martenoodles reblogged
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... the second part of a personal essay i wrote about being bigender. this time, about being bigender and transitioning. thank you to everyone who read and enjoyed part one!
#“for some people being trans is running far and fast away from your AGAB and then hesitantly approaching it from the other side”#OUGH#that hit me#I feel like people are constantly asking me why I have certain people use different pronouns for me and don't just commit to the same one#but I feel like I genuinely don't mind if certain people use she#or if others accidentally call me him#I say they/them with most people because it's a comfortable umbrella#with my family I genuinely don't even flinch when they use my AGAB pronouns#but for others I don't want them to know since a lot of people will just ignore my nonbinary gender identity and see me as “more cis”#plus it's just gotten more comfortable for friends to call me they#I didn't really show any “signs” growing up because I didn't really mind my perceived gender and going all out#but I felt like something was missing and that something was different#I'm both and neither and everything and nothing- I'm just me#and having my family use my AGAB pronouns is kinda like a comfort to me bc they're addressing the me they've always known#and having my friends use they/them is knowing that they know me for the person they hang out with and know#so when a stranger uses the wrong pronouns#I know for a fact they're putting a lot of bias and assumptions into how they perceive me already and are ignoring who I've told them I am#rip didn't mean to ramble this long#thanks for coming to my ted talk