Machete Landing

Listen, if you liked TLJ, more power to you. But I can't help but resent it more and more the longer time goes by.

I still can't get over how it had the First Order essentially take over the Galaxy within the blink of an eye after their major trump card had been blown up without even a hint about how the fuck they accomplished it.

I still can't get over how the New Republic went from the major power in the Galaxy to consisting of, like, a dozen people practically overnight with no explanation.

I still can't get over how Finn's past as a stormtrooper who was kidnapped and enslaved as a child was used as a plot device but basically ignored in terms of his characterization, to the point that Rose gave him a lecture on the evils of slavery.

I still can't get over how it split up the two characters who had the most on-screen chemistry and one of the most well-developed relationships from the previous film.

I still can't get over how the only meaningful way it advanced the plot was by killing off the Big Bad.

I still can't get over how the stakes felt like the mid-season episode of a TV series and not the second film in a trilogy.

I still can't get over how the only additional bit of worldbuilding--Canto Bight--went out of its way to establish that the rich and powerful of the Galaxy do not give a single fuck about which side of conflict wins, further cementing the impression that the rest of the Galaxy is just kind of...getting on with their lives. That, beyond the personal stakes for the characters we see on-screen, none of what's happening actually matters.

Like, TFA has issues too. It's fundamentally a soft reboot and not really a sequel. But TLJ also felt like a soft reboot instead of a sequel. It had the chance to build up the bare bones established by TFA...and it tore them down instead.

And then I still have people trying to make out like it's a moral failing, or a sign of being some lore-obsessed loser with bad taste, that I didn't like it.

It's very, very frustrating.

Women: The patriarchy hurts men too!

Men: You’re right–here are ways in which modern society specifically disenfranchises us.

Women: Whoa! White Male Rage! You weren’t supposed to actually discuss your problems; we were just going to give them the barest, most mealy-mouthed hint of acknowledgment before you shut up and give us your support. Then, we solve all OUR problems and your problems magically go away or something, who cares, whatever.

Listen I would die for Jameela Jamil

I just… love her… so much we don’t deserve her

When you’ve got low self esteem and are having a bad day

“Only women”. She lost me there. The second you gender the issue and assume that men dont deal with it, as a vocal activist, is exactly when you become part of the problem. She almost certainly just listened and looked for women speaking up, and made the assumption that it only happened to women. That ahe dealt with it and she’s a woman, so it must only happen to women.

This is exactly why so many men stay quiet about their issues. It isnt “toxic masculinity”, it’s men constantly being told by vocal and influential people that it isnt an issue for them. That it’s a women’s issue. It’s constantly seeing only one type of voice being heard. So they quiet down, not wanting to be accused of taking the spotlight, the activism. But all they ever wanted to do was share it. Which is apparently too much to ask.

This is why we get those posts about anorexic men with a bunch of “I never even thought of men suffering from anerexia” comments. Those posts about suicidal men who felt inadequate with comments of disbelief that men also have these thoughts. As if men were this seperate species. You think men and women dont see all those impossibly fit underwear models? You think men and women dont see those impossibly fit male backup dancers dancing sexually with the female singer? You think men and women dont see those incredibly fit actors or incredibly fit men on commercials and billboards? Men have those same thoughts of inadequacy. They just arent allowed to vocalize them.

And it wasnt some small slip. She went out of her way to insist that it only happens to women. Like imagine if I brought up the issue of suicide and stated that it only happens to men. I was prepared to praise her, but now I question if she really deserves it.

MEN think they have is so BAD when REALLY it isn’t my place to say whether or not their issues, no matter how big or small, are insignificant to my own, because what may seem like a small issue to me could be a huge issue to them and instead of disrespecting their issues they should be understood, respected and supported.

this was my favorite plot twist

Teenage boys should be aware that they’re supposed to look like the picture on the left; not the guy on the right who is probably about 10 years older than them, and has worked long and hard to look the way that he does. 

^important

Can’t deny it..

true, even for women. But you guys should not be afraid of us hurting you. Like most of us got 0 intention to hurt you

Yeah well we are still afraid

Then that’s your problem if you are a bunch of babies who doesn’t want to face things in a mature way.

Thats..exactly why we are afraid? We are terrified of ridicule

Ridiculous is that fear. So that’s all up to you guys.

Open up which is NEVER ridiculous, or keep hiding and messing up things. You will end up regretting.

Well fear isn’t rational but poor relationships,being told to man up,terrible partners,crippling anxiety have ways of making people afraid

We all face fear but the thing is to face it.

Boys out there if you ever say to your girlfriend in a calm, honest tone: “Ey, look I feel that we have some kind of problems in this area, I feel anxious about (…) when you(…). May be we should find another way of solving it. How do you feel about it?”

NO woman EVER would say a things such as: “Oh. So you feel like that? What a baby! You should be the men”

And if she does, you better find a better gfriend who respects you as a human and not as a label(bfriend)

Most likely to happen: “But I feel this way too” “I feel (…) when you(….) so I just(…)”

Because the less you speak about it the more angry we get and the easier we shout.

So better to face your fear and talk than shutting up while all the anger is accumulating in you and in her, ending in fights if not a split.

It’s not mature neither to your personal development neither to the relationship

@birthday-william-dudley-pelley you need to get rid off that idea that you need to man up. Is not helping you, your relationships or even society.

Man, I’m gonna be real with you, the only reason I scrolled through your blog was because you claimed that there was some version of this thread that would clarify everything… is this supposed to be that??

No woman ever would call a man a baby or tell him to “be the man”? Yeah, no, you’re wrong. Abusive and manipulative women are a thing, and men (and women) get hurt by them, and like all trauma victims men can also put up walls and close off emotionally when victimized by abusive women.

You immediately follow that “NO woman would EVER” with “and if she does” like… okay, so you do agree that some women are terrible? But I still gotta disagree with your reasoning, thinking of somebody as a label isn’t the only reason that a woman may mistreat her partner.

“The less you speak the more angry we get and the easier we shout.” wow umm… maybe try not, y'know, shouting at your partner at all? Yeah, I think that’s a good first step on the road to not abusing your boyfriend. A good second step is not blaming him for your angry outbursts. Learn to control your anger and your urge to call people babies for opening up about their feels, and maybe then they’ll start to feel more comfortable talking to you… if you make yourself an aggressive, patronizing, and berating presence then yeah, people aren’t gonna wanna open up to you.

It’s hard for anyone to open up emotionally, especially people who’ve been victimized in the past, but you can’t just go around calling people babies for feeling fear or struggling with expressing their emotions. Even though I fully agree that communication is important, it’s earned by showing somebody that they are supported and safe and loved, not by calling them a baby and threatening them with anger and shouting if they don’t open up.

Your first comment also immediately assumes that it’s straight men finding this hard in romantic relationships because of a fear of women, and that’s really just a massive oversimplification and erasure, and that stains this entire conversation from the get go. Like I said, everyone can have trouble opening up, in friendships, in relationships, to family, even to mental health professionals - the trouble men seem to especially have doing so could be linked to our massively larger suicide rate. Maybe this is an issue to be taken seriously, instead of telling men to stop being babies lest the women get angry and shout at them? And maybe stop blaming people for the fact that they’ve been told their whole lives - by their mothers and other women as much as anyone else - to “man up” and are thus having some trouble letting go of that? He’s not hurting society by struggling and fearing, society and individual people hurt him.

(Also telling somebody with anxiety to just face their fear is like… not how mental health conditions work and is basically the equivalent of “man up” so like… yeahhhh, you’re constantly throughout this post reinforcing this shit bruh.)

~ Vape

Yeah a lot of this shit was just victim blaming across the board. It’s just an endless tirade of, “we wouldn’t be so manipulative and shitty if you spoke up more,” with a heavy dose of totally not saying it in those words, buttttt “You neeed to maaaNNN up! And YoU NEd TO GeT OVEr YOr ConCEP of BeINNNG toL TO MAN UP!” Nah bitch, women are complicit in this shit and frequently so. Women gotta own up to their bullshit and accept accountability for it, and only then will this problem start to mend.

Exactly!

Plus trizentp’s first reblog immediately implies that the only reason that we don’t man up face our fears is because we’re scared of women.

Rather than “Hmm, maybe being told not to express emotions, having their wants ignored, having been victimized and then laughed at for having been victimized, seeing that happen to other men, having untreated mental health issues, and all of the other fuckery that men have to endure kinda coulda contributed to men typically not being as emotionally articulate as women?” the line of thinking is just “Clearly men are simply scared of women.”

As if that’s the only time that this shit affects guys, when the suicide rates and the lack of men getting adequate mental health treatment strongly suggest otherwise.

~ Vape

People like Tri will say this shit and then call it misogyny when men spend more time with their male friends than their girlfriends.

Rather than expecting men to express how they feel in the same way as we do it as women. Perhaps we ought to be letting men teach us how they do it for themselves.

This great website has lots of useful information.

https://www.artofmanliness.com/articles/loss-grief-and-manliness-what-every-man-should-know-about-losing-a-loved-one/

https://www.bolde.com/13-ways-guys-express-love-without-words/

And….

“Because the less you speak about it the more angry we get and the easier we shout.“

And shouting at people is fucking abusive and why people don’t open up.   

And guys deal with emotion differently than women – neither is wrong, but they are different.    

People like trizentp are why I’ve pretty much never opened up to anybody about any problem I’ve ever had and instead just hid it away. I know it’s not good, and at this point in my life I’m seeing the consequences more and more clearly, but it is what it is.

Same here. I know what it’s like.