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Make sure you’re checking up on both parents when they have a baby, especially if it’s their first 

It’s overwhelming and intimidating for dads just like it is for moms. Give them support and encouragement too

I would say it’s overwhelming for dads in different ways than it is for moms, which is important to recognize.

- Dads rarely get paternity leave or any time off work after baby is born. They often want to be home taking care of their wife and child, but they can’t. This can be stressful and lead to men feeling helpless and frustrated, not to mention friction in the relationship because the mother would also like him to be home!

- Dads sometimes have a harder time bonding (less time with baby due to going back to work) and may feel guilt from that

- Dads may have questions about what is going on for both mom and baby, especially in those first few weeks, but be afraid to ask for fear of being mocked or dismissed for not knowing.

Ways to support first-time dads:

- If you are an employer, offer paternity leave!

- If you are a coworker, is there a way to help lighten the new dad’s load so he can be home more, especially in the first month?

- Low-pressure social invites - don’t make him feel bad or make fun of him if he says no to hanging out with friends after work because he needs to be home. He may still want to hang out now and then (we all need some level of social connection), so don’t stop inviting him entirely.

- Listen if he wants to share about what’s going on. Men are less likely to just want to talk, but if you are a close friend or family member he may be more willing to open up.

- Don’t make fun of him. Answer questions (or help him find answers) without judgment. Fatherhood is a beautiful thing - it’s not the end of his life, it’s not a ball and chain, it’s not a burden. He’s not dumb for not about knowing things he’s never experienced before. He’s not less masculine for wanting to be there for his wife and child. He does have an incredibly important role to play as a father, and that role shouldn’t be belittled or dismissed.

this shit fucked me up

@ those who need to hear it:

A working father (especially when only one parent is working) is contributing to parenting.

Imagine working all day to keep your kids (and wife/girlfriend) housed, fed, clothed, educated, and entertained, just to come home to be told youre doing nothing to help.

Same energy as telling a stay-at-home mother that she isnt contributing because she doesnt have a paying job.

Infuriating.

thankful to have had a good father growing up because poor male figures really have messed up a lot of people to the core

THE SACRIFICE HAS BEEN ACCEPTED, ENJOY YOUR SHOPPING

this is so cute and wholesome and I'm dead over it I'm crying

It does not matter how horrible our day may be. Our love keeps us alive.

My husband’s job primarily employs adult men but there is one (1) teenage girl and my husband said originally he worried she might be a bit of an outcast but instead every man on the crew was like “huh guess I am a dad/older brother now.”

She was in a car crash on the way to work one morning and called my husband to let him know she’d be late and he was like wtf guess I’m gonna be late too because I’m coming to pick you up and then he told his team and they were like I think you mean WE are coming.

Imagine you are a teenage girl probably rushing to get to work and you crash your probably new car and feel absolutely miserable and now you’ll be late to work but then suddenly in the distance a car full of all the adult men you work with just pulls up and is like “we came all the way here to pick you up” the mental image right now is fr.

Apparently she tried to call her dad but it was 3am and he was obviously sleeping so she called my husband and he not only came to find her but fished her glasses out of the hood of the car (she’d dropped them while looking inside), drove her to the hospital, and told her to take the day off. She insisted on coming back to work so he used his lunch break to watch TV with her to make sure she didn’t doze off (concussion risk).

You’ve heard of the Mom friend but my husband is very much the Dad friend. He said when he answered the phone she said “hey please don’t be mad” and he’s never felt such powerful Fatherhood energy in his life.

Girl: *calls for aid*

Every single dad packed into the car:

This is possibly my favorite response to this post

Father is a acrobat. His daughter inherited all his talent genes. 

(Source)

How cute is this 😊😇