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just a handy little info chart on the spectrums of sexuality.

[ID: a poster that reads "These spectra are all different." Below are four arrows, up to down, each labeled with a different sexuality spectrum.

Sexual attraction

Libido

Sex favourability

Sex positivity

Any combination is possible. Now you know these things exist. If you want to learn more about something, look it up.

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Certified Sex Ed Post!

okay since celibacy always sweeps. I'm rigging this one sorry celibacy soldiers

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Aro/ace ppl be like:

… ace people are some of the kinkiest people ever, where have you been living?

Being polyam is FR like "I'm not aro/ace but I believe in their beliefs"

Posted this an hour ago and already got the tags peer-reviewed twice so here they are in the main post for all to see: #sexual stuff doesn't make/break/define a relationship #People can be meaningful to you in a variety of ways and these are all valuable #The nuclear family is a false ideal #I could go on

Meanwhile being aro/ace is legit like "i'm not polyam but i believe in their beliefs"

I wish some aces would stop excluding other aces with complex sexual experiences. like I get why but you have to realize that being ace does not mean they don't enjoy sexual experiences and it's weird when you complain about allo people and boil it down to "people who have sexual experiences" and also shame people for their sex life and kinks as if your own community doesnt INCLUDE those people. because there are other aces out there who still masturbate, who feel sexually attracted to their own body, who barely experiences sexual attraction but still enjoys sex, who like consuming sexual media, who like sfw kink. being ace is so so much more complex than just "disliking sex". and also aromantic exclusionism in the same genre of posts is something i see a lot. especially aro allos. I hate hate hate seeing a community that SHOULD be inclusive boil down sexuality and exclude people.

Friendly reminder that not all aroace people are completely repulsed.

Everyone's experiences with being aromantic/asexual vary a lot & that's okay.

Nobody can dictate who's actually aromantic/asexual because sexuality is a fluid thing.

You know people are a lot weirder about aros in general than they are about asexuals in general and as a slut I've noticed that.

Like there's a general perception that Aromantic Allosexuals just want sex (derogatory) and then people carry all the baggage of nymphomaniacs (no offense nymphos I love you) or men who objectify their partners over onto those people based on which binary gender the aroallo is closest to and it's like actually I'm pretty sure the lack of romantic attraction doesn't preclude a person from wanting friends. I know for a fact that divorcing sexual attraction from romantic attraction doesn't make you more promiscuous.

Like I am pretty promiscuous I have sex at least once a month and I've pursued romantic connection only about three or four times in my entire life. I know what you're thinking and I want to know why you think that makes me shallow. I am very curious why a man who has sex but doesn't date is seen as predatory. The demonization of male sexuality is tied up in the patriarchy, when will we stop taking the excuses that predators make for themselves are accurate? I'm very curious why a woman who has sex but doesn't date is seen as not valuing herself. Do you think denying yourself pleasure incurs moral superiority? What are you, some kind of fucking Christian?

But most of all I think I'm curious as to why you view sex as selfish? Like there's 7 or 8 billion people out there theres gotta be an aromantic stone top. Sex takes two or more, preferably more, to tango. Just because someone isn't doing it as part of expressing love for the other person doesn't make it a selfish act.

i know i attract more ace followers than anything else lmao so y'all better show up for this one