coworker asks if i like harry potter and i have to make a disco elysium skill check to come up with a response
CIS COWORKER — Hey you seem really into wizards and stuff, I bet you love Harry Potter :)
EMPATHY — He’s just trying to be polite and make conversation. He doesn’t know about JK Rowling’s opinions on trans people. Let’s politely change the subject.
COMPOSURE [Trivial: Failure] — “Kill yourself.”
“i have of late lost all my mirth” should be a valid reason not to come in to work
working class hero
I would like to see more people talk about how jobs treat disabled employees.
I used to prep, wash dishes, and cook at mellow mushroom. I had chronic pain that wasn't NEARLY as bad as it is today, but it was still very debilitating. I told my employer "i cannot stand more than 4 to 6 hours. I CANNOT do shifts longer than this due to my illness." And even though i made my boundaries VERY clear, everyday i worked it was 8 hours at the least and 10 or 12 at the most. I would go up to my manager and say "look i really need to leave, my shift is over, my chronic pain is killing me." And he'd say "we really need to here, you HAVE to push through." And so i did, and after one, ONE month of that job my crps got incredibly worse to the point where i could no longer walk my dog around the block which was .5 miles. I quit, and that was FOUR years ago, and ever since that day I HAVE BEEN BEDRIDDEN AND HAVE TO USE A WHEELCHAIR. It is my biggest regret in life.
My best friend who has seen my whole journey has recently developed undiagnosed chronic pain, and she is in the EXACT same scenario i was 4 years ago. Busting her ass at a pizza place with extreme pain that hurts her so much she tells me "im in so much pain i don't even feel like a person." She doesn't feel LUCID. And her manager and coworkers are saying the same thing "if you don't help us you will let us down, we'll be in the shit."
That job thats hurting you isn't fucking worth it. I promise you no money is worth losing all your physical abilities and never getting them back. Your coworkers and boss do not give a shit about you, so don't you dare suffer for them. They will never understand your struggle and they will never try. They truly think being understaffed is worse than whatever pain you experience. They would rather you permanently damage yourself than inconvenience them. FUCK THEM. DON'T FUCKING DO IT!
I would absolutely agree with this in the sense that you definitely shouldn’t put yourself through shit like this for your bosses’ sake. It’s true that generally bosses don’t care about you or your health and well being. And also, bosses are not legally obligated to accommodate disabilities that have not been formally declared/when the employee has not followed the formal process for requesting accommodations. There ARE laws (hello ADA, in the USA) that protect the rights of workers with disabilities and allow for reasonable accommodations to be provided. But just saying you need a shorter shift or asking to leave early is not the process for requesting official disability accommodations.
Often these requests have to go through Human Resources, but making the request to your supervisor is a good place to start. “Hello, I need to request accommodations for a disability/medical condition. What is the correct process for this?” Feel free to include more info in the initial request as well. Make the request in writing so there’s a paper trial. They will probably require some form of documentation so make sure you’re prepared to ask a medical provider write a letter for you if needed.
Making a request doesn’t automatically mean you’ll get the accommodations you want, because there will need to be a conversation about what is “reasonable” and what won’t cause “undo hardship” on the employer. But this is something to negotiate and if they deny them there’s gotta be a good reason. The example OP gave of 4-6 hour shifts and not being on their feet longer than that is a very reasonable request and pretty typical too. If you make a request like this and it’s ignored, you don’t…need to just keep suffering? Take it to your supervisor’s supervisor. Take it to HR. Bring up the EEOC. Say you’re going to make a complaint to the EEOC unless you have a meeting asap about disability accommodations.
It’s really important for disabled folks to learn about their rights and to develop skills for advocating for themselves. Yes, capitalism sucks and yes it’s awful that people often won’t give a shit unless we force them to. And, there are laws that protect us. There are things we can do. We don’t have to suffer and we also don’t have to just quit and be unemployed when the job as it’s initially laid out doesn’t work for us. Employers don’t wanna get sued and they don’t wanna get in trouble for discrimination with the EEOC. Also, unionize!! Or looked for unionized jobs. Since those are also way more likely to have even better protections. At any rate, there are options. The options are not: 1) suffer or 2) quit. There’s a lot of space in-between those.
If you have been in a situation like me please look into what this person is saying. Going to HR for accommodations didn't even occur to me. Especially in food jobs there is a lot of pressure to work hard, fast, and not complain. I didn't consider anything like this because everyone around me was saying "this is what everyone has to do, you aren't special" we are taught to have pride in how much or job beats us up. The more burns on your arms from the oven means you're a badass since you ignored it and kept working. When you get cut or burned you KEEP WORKING. Once a guy spilled hot bacon grease all over him and had to go to the hospital, not only was he back to work in the kitchen a few days later, but employees shit talked him for even missing those few days. We really need to remind people that "normal" doesn't mean its okay. You need to care about yourself and your body above EVERYTHING. I was not the only one with chronic pain in that kitchen, mine was just most severe. I can tell you probably at least half the people working there had some kind of health issue the job was worsening, including my boyfriend, a line cook, who has chronic pain in his elbows and was dealing with constant pain there from getting heavy pizzas in and out of the oven all day everyday at a fast pace. Kitchens are fucking brutal.
I’m so sorry this happened to you OP. Those working conditions sound horrifying and I totally agree there’s this culture of just needing to suck it up and work harder and not complain. I had a shitty job at a movie theater for a while where I’d be in excruciating pain from standing at the door taking tickets for hours or I’d be getting constant burns on my arms from making popcorn in the big popper for hours. I didn’t know accommodations were a thing back then either. I don’t know why they wouldn’t let employees just sit in a fucking chair but I also didn’t know I could legally advocate for that.
I know having the ADA and EEOC doesn’t mean that people’s rights are gonna just magically be protected. I see rights violations against disabled people every single fucking day and it’s infuriating. I know sometimes there are zero options. I’ve seen so many inhumane things happen and it’s hard for me to feel so powerless on a regular basis. And, I hope this info can make a difference for at least some people who, like me and you, didn’t know this was a thing, but maybe coming across it now can make things a little bit easier for them in the future.
Expanding a bit on the post I just reblogged, I absolutely HATE how a surprisingly large portion of the population now thinks that feminism is synonymous with being a "girlboss". The idea that working some kind of professional job and being successful at it is the only way to do feminism is insane. People will literally say "feminism has failed us" or "I'm giving up on feminism" when they're unhappy with their jobs. Babes idk how to explain this to you but that is not a problem with feminism that is a problem with your job. You don't need a rich man to provide for you while you take care of the kids you need a goddamn union and some paid leave
The reason why feminists of past generations fought for middle to upper class women to leave the house and join the workforce was not because they thought working a job is some kind of emotionally fulfilling activity. They fought for that because housewives at the time were completely at the mercy of their husbands. If you were a housewife and your husband was abusive, or you just didn't love him anymore and wanted out, you had nowhere to go. You had no money because he controlled the finances, you had no car or place to stay because his name was on the title for both, you had no job because you stayed at home and no education or work experience with which to get a job because you probably got married pretty young. The point of getting women into the workforce was to make women less dependent on men because if you depend on someone for the roof over your head and the food on your plate, they can do whatever the fuck they want to you and you'll have absolutely no recourse.
The natural next step of this thought process should be "ok, now women are in the workforce, they are not dependent on men in the way they once were, how can we change the structure of work such that it doesn't make everyone fucking miserable" giving up on feminism because your predecessors fought for the right for you to have a well-paying job and your job sucks is such an intellectually lazy conclusion to come to.
Like hey, if you've ever thought "working for a living is miserable, I wish I had a man to pay all the bills" do yourself a favor and ask yourself why that was the solution your brain went to? Why is it that when you feel like work is sucking your soul, the first solution you go to is to become a housewife? Maybe it's because as a girl, you were taught that being a housewife is a good and admirable thing to do, and even though you were also taught that it's good to have a career as a woman, everyone for your whole life has always been subtly, gently nudging you toward the idea of "settling down". Have you considered that perhaps that is an expression of a system of social organization that prioritizes the needs of men over women and encourages women to submit to the whims of men? You know, like some kind of *patriarchy*? Damn if only we had some kind of ideology to combat that...
put another way
Tomodachi Ijou - Only 5 cm
the real danger of spending too much time with friends is you stumble out of ten days of happiness and good food like oh my god THAT was real life. my job means NOTHING
what's your favorite character in the coworkerverse? mine is pathetic new hire
When it’s already fucked up then you got work on top of all that
i sent this gif to a black cowowker at work then later asked my white manager if he likes apple fritters and he was like "i fuckin love apple friters" and she laughed so hard she got a migraine
Maybe there wouldn't be as many issues with the crystal maze if GUMBIES POSTED DOCUMENTATION. HOW THE FUCK DO YOU WORK YEARS ON A STABLE GUMBIES CLIENT SPIDER API AND NOT WRITE A LINE OF DOCUMENTATION DO YOU WANT PEOPLE TO NOT USE YOUR SOFTWARE???
Also, these websites? The ones for software that sells it without actually explaining what they do? They're targeted at managers. Their business strategy is to convince your manager that the project desperately need gumbies with no consideration over whether or not this makes sense in the given context. They abuse the fact that if your boss asks you to use gumbies, no matter how many times the entire technical team explains to them that this makes no sense, your project is going to end up with gumbies.
They're targeted to "our hydrologic piston design needs to implement AI" type of managers. The "Tumblr needs to be the next generation's pdf" type of boss.
a great thing about people transitioning is it presents us with scenarios where we have the perfect control variable to undeniably reveal sexism in the workplace. I read about a trans man neuroscientist who was told he was “so much smarter than his sister” (his sister being his pre-transition self)
and damn i knew the gaming industry was notoriously sexist (even more sexist than other stem fields, and that’s saying a lot) but seeing it laid out so clearly like this is so demoralizing.
Ben Barres was that neuroscientist
Barres has been discussed a lot by my peers, and is generally considered an icon for people like me. And his biting statements on sexism are a HUGE part of that. I don’t have much to say other than yes, it’s a big problem and still is.
open a window at least dawg
i think he types like this
getting reprimanded for not using the smoking room
big weekend plans
Work vacuum died. This is the fifth one since I started working here five years ago.
The first one died because my coworker vacuumed up rocks.
The second one died because my coworker vacuumed up rocks.
The third one died because my coworker vacuumed up rocks.
The fourth one died for unknown reasons that involved my coworker vacuuming up rocks.
The fifth one died a few minutes ago and it was a big mystery and my coworker was like “oh I don’t know what happened it just overtaxed for some reason” so I looked inside the hose and—get this—it was jammed with rocks.
He keeps buying bigger and more expensive vacuums and complaining about how shitty and faulty the last ones were and every time I suggest something like “what if you didn’t vacuum up rocks” he’s like oh no it is the vacuums who are wrong.
To be completely fair: he did not vacuum up rocks on purpose this time.
He simply “couldn’t see what he was vacuuming” and didn’t check first to make sure that it was not, in fact, rocks.
I asked my boss if this makes vacuum number four or five and she said it’s closer to nine, and that he already had a sizable body count before I started working here.
And yes, this is all the same coworker.
I must not rocks. rocks is the vacuum-killer. rocks is the little death that brings total obligation. I will avoid my fear. I will not permit it to pass over me or through me. and when rocks has gone past, I will turn my regular eye to see where it is. where the rocks are, there will be no vacuum. both rocks and vacuum will remain.
Hey a reminder to all salaried employees in the US that as of today, July 1st, you need to be making at least 43,888 per year or else your employer needs to pay you overtime at a rate of 1.5 per hour over 40 worked, as you are now non-FLSA exempt. On January 1st 2025 this number will increase to 58,655 per year. Don’t let your employer cheat you.
everybody is drooling for the blond guy from dungeon meshi. that guy is 100% real and I know like six of him, what you are looking for is a marine biologist
1. spends a long amount of time doing something weird far away from society
2. will not stop talking about their animal
3. has definitely eaten their animal and has strong opinions on how to cook it best
If you are into the sexy dwarf what you want is a mycologist btw
real interaction i had at work
