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Dear Black girl🌸
You are enough, you deserve the world and everything in it.
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I hate it to the depth of my soul. It’s so unfair to us.
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fightingmisogynoir:
The question was “black women, do you feel loved by black men?” And of course, black men had to derail and dismiss black women.
Black men care more about their images and reputations than the feelings and emotions of black women. That’s why many of them don’t check their brethren but instead police the emotions of black women who speak about. They don’t want to break the code, because the code is a part of the images they want to protect as well. When they see things like this they immediately go into protection mode of their images to maintain whatever status they’re trying to obtain or keep. This further proves their pro-blackness has nothing to do with black women, but everything to do with their own patriarchal selfishness. They don’t care about black women, AT ALL.
I went to the post on Facebook and thoroughly read through all 2.3k of the comments. An astounding amount of black women said NO. Straight up. A lot said they feel desired sexually but not loved. Most said they only feel loved by black men in their family but not by General black men. It was interesting at first, then it was heartbreaking to know that so many black women feel so disposable and unimportant. Black women don’t feel loved in general by black men. The responses from some of the black men to their answers were so dismissive as expected. You asked how we feel, you get and honest answer from us and you still try to dismiss us saying that we are just bitter. WHEN 2300 BLACK WOMEN ARE SAYING THEY DON’T FEEL LOVED BY GENERAL BLACK MEN, AT WHAT POINT ARE WE NOT JUST BITTER AND SEEN LIKE HUMAN BEINGS WITH HURT AND PAIN! OBVIOUSLY THERE IS A PROBLEM BETWEEN BLACK MEN AND WOMEN THAT BLACK MEN REFUSE TO ACKNOWLEDGE! I am sick of it all. I’m utterly disgusted.
Even some black women comments stated that they feel scared being around black men because of their reactions if she she shows no interest in them. She fears rape, murder, and being degraded.
A good amount said “no he likes Becky, Maria, and Katia”. Meaning he cares more about other races of women and will do more to please them rather than black women. One black woman commented and said he will jump through hoops and juggle plates just to make himself look attractive to her. Which I believe because I have experienced this myself. Many many many times. Black men will go broke for a white and nonblack woman but will rarely try and take a black woman on a proper date. I have seen black men ask a white and nonblack woman on a proper date to an expensive restaurant but asked a black woman to come over to his house and he had just met her.
But overall I was surprised but it was expected to see all the responses. Black women crying out for someone to listen and understand and black men being dismissive as always. I have lost faith in black men as a collective. It’s hard for me to trust them because their intentions are never pure and the love they have for black women is always CONDITIONAL.
A lot said they feel desired sexually but not loved.
You can see this in the way black men type about black women on social media. I made a post calling it out.They’ll post pics of a few black women oiled up or in a bikini they find aesthetically pleasing, and that’s it. Because all you have to do is scroll down on their pages and see them calling black women bitches and hoes especially the one’s who don’t fit their ideal.
WHEN 2300 BLACK WOMEN ARE SAYING THEY DON’T FEEL LOVED BY GENERAL BLACK MEN, AT WHAT POINT ARE WE NOT JUST BITTER AND SEEN LIKE HUMAN BEINGS WITH HURT AND PAIN! OBVIOUSLY THERE IS A PROBLEM BETWEEN BLACK MEN AND WOMEN THAT BLACK MEN REFUSE TO ACKNOWLEDGE! I am sick of it all. I’m utterly disgusted.
Black women have been speaking out about this for years but black men and the black community rather put tape on it than fix it. Every time we’ve brought it up black women are always shut down and told to ignore it like the boogieman. It’s really pathetic because it’s a HUGE problem, but we care more about their reputations and the community’s image than black women being abused and mistreated. I’m also sick of it.
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The Trope of Black Women’s Elevated Status Romantically and Socially in Zombie/Survivalist Settings
So, this bit of meta has been knocking around in my head for quite a while.
I’ve been a huge fan of the zombie genre for a looong time.
Before I even jump into this, I think it’s important to note, that basically the beginning of the modern iteration of this genre Night of the Living Dead and subsequently Dawn of the Dead, used it to upend social taboos for black men and make very risky, and even to this day super-relevant on-the-nose statements about black men in America.
In 1968′s Night of the Living Dead:
- a black man leads
- punches a white man
- slaps a white woman
- is the last person standing
- and eventually the movie ends in such a way that remains very much spot-on resonant, then and even now, regarding today’s Black Lives Matter movement
***this movie is available to watch for free on youtube. anyone with any interest in social metaphors about black people on film needs to make it their mission to watch this movie at least once.***
I think that it’s important to note that the dawn of the modern zombie genre began with breaking HUGE racial taboos.
Now, with this background, I want to talk about one particularly interesting pattern to ponder regarding black women’s presence within the zombie genre.
I’ve noticed that within the zombie genre (and by extension survival/apocalyptic “last people” scenarios), black women go from being virtually invisible in a romantic sense in “normal narratives” to being the top pick as a partner in all respects in these scenarios.
The first example I can remember was in 1971′s The Omega Man, starring Charlton Heston and Rosalind Cash, an early adaptation of Richard Matheson’s I Am Legend, and potentially the instigator in the trend:
Both characters are the last humans alive, tough and able to defend themselves in this harsh world populated by a new other (humanoid vampire-like species which shuns light). And eventually they become romantic partners.
This is noteworthy, as this movie predates the height of the blaxploitation era, coming right at the heels of the apex of the Civil Rights Movement.
I’ve thought a lot about this trend. The zombie genre is built on social commentary – it has never been just about the monsters. Still, how did it get to be so Black woman-centric?
I do think the rise of this trend came in the most part from the underrunning belief that black women are the only type of woman who is “made for” this kind of scenario, as SBWs for better and for worse.
That’s something to think about. And tbqh, I think that’s probably the case for Robert Kirkman’s Michonne (but not Scott Gimple’s).
Selena (like Ben in NotLD) was never written as Black. The top 2 picks to play her were Naomie Harris and a white actress whose name escapes me. (It’s all in Danny Boyle’s commentary). He didn’t change anything but maybe one or two lines of Mitchell’s, but I think Mitchell’s part where he claims “the black one” and describes how he plans to rape her became racial commentary as much as a smack at the patriarchy.
Z Nation did what The Walking Dead didn’t at the time it started – it made Roberta Warren the lead. I’m behind on it, but I don’t really find Roberta to be a SBW trope unsubverted. SBW as a media trope aren’t desirable, that is kind of fundamental.
My theory is that zombie media likes to revisit the idea that once society’s gone, social constructs fade out. To keep it short, basically the only thing keeping Black women from being the standard of beauty and desirability is society.
That last line though
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Also reblogging for that last line.
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High Level:
Minority young men are considered by their white peers to be cool and tough; minority young women, on the other hand, are stereotyped as “ghetto” and “loud.”
Key Excerpt:
But recent research published in the American Sociological Association’sSociology of Educationjournal shows that my gender (male) was one of the determinative factors in the relative ease of my social integration. Inan articlepublished last year, Megan M. Holland, a professor at the University of Buffalo and a recent Harvard Ph.D., studied the social impact of a desegregation program on the minority students who were being bussed to a predominantly white high school in suburban Boston. She found that minority boys, because of stereotypes about their supposed athleticism and “coolness,” fit in better than minority girls because the school gave the boys better opportunities to interact with white students. Minority boys participated in sports and non-academic activities at much higher rates. Over the course of her study, she concluded that structural factors in the school as well as racial narratives about minority males resulted in increased social rewards for the boys, while those same factors contributed to the isolation of girls in the diversity program.
Another study looked at a similar program, called Diversify. Conducted by Simone Ispa-Landa at Northwestern University,it showedhow gender politics and gender performance impacted the way the minority students were seen at the school. The study shows that “as a group, the Diversify boys were welcomed in suburban social cliques, even as they were constrained to enacting race and gender in narrow ways.” Diversify girls, on the other hand, “were stereotyped as ‘ghetto’ and ‘loud’”—behavior that, when exhibited by the boys in the program, was socially rewarded. Another finding from her study was that because of the gender dynamics present at the school—the need to conform to prevalent male dominance in the school—“neither the white suburban boys nor the black Diversify boys were interested in dating” the minority girls. The girls reported being seen by boys at their schools as “aggressive” and not having the “Barbie doll” look. The boys felt that dating the white girls was “easier” because they “can’t handle the black girls.”
The black boys in Ispa-Landa’s study found themselves in peculiar situations in which they would play into stereotypes of black males as being cool or athletic by seeming “street-smart.” At the same time, though, they would work to subvert those racial expectations by code-switching both their speech and mannerisms to put their white classmates at ease. Many of the boys reported feeling safer and freer at the suburban school, as they would not be considered “tough” at their own schools. It was only in the context of the suburban school that their blackness conferred social power. In order to maintain that social dominance, the boys engaged in racial performance, getting into show fights with each other to appear tough and using rough, street language around their friends.
In the case of the girls, the urban signifiers that gave the boys so much social acceptance, were held against them. While the boys could wear hip-hop clothing, the girls were seen as “ghetto” for doing the same. While the boys could display a certain amount of aggression, the girls felt they were penalized for doing so. Ispa-Landa, in an interview, expressed surprise at “how much of a consensus there was among the girls about their place in the school.” She also found that overall, the girls who participated in diversity programs paid a social cost because they “failed to embody characteristics of femininity” that would have valorized them in the school hierarchy. They also felt excluded from the sports and activities that gave girls in those high schools a higher social status, such as cheerleading and Model U.N., because most activities ended too late for the parents of minority girls. Holland notes that minority parents were much more protective of the girls; they expressed no worries about the boys staying late, or over at friend’s houses.
Once minority women leave high school and college, they are shown to continue to struggle with social integration, even as they achieve higher educational outcomes and, in certain locales, higher incomes than minority men. Though, as presaged by high-school sexual politics, they were stillthree times less likelythan black men to marry outside of their race.
This is exactly why discussions about intersectionality are so incredibly important, and I can also attest to this personally. My little sister (1 grade below me) and I attended the same 90% white elementary school. I was, at first, the only black boy in my class and she was the only black girl (and black person period) in her class. Despite being shy and bookish at the time, I still benefited from being tokenized as a black male in my class. My sister, who was much more strong-minded and outspoken than I was, was summarily tortured by her classmates (white girls especially) and her teachers for years. Eventually it was so bad that she was forced to transfer out, even as I continued on at the school without many problems.
The year after she transferred out, another black boy transferred into my class. This boy was athletic and his manner of speech, mannerisms, etc. instantly endeared him to all of the white people in the class. He performed blackness in a way that our white peers wanted to see, and he was immediately one of the most popular kids in the class.
There is a performance of blackness that occurs before white audiences, and this is a performance that black males can benefit from socially in white spaces even as black women get criticized and demonized (including, paradoxically, by black men!!!) for the same behavior. Great article, click through the link for the full piece by ABOUBACAR NDIAYE.
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TRUUUUUU
Heh, I could do a whole dissertation on my time at Downers Grove North High School and how it was worse for me when I realized that the Black boys benefited socially from being shitty to me. It’s where I first started unpacking how race & gender intertwine to dictate certain things & figured out that the suburbs are often really terrible for kids of color. It’s why I raised my boys in the city.
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I find it so weird how black men won’t ask black women out, but will look at us sideways if we date out side of our race. I got asked out by a white guy at work, all the black who come into my work either come in with their white girlfriends, or look right through me, or look disgusted that I even looked their way. Today however when my guy came into to see I noticed a a few black guys looking at me funny, these are some of the same guys who look right though me. I just don’t understand that mentality. So just because you don’t want to date us, nobody should date us??? I always told myself I didn’t know if I could ever date a white guy again, but he asked me out very respectfully and so far he seems nice (but he’s on a probation period and ANY hit of fuckery will get him the steel toed boot), and I’m not going to stay single just because black men don’t want to date me and not want me to date anyone else.
This is so true, and it's ridiculous. So I see strangers at work on the regular, Black men and women. While the women always greet me and i’ve learned more about them and the departments they work in from friendly hallway conversation, most of the Black men i’ve encountered look right me, yet I see the same ones giggling and chatting happily with their white female co-workers. And one of my cousins; she was at this professional convention. She tried to network, introduced herself to a Black businessman she saw and he literally scoffed as if her interacting with him was beneath him, then turned to hook his arm around his white wife.
Is that how ya’ll feel about Black women? We’re beneath you? And yet, ya’ll see us getting appreciated elsewhere and get cockeyed like we’ve somehow insulted you.
My white boyfriend and I have been given twisted looks from Black men, though we get looks from all races honestly, something he’s only recently noticed though I was aware from the start. Most look confused, as if trying to figure us out. What really kills me, though, are the blatant assumptions that we’re just friends, such as our checks automatically separated when we’re on dates and the question almost always asked if we want one check or two. Like, what is this? I’m new to relationships, but do other non-black women IR couples get treated like that?
But Black women can’t be in relationships, I suppose. We’re friends, never lovers, unless it’s well under wraps or just a booty call. Strong and independent and never needing no man, or rather, waiting for a Black man to stop chasing white tail to look at us.
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“I’m not gonna lie: I was excited and a little bit warmed-in-the-heart-place when I saw that Barry Allen, aka The Flash, was in love with Iris West, his best friend, on The CW’s new hit superhero series, The Flash.
Because hey, how many times — in life, art, or entertainment — do we see a young White dude who’s honestly, deeply into a fly, well-rounded, educated Black girl? And not just as a sexual conquest or to “explore,” but as an actual love interest? Not often, that’s for sure.”
Oh yes. I have never…
ever…
have seen…
a white guy…
who’s honestly and deeply
interested in…
a black woman in TV and movies.
Do I need to say anything else?
“Not often” doesn’t mean “never”.
I guess you’re trying to go for a “gotcha” moment, but in actuality you basically proved what the author was saying. It IS rare to have a black woman be loved by the white male lead as only ONE of these men is the lead that actually loves the black woman (Spock/Uhura).
From 1968 (forced kiss between Kirk and Uhura) to 2015, you found SIX examples, and HALF of them don’t even count.
1) Lisa and Zach “romance” was an one-off episode. As soon as that episode ended, that was it for Lisa and Zach. Next episode, he’s head over heels back in love with Kelly.
2) Kirk wasn’t in love with Uhura. That kissed was forced, and Lt. Uhura NEVER had any romantic relationships in the original series (something fandom HATES about Zoe Saldana’s Uhura).
3) Ben Grimm got with Alicia AFTER he became a rock, and their relationship was barely explored, certainly NOT to the extent of Reed and Sue.
4) Fitz isn’t the lead male on Scandal. Wash wasn’t the lead male on Firefly. Tom Willis wasn’t the lead male on The Jeffersons. Ben Grimm wasn’t the lead in the Fantastic Four.
So, AGAIN for the people that can’t keep up: NOT OFTEN
Thank you. I literally winced at some of those examples (particularly Kirkura)
Also, I don’t know much about most of the other pairings, but…Fitz/Olivia is super abusive and gross and is 100% unenjoyable to watch.
Oh my god. OP legitimately pulled out the MIND CONTROL KISS FROM STAR TREK (a show where Uhura was famously NEVER allowed an actual love interest), THE SIDE CHARACTERS FROM THE JEFFERSONS, and THAT ONE EPISODE OF SAVED BY THE BELL WHEN ZACK WAS INTO LISA BUT THEN IT WAS NEVER MENTIONED AGAIN.
Holy fucking shit. And even using a list comprised almost entirely of shit that is CLEARLY IRRELEVANT to the point being made (non-relationships, relationships that are not with the primary protagonist), OP still couldn’t find but half a dozen examples throughout all of television and film spanning a period of damn near 50 years.
How were they not fucking embarrassed????
Lmfaooo I hate these Olympic power stretch reaching igits. Got a bunch of side characters and old ass shows to try to prove some point.
The fact that you can even attempt to make a list which you would never dream to do and cover even half of them with a white woman with romance says enough, but the mere fact your ass had to jump in a time machine for most these titles is just laughable. Pathetic, but laughable.
You're a joke, op, and a bad one.
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Current cultural beauty standards are influenced by black women (the big booty trend, the love my curls campaign), but black women still aren’t represented in any of it, or given credit for it. Let that sink in.
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Nah, they put us in zoos for it. Now they’re acting like they invented it.
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^^^^
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In incidents across the country, reported misconduct by black girls at school prompts a seemingly disproportionate — and often violent — response by school and local authorities.
Columbia University law professor Kimberle Williams Crenshaw and her associates, Priscilla Ocen and Jyoti Nanda, set out to explain why in their study, Black Girls Matter: Pushed Out, Overpoliced and Underprotected.
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this show gone to shit tho
i've got so many thoughts about that ""episode"" and this show in general...and I will spill them out later. From the mistreatment of Black characters to most the characters' inconsistent characterization to their recycled plotlines to said plotlines that are AB with no C. Like i'm getting fed up now.
There are so many aspects of this show I just swallowed and excused due to other parts that kept it pinned up as it sagged here and there, but now even those pins are loosening up and you've got a big ole mess.
This goes so much beyond shipping and I can't stand these belittling ass "DONT H8 DA [WHITE] WOMAN BECUZ UF YUR SHIEP." Like if you don't get yo crusty patronizing fucking ass out my face....stop treating us like mindless ship machines who aren't allowed to be frustrated by shitty plot lines and stop placing a white woman on a pedestal so much that you're ignoring Black women's pain as our image is degraded by media time and time again.
This is about MICHONNE for me. Always has been. She deserves fulfilling, healthy relationships, admiration, and desirability. Don't desexualize her when you want a killing machine or to keep her out of the way of the lackluster Messie ship then turn around and hypersexualize her with faceless shots of her ass...just...dont...
Okay i'm ranting too soon i'll come back on this subject later...
and yeah I likely will be quitting this show. i'd rather read fan fiction that do it better than a show run by mayonnaise but cant even make a decent sandwich
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YASSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS!!!!!!
W/r/t Poehler's feminism statement, she and others may want to read Toni Morrison's short essay "What Black Women Think about Women's Lib", 1971 If TL;DR then skip to Ida Lewis' comment. Feminism still upholds the interest of white supremacy.
merci!
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Here’s a video of me performing at Open Mic night! I was so nervous!
Here’s the poem in written form:
Dear Black Men,
Y’all fake as shit.
Niggas will say Moms is bae but won’t ever date a bitch that look like her. Niggas will say ‘Moms got me here’ but the rest of black women still ain’t shit. Black women are only queens when they’re your mother or your sister. Black men who hate black women make black daughters with nonblack women and question why their self-esteem is low. But how do you raise a queen you would never put on your throne?
"I ain’t got no type, bad bitch is the only thing that I like" Bad bitch is a prototype. Bad bitch is a cookie cutter eliminating the blackness that uglies her. Add slim thick, light skin, long hair if it’s weave, 3C curls if it’s natural, light eyes, and soft features to offset the curse of blackness.
But I’m sleep though. I’m high on ambien when it comes to these niggas. Black girls ain’t your preference but you want us to ride for you with no seatbelt on, no airbags to protect our neck, barely there cushion on this broke down distressed leather that matches our skin and our work ethic, Built to survive, built to thrive, still I rise, still I walk in the valley of the shadow of death, But where are y’all when it’s time to defend Black girls?
You fake, and that’s that shit I don’t like. You can’t say Black people and mean only Black men. You can’t say Black Power and forget about the women who built this movement from the basement, to the kitchen, to the Underground Railroad, to Ain’t I a motherfucking Woman to you still ain’t shit because ain’t no body fucking with my clique: from Assata, Angela, Kathleen, Fannie Lou, to Ella Baker Don’t forget who put you on, nigga. We built this movement. You can’t say ‘Fuck the Police’ and never talk about how Black women are at risk of sexual assault, being shot, being forgotten, and having no movement to back them all in the same breath. You can’t say ‘Don’t Shoot’ and think Black men are the only ones with blood in the streets. You can’t talk about violence and forget that Black men perpetuate violence against Black women everyday.
All the women are white and all the blacks are men, But some of us are brave. Most of us are the reason you’re here. All of us should be the reason you fight. We’re the foundation to this house you claim is your residence. We built this shit, face in the dirt, hands tied in master’s bed, but mouths gagged in yours. We built this shit. So what about US.
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When it comes to disparities in school suspension rates, most studies deal with the fact that Black students are suspended more frequently than their White counterparts for the same or similar offenses.
A new groundbreaking study done by a trio of sociology professors takes a more nuanced look at the matter by examining the differences in suspension rates among African-Americans of different complexions.
The study—titled “The Relationship Between Skin Tone and School Suspension for African Americans”—found that darker-skinned African-American students were more likely to be suspended than those with lighter skin tones.
Specifically, the researchers found that a young African-American female with the darkest skin tone was 3.4 times as likely to be suspended compared to the one with the lightest skin.
The darkest skin African-American males were only 2.5 times as likely to be suspended as those with the lightest skin tones, but the study notes that African-American males—for whom the “controlling image … is of a dangerous, criminal predator”—experience higher rates of suspensions than females overall, the study states.
The findings show that the broad categories of race that are often used are inadequate to capture the various forms of discrimination that impact African-Americans of different hues—from school discipline to more serious matters, such as capital punishment.
“This is important because it’s a way in which the idea of race and racial hierarchy plays into all different kinds of aspects of life,” said Robert DeFina, Professor and Chairperson Department of Sociology and Criminology at Villanova University.
“And what this (study) does is it kind of complements the idea of race itself in these kind of racial categories that we use,” define said.
To do the study, DeFina and his colleagues—Lance Hannon, also a sociology professor at Villanova, and Sarah Bruch, a sociology professor at the University of Iowa—mined data from the US Bureau of Labor Statistics, which in 2010 began using a measure of “interviewer-assessed” skin tone in its National Longitudinal Survey of Youth. The measure involves 10 shades of skin color that correspond to a 1-to-10 “color scale.”
The study’s findings of a positive correlation between darker skin and higher suspension rates held even after other factors were taken into account, such as the socioeconomic status of the students’ parents, delinquent behavior, academic performance and other variables.
As research literature, the study provides a rich contextual and historical discussion of “colorism”—that is, the distinctions that have been made among Blacks of different skin tones in the United States since the days of the antebellum South.
For instance, it notes how one of the earliest uses of the term “colorism” in American popular culture was by Alice Walker, author of “The Color Purple,” who described it in 1983 as “prejudicial or preferential treatment of same-race people based solely on their color.”
It makes note of the infamous “one-drop rule” based on the idea that “a single drop of black blood made one black.” And it acknowledges the societal realities that gave rise to the longstanding phrase, “If you’re brown, stick around. If you’re light, you’re alright.’”
DeFina said the idea to examine school suspension rates by skin tone grew out of research he and Hannon did in North Carolina, where they found that lighter-skinned Black women received lesser punishments and served less time behind bars than darker-skinned Black women.
Going forth, DeFina said the findings on the correlation between skin tone and suspension rates for African-American students show that governmental agencies and authority figures need to reexamine and question their disciplinary practices to make sure that they are fair.
He cited a U.S. Equal Employment Opportunity Commission, or EEOC, task force called E-RACE—an acronym for Eradicating Racism and Colorism from Employment—as an example of an agency that had begun to deal with the issue. The study notes that, while the task force deals mostly with race-based complaints, the number of complaints based on skin tone has nearly tripled in recent years.
“By bringing it to the fore and making people conscious and aware of it and think about it, we can start to reconsider,” DeFina said.
block me if you don't wanna hear my thoughts about some real shit but
Moments like these make me even more salty they killed Luke like??? A man committed to her and her alone. Nobody’s “kinda wife” or “kinda ex.”
(like except luke to abbie but that's the point there?! who what when where why?!)
I feel like Black women’s relationships, when they happen on screen, always gotta have a catch. Somebody’s second, or teased about without really being allowed to unfurl fully and unabashedly…
I’m looking at a few shows here..(cough the walking dead cough cough richonne) and even though they’re not over these facts still remain in the now and I’m wary to trust things will manifest our way even though every finger, toe and limb is crossed for it to be…
Especially when on both TWD and Sleepy Hollow you got Black women who risk their lives for white characters (White men and women) with hardly any protection or recuperation (especially look at how Michonne was treated vs. how much she did for Rick & the group. Especially all the violence she was made to endure but oh she's a "strong" woman she can handle it right)…
I mean Ichabod shows obvious concern for Abbie but his attentions are preoccupied and actually endanger her (we ain't forgot about that map) and while Ichabbie could be endgame and (should?!) when all this ichtricka ish which they insist is real is completely resolved but in the meantime, Abbie deserves love from a “baggage-less” source (so no blondie aint gonna cut it if he's still doing stuffnthangs with Miss Jenny.).
In the same way Michonne deserves a soft touch and someone to SHOW they care about her that is of her peer group. Yes Mamachonne is magic but there’s something weird about the only one who can show any sort of close companionship and physical affection with her is a young boy. And they just completely dropped the dixonne connection that has some obvious history like wtf was that about?!
Last night's episode with Beth was a great show of the disparity of how Black women are allowed to be represented vs. white women like Katrina (damsels, innocent, who also can grow into their own and be stronger) and yet get to balance love relationships. Like Katrina got a husband and a headless boyfriend (lbvs), Beth has had TWO boyfriends, one maybe relationship that we were allowed to see played out unlike Dixonne that was some off-stage BS and then dropped, and then you got her and Noah which might not be a thing but still. but still.
And what Abbie got? A pending love triangle with her little sister's ex boyfriend (please no) and two men of color who really loved her but were killed. And Richonne; will they insist on giving us sideline scraps that put us in constant disbelief, background scenes we gotta zoom into to gif? Like I said, the show ain't over, i'm going off of what i've seen in the past and what i'm seeing now (and i'm parched as hell).
I'm hoping they'll give us more than this on both shows. That these Black women are allowed to have more than this. But we'll see. And I will remain hopeful. But I shall remain realistic too and needed to note my concerns or else they'd keep boiling in me..