Health in the Bisexual Community, at a bisexual roundtable on 23 September 2013 in Washington DC USA (via bialogue-group)

It’s this shit right here that gets me so fucking mad at people who trivialise biphobia and monosexism by saying shit like “oh the worst you get is people thinking you are confused and greedy”, as if those stereotypes has no real consequences for bisexuals.

This is a fucking therapist, a man in charge of helping people overcome mental health issues and trauma, admitting freely that he and his colleagues treat bisexuality as if it is a mental health problem and a symptom of mental disturbance to be treated and cured.

He is telling a bisexual woman that he doesn’t treat gay people the same way and I’m pretty sure that he doesn’t treat straight folks that way, he is singling out bisexuals because he thinks there is something wrong with us identifying that way, because we are, in his mind, confused.

It makes me sick to think that he is making clients doubt and dissect their own sexuality, blamed their bisexuality for their mental state, told them that bisexuality was a symptom or something to take centre-stage over everything because he thinks it’s not as natural or mentally healthy as monosexuality.

This attitude towards bisexuality is endemic to the medical health industry, especially mental health, which is already a problematic field given how much stigma is attached to mental illness.

So many times I hear bisexuals express their anger at being told by qualified therapists and doctors that they were confused, greedy and/or unstable and therefore had to jump through pointless hoops, longer and more invasive therapy sessions, or even worse, threatened with having treatment withheld or taken in a direction completely different from monosexuals because “it’s all in their heads” or “just doing it for attention”. All because the person in charge believes all the shitty stereotypes that seem ever so trivial and not worth combating to biphobia-deniers.

And people wonder why bisexuals don’t come out to health professionals? They wonder why we don’t come out at all? They wonder why bisexuals have a rate of suicide and poor health way above straight and gay people?

Don’t ever tell me that is trivial. Bisexuals die because of these stereotypes, they are killed by these so-called mental health professionals telling them that they need to be cured by denying themselves and are erased after death by monosexism. Fuck everyone who doesn’t think that’s worth caring about.

This is why it is so important to make sure that your therapist is actually bi-competant, or at least bi-friendly. If you cannot find a therapist near you on the Bisexuality-Aware Professional’s Directory, the questions on the list are good ones to ask any therapist who claims to be able to treat bisexuals. (via a-little-bi-furious)

#bisexuality#biphobia#therapy#things not to do once i'm a therapist#we're here we're queer#quiltbag#mogai
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plannedparenthood

Will a trans man’s testosterone therapy make a home pregnancy test inaccurate?

Someone asked us:

Since a transman can still get pregnant while on testosterone (even though the chance is slim), can he still use a home pregnancy test? Or will his hormones affect the results and give a false negative/positive or something?

Don’t worry. The pregnancy test would still be accurate. Pregnancy tests only test for the presence of a specific hormone in the body: Human chorionic gonadotropin (HCG). HCG is a hormone that’s produced after a fertilized egg has implanted into the wall of the uterus. So taking “T” will not interfere with pregnancy tests.

If a trans man gets a positive pregnancy test, he should talk to his health care provider about his options, as testosterone could have an effect on the pregnancy.

-Mylanie at Planned Parenthood

Such important information!!

#pregnancy test#trans*#we're here we're queer#quiltbag#important stuff#up to q
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bumblewyn

Being asexual is like being born without a sense of smell but everywhere you go people are spraying perfume in your face and when you ask them to stop and tell them it’s irritating and you can’t smell the perfume anyway they get huffy and respond with “Don’t lie to me; I can clearly see you have a nose. Everybody has a nose therefore everybody smells things and besides maybe you just haven’t found the right scent yet.” and then you want to scream

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thewolfinhumansclothing

Alexis have you seen this post before?

OH MY GOD

#we're here we're queer#asexuality#asexual#quiltbag#lgbtqa#this is a really good metaphor
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morecoffee
I am tired, not of arguing in favour of equality, diversity and tolerance, but of having to explain, over and over and over again, why such arguments are still necessary, only to have my evidence casually dismissed by someone too oblivious to realise that their dismissal of the problem is itself a textbook example of the f*cking problem. I am tired of being mocked by hypocrites who think that a single lazy counterexample is sufficient to debunk the fifteen detailed examples they demanded I produce before they’d even accept my point as a hypothetical, let alone valid, argument. I am tired of a**holes who think that playing Devil’s advocate about an issue alien to their experience but of deep personal significance to their interlocutor makes them both intellectually superior and more rationally objective on the specious basis that being dispassionate is the same as being right (because if they can stay calm while savagely kicking your open wound, then clearly, you have no excuse for screaming).

Foz Meadows, “I Am So Very Tired” (via morecoffee)

Brilliant.

And extremely relevant.

(via medievalpoc)

#we're here we're queer#quiltbag#racism#sexism#misogyny#diversity#erasure#discussion#up to q
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