If your defense of someone not liking something is immediately 'you're homophobic', it makes me wonder if you only like it because it's queer.
Because I don't dislike bucktommy because it's a m/m ship. I'm queer. I want representation on my screen. I fight for more representation. I prioritize reading and watching media with representation because that's important to me.
I don't like BuckTommy because they don't have chemistry and I don't like Tommy as a character. And I think Buck deserves a better love interests who shows more interest in him and is a shoulder to lean on instead of having someone dismiss his feelings over and over again.
I didn't dislike the daddy issues comment because it's said by a gay man. Shocker: men having sex doesn't freak me out or surprise me.
I didn't like it because the timing was not good. Buck’s father figure literally died for 14 minutes and could've died again. And a few moments later there's a sex joke about daddy's. While Buck’s dad just died. And he's being open about having been scared. And that's what he gets.
We're not 'homophobic straight women' for not liking that. And also, why are you erasing queer people's identities to frame it that way? Is that all you have to defend it?
I really feel like a lot of people only like bucktommy because it's a queer ship. And sure, you do do. That's allowed. It's nobody's business. But to say thay someone not liking them is homophobic when there are multiple valid reasons not having anything to do with the ship being queer... it just feels very off to me.
Do I have to like every queer ship because I'm queer? Am I not allowed to want better relationships for my favorite character? Do I just have to take the crumbs they give me?