i’m trying to get used to the idea of living on my own because i’ll soon be looking for my own place… it’s just… so many things to consider.
First of all, if you can have help from, I don’t know, your family or someone else, get it. It was really useful for me, my mom helped me to find an apartment, buy my stuff, to move in my new place… Since I was working, I didn’t have the time do all of that and, anyway, I would have been quickly overwhelmed, job or not.
Secondly, it’s very important to install a routine right away, in order to do what you have to do. Consider subscribing freely to the website Habitica, it might help you to have a checklist and to respect it.
I had issues with this part, unfortunately, because everytime I left my place (to see my parents, for example), I couldn’t respect my routine and I tended to just let it go, once I came back.
But if you can maintain a routine, try to do your tasks always roughly at the same time and always in the same order, I found out that it helped a lot with my executive dysfunction, for the time I was able to keep up an healthy routine.
Open your windows everyday. If you think you can’t do your dishes everyday, buy a dishwasher or take plastic plates. I did that when I had a room for another job and it helped a lot to not have to wash the plates. I spent already so many spoons on my job…
Make sure that you know what kind of services are close to your place. A supermarket near your apartment can do wonders on your mood and your day-to-day life. Being sure of what can be reached by foot and what cannot (for example, if I want to buy my favorite food, aka Sushi, I have to take my car. Also, no one is doing deliveries near my place, it’s a shame…) can really help you to ease your anxieties.
I might have forget some stuff. Don’t hesitate to ask me. I’m not a stellar model, my apartment is a mess, but I still can help c:.
Thanks so much for the advice.
First off I’d like to say, for me the routine aspect of it doesn’t seem that daunting. I am thinking back from the time I was living with my dad, his girlfriend and my brother, back when i was going to art school. I think that if I was able to take care of the chores of a big house and grocery shopping on my own, while also being in art school and doing my homework for two years, I can handle a tiny flat with only me and maybe a cat. The difference is I wasn’t the one paying the bills. So routine-wise, that’s the real worry: paperwork. (the semi good news is I might qualify for an SAVS, this is a person who can help with all and any everyday task that are challenging. I say semi good, because i’m not sure yet, also i might not even need it in the end).
Second worry: I am on disability, and I will need to re-apply for it next year in january. This is tricky because I was told I need either the support of a psychiatrist or a general practitioner for this. Thing is I ditched my CMP psychiatrist because she’s a dangerous b*tch up to no good, and I am in the process of changing general practitioners because the current one is acting creepy as well when it comes to mental health issues and it’s a mess. Long story short, I have no idea where this will leave me next year when my disability pay rights end in july.
Third worry: all the steps required to get my own place. I am not currently working but the act of getting my own place is a new thing and I don’t know what I’m supposed to do and it’s overwhelming. Like you suggested, I’ll do this with the help of my mom and her friends as much as possible.
Really currently, the “second worry” takes precedent, because I need to know I can be financially stable. I am not worried about being on disability itself, because I am qualified for a lot of financial and other type of help, and I have a relative who lives on disability alone, and has his own place, and it’s just fine. I am worried about personally not being allowed to re-apply.
Since you yourself have a job, I am not sure if this is something you can help with directly. Maybe do you know someone who has gone through the same process? If so, can you reblog and @ them so they can comment? I’d appreciate it. Thank you.
I’m tagging french mutuals because this is french specific now. I need to know my rights as a french disabled citizen, again, if you know someone who is familiar with the process of re-applying for disability, let me know