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The Friendly Black Hottie.

@lookatthewords / lookatthewords.tumblr.com

Hey. I’m Colette. The ripe old age of 20-something. I write stuff and things. WritingWithColor is my diverse writing advice blog. I'm all about PoC, particularly Black + Woman of Color Issues, Writing, Diverse Beauty, Art, Self-Love, and funny ish.
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Cannot recommend WDHDT highly enough. I’ve found it helpful not just for romantic relationships, but also for growing up w a “unexplainable/uncontrollable” dad.

IT HAS ALSO BEEN REALLY HELPFUL FOR UNDERSTANDING ONLINE MOB HARASSMENT.

So if you’ve ever been bombarded w threats to be raped/killed, (so…if you’re a minority and you’ve been on the Internet for a while), this book might be useful for getting clarity around the whole entitled, abusive mindset that drives certain kinds of people to behave that way. And by “getting clarity”, I mean (for me) being able to go “oh, that’s what’s happening” and not really feel scared anymore. Or angry, or drawn out into it, or anything.

And if you’re still standing around going “but how does something like GamerGate happen?” or “but why do men hit their wives?” or whatever – please read that book and learn something.

^^^^ truth WDHDT is fantastic at cutting down MRA bullshit and calling it what it really is

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swampseer

Please consider reading these. WDHDT is really, really helpful. And I know some of you are struggling with abusive relationships, friendships, families, etc. You’re not alone. There is help.

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heysawbones

Yo. This family holiday, please, please take care of yourself. You aren’t there to be anybody else’s cushion.

Reading any of these books does not mean you don’t love your parents or family.  It’s just self care for helping you cope and not repeat the behaviors. 

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• Use the hand you write with.

• Make a fist with your thumb outside, not tucked inside. If it’s tucked inside your fist, when you punch someone, you might break your thumb. The thumb goes across your fingers, not on the side.

• Don’t be like in the movies—don’t aim for the face. Face punches don’t usually stop people, and you can miss when they duck their head or break your hand on their jaw. If you want to get away quickly, or end a fight, aim for the chest, or the ribs. If you really want to do some damage, e.g., you’re being attacked, aim for the throat, which will make it hard for your attacker to breathe for a hot minute.

• When you punch, you want to aim and hit with your first two knuckles. Not the flats of your fingers, and not your ring or pinky knuckles, which can break more easily. You can use your weight, if you’re on your feet, to add wallop, and spring into a punch with your feet and torso.

Useful information, esp. if you haven’t taken self defense.

I reblogged this once before to add this and I’ll do it again…

keep your wrist straight.

You can also risk breaking your wrist if you allow it to bend.  I actually can’t believe this isn’t in there.

Other good pointers:

  • if your attacker is male, go for his junk - especially if he’s wearing loose pants. There’s no sportsmanship when it comes to assault so fuck them balls UP
  • punching pretty much ANYWHERE in the face is going to actually hurt you a LOT (just think - you’re punching your bones into their bones and ow). If you’re going for the face, my suggestion is to strick upwards with your palm.

see that meaty portion highlighted in red? There’s a lot of muscle and fat right there which makes it excellent for striking. Hold your hand as shown and aim for the nose or chin (though I’ve been told in extreme circumstances, doing this to the nose can be fatal but I’ve never really heard if this is true or not) and just aim upwards

  • other delicate areas: 
  • the shin (hurts like a bitch if you kick it right - also, you can hit this spot if you’re being held in a choke-hold and if your attacker has to move in order to stop you from kicking him, he’ll have to angle his body so as to expose his stomach and crotch to the wild spastic jabbings of your elbows)
  • the solar plexus (either jab while holding your hand in a sort of spear position or use your elbows - unless you’re super strong, your punch probably won’t wind your attacker. Your elbow or a spear hand will, however)

Originally in (most) martial arts, you hit the solar plexus because it supposedly contained an important chakra. Now we know that it actually also contains like a bunch of necessary organs that are exposed just below your ribs and is also (roughly) where your diaphragm lives so getting punched there is not pleasant.

  • the clavicle (from experience, getting hit in your clavicle HURTS LIKE A MOTHERFUCKER. If you strike downwards with your knuckles, the person might just cry. Like I did.)
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  • the ear (this is probably the best place to punch besides the throat. It’s all cartilage so it probably won’t hurt you all that much and most people will be like “DUDE YOU PUNCHED ME IN THE EAR WHAT THE HELL”)
  • the kidneys (this is harder to hit without training but if you somehow get your attacker’s back to face you, try to hit’em in the kidneys. Again, from experience, this FUCKING HURTS. You can’t really hit the kidneys from the front with any effect but from the back it is super painful)
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  • if you’re held in a choke-hold, try turning your head so the forearm isn’t pressed into your throat. If you can position yourself right, you can sort of force your chin into the crook of the elbow, making you able to still receive (limited) oxygen and provide time for you to kick some shins or elbow some spleens and shit

-Also, remember that a guy’s junk is not an off-button. Don’t think that you can rely on a swift kick to the balls to immediately incapacitate him in an emergency. Adrenaline and anger can keep somebody going for a long time even through extreme pain, and if you expect to end a fight with a single groin-attack you might be caught off-guard when he doesn’t drop. Certainly go for it if you get the chance, but keep hitting him until the fight is over.

-Draw blood if you can, especially if you can draw it from the face or the eyes. Blood in the eyes is not just a good way to impair your attacker’s vision, it’s also a really good way to freak them out and let them know that they might be getting more than they bargained for by picking a fight with you.

-Elbows and knees are really powerful weapons. Elbows are very sharp and very strong and if you are in close-range they are often more effective than trying to throw a punch. 

-Yelling and shouting makes you scary. 

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ramblinprose

Nothing much to add to this, it’s pretty much all there. So. Reblog. Oh, also, it’s really easy to break a nose - go for the eyes too. All it takes to avoid a shot to the throat is tucking your chin. Also, that part about the ear - don’t punch. An open hand over the ear hurts a lot.

Tumblr teaching me how to fuck a bitch up

Also if you fuck up their face it’ll be easier for police to identify the attacker.

If someone gets you from behind and you cant punch them, go for the underside of the upper-arm. A bad pinch there is legit so painful because that skin is super sensitive. Also this cant be stressed enough, if the attacker is a guy then fucking rip his junk off.

reblog to save a fuckin life

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List of Elemental Abilities

Air/Wind

Earth

Fire

Water

Darkness

Electricity/Lightning

Energy

Ice

Light

Weather

Other

From Superpower Wikia. See their complete list of superpowers HERE.

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kintatsujo said: Oi oi, I didn’t say WHITE, I said ethnically indistinct, which is a whole different thing. Ethnically indistinct people get all sorts of erasure in mainstream media, I expected better of you. Do you realize how many people fall under “ethnically indistinct,” btw? Light-skinned black people, a large proportion of Hispanic people, Native Americans who don’t fit the stereotype of “perfect bronze with black hair”…

Race is biological; genetically distinct populations within the same species. Ethnicity is associated with particular geographic regions, including their language, heritage, religion and customs. When you call people ethnically indistinct, do you mean you can’t tell their race or geographic origins by looking at them? Because that sounds really fucking problematic to me. Egypt had and has a distinct culture and the people who made it up over the its Ancient Egypt time period were likely a mix of African, Middle Eastern and Mediterranean populations. It is possible to be ethnically Egyptian with different genetic backgrounds.

A ‘light-skinned black person’ is still a black person. A Native American with blonde hair is still Native American. They get to define their identity; I don’t just because I can’t ‘tell what they are’ by looking at them. Vin Diesel prefers not to discuss his race and that’s his every right. That doesn’t make him a Pharaoh.

Acknowledging Egypt’s historical demography is very important to writing a story. When you’re writing a story, details like this matter, or you get Cleopatra starring Angelina Jolie. It’s not right to mix and match people based on them ‘looking ethnic’ i.e. not white. That sure as hell sounds like what ‘ethnically indistinct’ means, by the way. ‘I can’t define you as white so I’m gonna say you’re ethnic in some way.’ That, right there? Sounds pretty fucking racist.

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Literary Birthday - 14 August

Happy Birthday, Bryce Courtenay, born 14 August 1933, died 22 November 2012

10 Quotes

  1. I am essentially an entertainer and a storyteller.
  2. People ask me what is the major ingredient for writing a book and I say, ‘Bum glue.’ 
  3. It takes seven months, 29 days and about 23 hours to write a book. I have finished five books within an hour of the deadline, which happens to be the 30th of August. It always happens, I don’t know how, but it does.
  4. I have a good vocabulary, certainly better than most writers I would say, and I will be writing away and I will type, ‘She made a very perspicacious remark.’ (Which, for those of us not au fait with every entry in the Macquarie Dictionary, means clear and lucid.) I will go back the next day and cut out the word perspicacious because there are five English words that are close enough that readers will understand. I am not trying to impress you or the reader.
  5. Keep it simple. Tell the story the way it is. Don’t try and be clever. If you keep the story and the narrative simple, clean, direct and honest and you research it well with integrity and you can tell stories – which, by the way, is a gift - you have got a good chance of selling well.
  6. Pride is holding your head up when everyone around you has theirs bowed. Courage is what makes you do it.
  7. I’m going to die with my mind intact. And to me that is the most exciting way you could possibly die.
  8. What’s the point in being an unpopular writer? It just doesn’t make a lot of sense. For me it doesn’t, anyway.
  9. I guess my use-by date is just about up but if I could come back as a storyteller now, I would be jumping over the moon because wow, just think what’s available.
  10. Sometimes the slightest things change the directions of our lives, the merest breath of a circumstance, a random moment that connects like a meteorite striking the earth. Lives have swiveled and changed direction on the strength of a chance remark.

Courtenay was a South African novelist who also held Australian citizenship. He was a best-selling authors, notable for his book The Power of One.

Read Amanda Patterson’s 2006 Interview with Bryce Courtenay

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Writing Tips #129:10 tips for writing effective, attention-grabbing headlines and titles

Whether you work as a copywriting professional or just dabble in blogging, it can be tough to summarize hundreds or thousands of words into one, short headline. Here are a few quick and easy tips to take your title or headline from ho-hum to all-star:

1. Focus on what’s in it for the reader.

As James wrote about in Brand Metaphors 101, people are motivated by three higher needs: affiliation, aspiration, and identity. Anyone who has had training in sales or writing knows the #1 question a reader or customer is asking themselves is, “What’s in it for me?” People crave for us to solve a problem they have or give them a reason why they should listen to us. Give them that reason upfront to draw them in and leave them on the edge of their seat.

2. Be specific.

What’s the key point of your content? That’s what the headline or title should reflect. According to Ogilvy, 80% of people only read headlines and skip the rest. If that’s the case, it makes sense to be as specific as possible so readers can quickly identify what the content is about and decide whether or not it’s applicable to them.

3. Balance personality and relevance.

Many writers fall into two traps: being too straightforward or too catchy. When you’re too straightforward, it can come across as boring and may not grab the reader’s attention. When you get too creative, you can lose the main point of your content and lose your reader altogether. Instead, try to balance the two by giving the headline enough personality to entice the reader, while still explaining what the article is about. See BNET for more examples on how to be creative and explanatory.

4. Stay true to your voice.

Your headlines and titles should always align with your brand’s voice or personality. If you work for a large company that is very professional and formal, it probably wouldn’t make sense to say, “Check out our new site, dudes!” On the other hand, if your company’s voice is quirky and casual, it would sound bizarre to say, “Learn how to involve your key stakeholders in developing your strategic vision.” Identify what your company’s verbal style is, and stick to it.

5. Talk about benefits, not features.

Along the same lines, people respond a lot more positively to benefits than to features. No one cares that the iPod has 160GB of storage (although that is pretty impressive). They care that they can listen to 40,000 songs in a row and never have to delete one again. That’s powerful! When you rely on features, you’re not speaking your customers’ language, and they move on. Features can be duplicated. Your unique benefits and solutions can’t.

Source: forty.co
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Guide to Literary Terms

Forms of Literature:

Narrative: Involves writings of events, either fictional or nonfictional.
Novel: A long fictional story.
Novelette: Shorter than a novella. Sometimes considered the same as a novella.
Novella: Longer than a short story, but shorter than a novel.
Poem: Uses aesthetics and rhythm in writing.
Short Fiction:
  • Drabble: Exactly 100 words long.
  • Flash: Shorter than 1000 words.
  • Micro: Less than 300 words.
  • Six Word: Six words long.
Short Story: A brief story.

Genres:

Fiction:

Adult
  • New Adult: Intended for readers aged 18-25.
Adventure: Often grouped with action, adventure is a genre that involves high risk and excitement. Indian Jones is an example.
Brit Lit: Literature associated with the UK.
Children’s
  • Chapter Books: Children’s chapter books are right under middle grade books, but are shorter and may have illustrations (not just with a chapter title). The chapters are short to keep the attention of the reader. The audience is between 6 and 10-years-old.
  • Early Readers: These are similar to picture books, but the reading is simpler and the text is often large. The audience is between 4 and 8-years-old.
  • Picture Books: Picture books are heavily illustrated, but are not meant for children to read alone because while they can understand the words, they may not be able to read them. A parent, teacher, or other adult is intended to read picture books aloud. However, some books are aimed at adults (like Go the Fuck to Sleep)
Crime
  • Courtroom Drama: Takes place in a courtroom, usually centering on the lawyers.
  • Crime Mystery: Self-explanatory.
  • Gangster: Involves gangs, the mob, or the mafia. The Godfather is an example.
Fantasy (guide to writing fantasy and world building)
  • Alternate World: A setting that is not our world, but may be similar. This includes “portal fantasies” in which characters find an alternative world through their own. An example would be The Chronicles of Narnia.
  • Arabian: Fantasy that is based on the Middle East and North Africa.
  • Arthurian: Set in Camelot.
  • Bangsian: Set in the afterlife or deals heavily with the afterlife. It most often deals with famous and historical people as characters. An example could be The Lovely Bones.
  • Celtic: Fantasy that is based on the Celtic people, most often the Irish.
  • Christian: This genre has Christian themes and elements.
  • Classical: Based on Roman and Greek myths.
  • Contemporary: This genre takes place in modern society in which paranormal and magical creatures live among us. An example would be the Harry Potter series.
  • Dark: This genre combines fantasy and horror elements. The tone or feel of dark fantasy is often gloomy, bleak, and gothic.
  • Epic: This genre is long and, as the name says, epic. Epic is similar to high fantasy, but has more importance, meaning, or depth. Epic fantasy is most often in a medieval setting.
  • Gaslamp: Also known as gaslight, this genre has a Victorian or Edwardian setting.
  • Gunpowder: Gunpowder crosses epic or high fantasy with “rifles and railroads”, but the technology remains realistic unlike the similar genre of steampunk.
  • Heroic: Centers on one or more heroes who start out as humble, unlikely heroes thrown into a plot that challenges them.
  • High: This is considered the “classic” fantasy genre. High fantasy contains the general fantasy elements and is set in a fictional world.
  • Historical: The setting in this genre is any time period within our world that has fantasy elements added.
  • Medieval: Set between ancient times and the industrial era. Often set in Europe and involves knights. (medieval references)
  • Mythic: Fantasy involving or based on myths, folklore, and fairy tales.
  • Quest: As the name suggests, the protagonist in this genre sets out on a quest. The protagonist most frequently searches for an object of importance and returns home with it.
  • Sword and Sorcery: Pseudomedieval settings in which the characters use swords and engage in action-packed plots. Magic is also an element, as is romance.
  • Urban: Has a modern or urban setting in which magic and paranormal creatures exist, often in secret.
  • Wuxia: A genre in which the protagonist learns a martial art and follows a code. This genre is popular in Chinese speaking areas.
Historical
  • Alternate Universe: Answers the “what if” question in regards to historical events and how they affected the future.
  • Period Piece: The most common of historical novels takes place in the past, most often a well-known period in time.
  • Slave Narrative: Inspired by the true stories written by former slaves, this genre involves the fictional story of a former slave.

Horror

  • Aliens: Also a sub-genre of sci-fi, this genre involves aliens being the central horror of the story. Signs is an example.
  • Creepy Children: In which children creepy and/or mysterious.
  • Gothic: Has a dark tone. Edgar Allen Poe wrote gothic.
  • Haunting: Involves hauntings of some sort.
  • Noir: The characters in this genre are mysterious, gritty, and cynical as is the setting.
  • Paranormal: Involves paranormal or supernatural elements, such as vampires.

Literary Fiction: Fictional works that do not fit in a specific category and that hold literary merit.

Middle Grade
  • Lower Middle Grade: Similar to chapter books, but may be more advanced. Intended for children seven to nine-years-old.
  • Middle Grade: Intended for children eight to twelve-years-old.
  • Upper Middle Grade: The bridge between middle grade and young adult. Intended for children ten to fourteen-years-old.
Mystery
  • Amateur Investigator: In which the protagonist is not associated with the law or authority.
  • Cozy: Set in a small town with an amateur female investigator.
  • Hard-boiled: Often involve a private investigator who is a male anti-hero as the protagonist. The setting is most often urban and the content violent or dark.
  • Police Procedural: Inovles those associated with the law solving crimes and murders.
Political
  • Dystopian: The setting is scary or hostile, often with a powerful government.
  • Utopian: The opposite of dystopian.
Punk
  • Clockpunk: Similar to steampunk in technology and fashion, but focuses more on clockwork and gears in designs.
  • Cyberpunk: Has advanced technology and often focuses on artificial intelligence and the cyber world. The setting is often near-future rather than far-future. Blade Runner is an example.
  • Dieselpunk: Based on aesthetics and technology between World War I and World War II.
  • Splatterpunk: Extremely graphic and contains a lot of gore.
  • Steampunk: This genre gets its name from the heavy steam-powered technology involved. Aesthetics are based on the Victorian and industrial eras.
  • Western Steampunk: Similar to steampunk, but with Western (as in Wild West) aesthetics.
Romance
  • Americana: This genre takes place in Midwestern US towns, usually in small towns during the early 1900s.
  • Baby Love: This genre is defined by its characters: A single mother with a male love interest.
  • Contemporary: Set in present day.
  • Erotic: Involves romance with a heavy focus on sexual activities.
  • Gay and Lesbian: Romance between non-heterosexual characters.
  • Historical: Romance set in the past, usually in a well-known period. 
  • Paranormal: Romance that takes place in a setting that involves the paranormal or supernatural. Twilight is an example.
Science Fiction
  • Apocalyptic: The setting of this genre is in an apocalyptic or post-apocalyptic world where survivors endure the aftermath of the “end of the world”.
  • Astrobiology: This genre focuses on alien life more than science and technology.
  • Hard Sci-fi: Places an emphasis on the scientific details, accuracy, and plausibility.
  • Kaiju: A Japanese genre that involves a monster. Godzilla is an example.
  • Lost Worlds: The setting for this genre is a mysterious place, usually an island. Lost is an example of this.
  • Robot: Self-explanatory.
  • Soft Sci-fi: Based on soft sciences or has less of an emphasis on science.
  • Space Opera: This genre is defined by adventures in space. Star TrekStar Wars, and Firefly are all space operas.
  • Time Travel: Self-explanatory.
  • Western Sci-fi: Science fiction that incorporates western settings and culture. Firefly is an example.
Thriller
  • Crime: Crime fiction, but with a thriller or suspense element.
  • Psychological: This genre has a slow build up and focuses on the emotional and psychological state of the characters throughout the story.
  • Slasher: Involves a killer, most often a serial killer.
  • Survivor: Focuses on one or more characters placed in a situation in which they struggle to survive.
Western
  • Black Cowboy: Has a POC as the protagonist. Another name for this genre is Buffalo Soldier.
  • Bounty Hunter: Pretty much speaks for itself, but the characters are usually morally ambiguous.
  • Gunfighter: This is one of the classic westerns. It’s usually a force of good vs evil and involves a showdown at noon and a fight in a saloon (or something like that).
  • Outlaw: This focuses on the villains; the outlaws and bandits.
  • Wagon Train: Basically Oregon Trail.
Young Adult: This genre is intended for teenagers, but the age range will vary based on the topics and themes explored.

Non Fiction:

Autobiography: In which the author writes about his or her life.
Biography: In which the author writes about someone else’s life.
Memoir: A collection of events in one’s life.
Narrative: Similar to an autobiography, but written in the form of a story.

Other:

  • ARC: Stands for Adavnced Reading Copy. A copy of a book released to readers before the actual release date for review.
  • Literary Agent: Represents writers and their work, sends work to publishers and producers for consideration, and handles or assists contracts, sales, and negotiations.
  • Manuscript: The original text.
  • Pseudonym: A false name a person writes under. Pennames and Aliases
  • Query Letter: A formal letter sent to literary agents and publishers as a request to represent or publish a literary work. Query Letter References
  • Synopsis: A summary of a literary work. Can be short or long. Writing a Synopsis
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putting this up, since my website project for university is finished and I don’t have to put it on the web anymore.

a very, very basic image guide on how your portfolio should be presented or appear, whether you’re in fine arts, graphic design or illustration, illustrated by yours truly

please do NOT remove the commentary while reblogging, do not reupload anywhere else.

OH MY GOD PAY, BLESS YOUR FACE.

I actually get asked to see a lot of portfolio’s while I’m at cons. And while I LOVE looking at other people’s art and offering critiques if they ask, it’s sort of cringe-y to be handed a messy stack of papers or something. Nice portfolio’s look so much more professional!

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