You know people are a lot weirder about aros in general than they are about asexuals in general and as a slut I've noticed that.
Like there's a general perception that Aromantic Allosexuals just want sex (derogatory) and then people carry all the baggage of nymphomaniacs (no offense nymphos I love you) or men who objectify their partners over onto those people based on which binary gender the aroallo is closest to and it's like actually I'm pretty sure the lack of romantic attraction doesn't preclude a person from wanting friends. I know for a fact that divorcing sexual attraction from romantic attraction doesn't make you more promiscuous.
Like I am pretty promiscuous I have sex at least once a month and I've pursued romantic connection only about three or four times in my entire life. I know what you're thinking and I want to know why you think that makes me shallow. I am very curious why a man who has sex but doesn't date is seen as predatory. The demonization of male sexuality is tied up in the patriarchy, when will we stop taking the excuses that predators make for themselves are accurate? I'm very curious why a woman who has sex but doesn't date is seen as not valuing herself. Do you think denying yourself pleasure incurs moral superiority? What are you, some kind of fucking Christian?
But most of all I think I'm curious as to why you view sex as selfish? Like there's 7 or 8 billion people out there theres gotta be an aromantic stone top. Sex takes two or more, preferably more, to tango. Just because someone isn't doing it as part of expressing love for the other person doesn't make it a selfish act.