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Damn. Something like this wouldn’t make my day. It’d make my year.
I can count on one hand the number of times I’ve had any kind compliment regarding my looks in all my 43 years. I can remember each one because they’ve been so rare.
I know I already don’t like compliments but I especially don’t like compliments I can’t do anything with. “Nice pen” what am I supposed to say? “Thanks I paid money for it?”
When someone is complimenting an owned item, a few things you can go with are "thanks! I got it at [store]!" or "yes, isn't it cool? I got it on a great deal!" or "thank you! I found this gem at a thrift store/it used to belong to x/I inherited it from x". Even if it's some story you think is inconsequential, that's not really the point, the point is small talk, which an inconsequential story can provide
I experienced something like this just yesterday at work, funny enough also involving a pen. I signed a form to change my hours and handed my boss the pen, and as she signed it she said, “Oh my god, your pen is so nice.” I laughed and said, “Thanks. I’ve been using the same kind for years because it’s a simple design and comfortable.” She was like, “That’s so cool. When you find something you like, you stick with it.”
I still remember when a girl called me “cute” in 6th grade, which was now over 30 years ago, and when another girl online said my new glasses made me look handsome. That was in 2014.
me irl
I’m not here to be understood like this.
Me trying to leave a comment on a fic I love but not knowing what to say
Remember there was a post floating around about how men mistake compliments for flirting because they can’t fathom being nice to women unless there’s sex involved? Turns out they just get treated like shit.
The comments here sure are full of people blaming this on men… how surprising
Tumblr can’t fathom the idea that a smile is sometimes enough to sustain some guys for a week and a compliment remembered can have us smiling 20 years later.
I felt good for like a week when a girl said I looked nice in my new eyeglasses several years ago. And a girl in school said I was cute one day, and I still remember that 30 years later.
Your impact on other people is bigger than you think. Someone still giggles when they think of that funny thing you said. Someone still smiles when they think of the compliment you gave them. Someone silently admires you. The advice you give has made a difference for people. The support and love you’ve offered others has made someone’s day. Your input and opinions have made someone think twice. You’re not insignificant and forgotten. Your existence makes a positive difference, whether you see it or not.
It’d be nice if this was true, but I seriously doubt that anybody admires me or that I’ve made any kind of difference in anybody’s life.
I’m losing my fucking mind.
oh my god
my favorite part is that the guys just go along with it in spite of confusion/misgivings because they don’t want to miss out on stickers.
My favorite post
“It’s a bit annoying sometimes but she call us handsome when we do and I don’t hear that very often” OH MY GOD
the hero we need
Okay, but this is actually a good thing tho.
These guys are socially awkward at the very least, and as someone with multiple mental illnesses, from depression to autism, self care and personal hygiene stop being priorities when you just lack the giveadamn and your social group is made up of people who probably share a mental illness or two in common with you, so having someone who actually gives a shit about your wellbeing enough to teach you what your screwed up brain robbed you of in your formative years would be really fucking nice. And from the sound of things, she isn’t being patronizing or infantilizing about it either. This is from 4chan, so we’d have a rant if the OP felt she was mocking or belittling him.
4chan is literally a congregation site for socially awkward/inept/damaged people. As a whole, they aren’t really gonna teach you self reliance and personal improvement skills outside of the boards specifically dedicated to that shit.
If this story is true, whoever this woman is is a gotdam saint for using her own time to help a buncha dudes who, in all likelihood, just don’t have the self-worth to give a shit about themselves.
This is right up there with shrimp anon, imho.
And of course OP and most of tumblr is laughing at it, because y'all hate recovery.
Socially awkward men: Respond positively to positive reinforcement and compliments becauae they are starved drom kindness in their life.
This site: wait that is illegal
Remember there was a post floating around about how men mistake compliments for flirting because they can’t fathom being nice to women unless there’s sex involved? Turns out they just get treated like shit.
The comments here sure are full of people blaming this on men… how surprising
Tumblr can’t fathom the idea that a smile is sometimes enough to sustain some guys for a week and a compliment remembered can have us smiling 20 years later.
I can probably recall every compliment I’ve ever gotten in my life because there have been so few, especially when it comes to anything related to my appearance.
