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today I’ve been especially curious where the whole queer taboo came from and I’m trying to figure out when exactly it started being a thing.

According to this google trends, the phrase “is queer a slur”, there were no results until May 2013. Now, I’m not implying “queer” isn’t used as a slur or hadn’t been considered a slur until then, but SOMETHING happened in May 2013 that caused a bunch of people to search that.

Similarly, the oldest posts I’ve seen tagged on tumblr with the phrase “q slur” have been from 2013, and have so far not found any earlier posts with the tag. (and really I have no way of knowing if the tag was added at a later time) So far what I’ve found is the actual censoring/starring of queer and use of “q slur” has been predominately from 2016 onwards, and people that used the tag before then would frequently use it as a catch-all term or to refer to themself. It wasn’t until the past few years that those people started telling others not to use it to refer to other people.

I am just so, so fascinated as to what exactly happened that caused this shift and I can’t find it

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If I may add onto this… 

And all three together

To any assholes who are going to deliberately misinterpret or misread this post to fit their own agenda  : 

What these statics and this post DOESNT mean or imply : 

What these statics and post DOES mean and imply :

i’ve been trying to figure out a quick & easy way to explain the connection between the anti-queer rhetoric and radfems/TERFs for years and I think I’ve finally got it:

‘queer is a slur’ 

is the purposefully deceptive shortening of the radfem/TERF war cry 

‘queer is a slur against lesbians’

yes ‘queer’ was and is used as a mean word to hurt members of the Pride community in America, the UK, & other countries. that’s why there was a concerted & largely successful effort to reclaim the word in the late 80′s/early 90′s.

this post isn’t saying you have to personally reclaim ‘queer’ for yourself.

this post is saying that the experiences of people who don’t want to reclaim ‘queer’ for themselves are being co-opted by radfems & TERFs to push an entirely different agenda: deleting the ‘queer’ label from Pride because they believe the label de-centers the only thing they care about: [white] cis lesbians.

Except that queer has been used as a slur against the lgbt community - my own very homophobic father used it to describe anyone who was lgbt. I got called it in high school along with threats of violence because I was “queer looking”.

A lot of people - especially in my little neck of the woods - use queer as a slur freely. The monolith of the Lgbt community apparently didn’t get the memo that it’s okay to call us that because some were too busy getting that insult hurled at us. People are still being hurt by it. It literally means “different” or “weird”. It’s not the same everywhere - most “Queer isn’t a slur” groups aren’t in the southeast and Midwest - and they’re certainly a minority in those areas. 

And lose the guilt tripping of “you don’t have to identify as queer! But if you’re against it then you support terfs”. A lot of people are anti terf and still are hurt by the term.A lot of trans people are called “queers” and really don’t enjoy being called one and then being called a terf for not liking it.

You can self-identify - there’s nothing wrong with that. It’s incredibly personal for someone to reclaim it and many do. But saying that other people should because otherwise they’re supporting terfs is incredibly harmful. And denying that it’s harmful - both telling lgbt+ people that they’re supporting terfs, and telling people that their own personal feelings don’t matter when it comes to how they may or may not want to be identified - is a great way to show how little you care about anyone outside of your circle.

this post is not a guilt-trip aimed at people who are non-straight and/or non-cis but don’t identify as queer. nor is this post is saying that ‘queer’ was never a slur, or that ‘queer’ isn’t still used as a slur. 

the contested early history of the word ‘queer’ in reference to non-straight-non-cis identities aside*, the word ‘queer’ was used so ubiquitously as a slur in the US that LGBT+ activist group Queer Nation set out to reclaim it from their attackers by proudly taking the word as their identity label. (it defanged the word ‘queer’ so well that by the late 1990′s, US colleges had ‘Queer History’ and ‘Queer Studies’ courses.)

Of course: the reclamation work by Queer Nation was not universal. their activism was limited to the US, for one thing, and not everyone liked what they were doing. Queer Nation reacted to being called ‘queer’ belligerently and angrily, taking the word away from bigots, but this doesn’t delegitimize reacting by never wanting to hear the word ‘queer’ used to reference you again. yes: the word ‘queer’ is still used in a hurtful way, just like ‘gay’ is. And besides all this: it’s a legitimate decision to reject ‘queer’ as your identity for any reason, not just because of bad experiences.

so:

you’re not supporting TERFs by saying ‘I don’t like the word ‘queer’ being applied to me’, or ‘the word ‘queer’ has been used as a slur against me and I don’t like it.’ like other identities in the Pride community (such as ‘gay’ and variants on ‘trans’), ‘queer’ has a history of being used to hurt us. that’s legit. you’re legit.

this post is not aimed at you. It’s not aimed at anyone making a personal statement of their identity and preferred labels.

this post is aimed at the phrase ‘queer is a slur’ and the culture of censorship that sprang up around it, which has been used repeatedly (particularly on Tumblr) to shut down any and all posts that reference the ‘queer community’, anyone who proudly calls themselves ‘queer’, the use of the word ‘queer’ without censoring it to ‘q slur’, and more since 2013-ish.

it’s aimed at the popular nonintersectional radical feminist tumblr bloggers (who are at the very least sympathetic to the TERFs and SWERFs in their ranks) who popularized and spread the belief that ‘queer’ is only a slur, never a legitimate identity, because they hate the queer identity existing. 

(and why do they hate it? because Radfems/TERFs/SWERFs believe the queer identity is a form of violence specifically against (cis) lesbians. In the eyes of radfems, ‘queer’s lack of specificity prevents (cis) lesbians from explicitly identifying as lesbian and lets their ‘oppressors’ (read: men, trans women, non-straight-non-cis ppl with kinks, etc) have access to their ‘safe space’.)

In fact: allowing ‘queer’ to be a legitimate identity makes it difficult to gatekeep the LG(BT)** spaces radfems wish to control & police. But despite being only motivated by the desire to kick out/kick down everyone in Pride who isn’t a (cis) lesbian, radfems/terfs/swerfs sure were (and are!) perfectly happy to make it sound like they believe ‘queer’ is a deeply harmful word to the whole community of Pride - used only as a slur, and claimed as an identity only by ‘cishet invaders’ pretending to be one of the Cool LGs.

thus: radfems on tumblr erase(d) the work of Queer Nation and other activists to reclaim the word ‘queer’ from bigots. and when anyone reminds tumblr of the reclamation work from decades past, black&white-thinking tumblr is quick to react with what amounts to: ‘because some people who could reclaim ‘queer’ for themselves have chosen not to, it has never been reclaimed at all, by anyone - and you cannot reclaim it for yourself.’ because it’s true - there are many people who have chosen to not reclaim ‘queer’ even though they could, for many different reasons. 

but as I said in the OP post: the experiences & statements of people who, like you, have chosen to not id as queer, are being CO-OPTED by radfems/terfs/swerfs.

using the deceptive, easy-to-remember slogan ‘queer is a slur’ as a disseminating agent, radfems/terfs/swerfs have essentially STOLEN your personal story to ‘prove’ their bullshit narrative that ‘queer is a slur and only a slur’ - something you & others who don’t reclaim ‘queer’ are not even close to saying!

tl;dr: 

this post isn’t saying non-straight, non-cis people who don’t claim ‘queer’ are supporting TERFs.

it’s saying that TERFs are STEALING from you to damage the unity of Pride - a community that we are ALL a part of. (and that’s NOT YOUR FAULT, but we should all be aware that’s happening.)

*at a conference I attended recently, an expert historian said gay men called themselves ‘queer’ in the 1910′s, & that’s the first time the word pops up in English in reference to non-straightness. it was turned on non-straight-non-cis people over the following decades.

**obviously TERFs would kick the ‘T’ out in a heartbeat, but a lot of lesbian-identified radfems would also kick out the ‘B’. Bi people only ‘count’ if they’re ‘choosing to be lesbian/gay’, or they’re a ‘bihet’. (and yes, that’s as biphobic and nb-phobic as it sounds.)

I wish more people acknowledged how historically it was mostly non cis/straight people of color,working class people ,sex workers etc who were more likely to use the label “queer” to describe themselves bc they often did not had the privilege to have access to words and resources to explore and describe their gender and orientations and how they intersected/differentiated from their race/culture .

Most of the lgbtqa circles were dominated mostly by white cis upper/upper-middle class lgbtqa people many of whom were still quite racist,classist and anti sex workers and used to shun those people from accessing their meetings,rallies,resources etc and thus the non cis/straight people of color,working class people,sex workers etc used “queer” to identify themselves as non cis/straight but someone who wasnt specific about their identity.

Trying to paint “queer” as inherently a bad and useless word is not only ahistorical but also erases the existence of those people and their experiences 

@sophrosynic Obviously reclamation is not universal. Words in such common usage by the community such as “gay” and “dyke” are still slurs in many contexts and places, but we don’t see the “queer is a slur” crowd running around trying to shut down these terms.

Also, queer can’t be an umbrella term for all people who are not straight/not cis, and the claim that we’re trying to use it to describe the whole LGBT+ community is false. “Queer” is associated with radical activism and resistance to heteronormativity specifically as a reaction to mainstream LGBT+ politics, so it can’t be replaced with LGBT+ and vice versa.

If you’re not queer then you’re not queer. Simple as that.

Except the problem with the word queer has never really been what you’re saying here. No one is saying that people who use the term as an identity can’t do that, or that the word has to be scrubbed entirely out of existence even in historical & certain contemporary contexts. What people have overwhelmingly tried to critique are the politics of reclamation that people ascribe to when it comes to the word queer, specifically the idea that reclaiming a slur on a personal level somehow stops it from being a slur, period, when this is really not true.

It’s not comparable to words like ‘gay’ or ‘d*ke’, mainly because the word gay is not an analogous slur to begin with, and ‘d*ke’ is a slur that is overwhelmingly derogatory towards lesbians and no one else. Many of the lesbians who use the term don’t deny that it’s still a slur, regardless of their own personal usage of the word, which is exactly why non-lesbians are not allowed to use it to refer to lesbians, even if said lesbian happens to use the word as a personal descriptor. 

It’s great that you’re happy with identifying as queer, and that this is empowering to you. That’s your personal decision, and no one should dictate to you otherwise on the subject. But it’s not a “reclaimed” slur, and it hasn’t stopped being a slur because some folks have chosen to identify as such. It’s still a slur. Acknowledging that is important.

So not being called queer against your wishes isn’t enough for you. Here you are getting honest, telling me you want it to be relegated to historical and **limited** contemporary contexts. You want us to sharply cut back on its use, to the personal and whatever specific contents you decree.

Like, buddy, of course it’s a slur. If it wasn’t a slur it would never have had to be reclaimed. The reclamation is part of the radical act, turning derision and hatred and violence against us into strength. And no it’s not just personal, it’s a political movement with a lot of history–bold of you to try to erase that on your say-so lmao. Queer is purposefully not respectable like LGBT+ because it is meant to be a giant fuck you to heteronormativity. It is a different politics and replacing it with a word that is not a slur misses the entire point. You don’t like that it’s a slur? Then stay in your respectable LGBT+ boxes where you never have to hear a bad word with bad connotations. Queer isn’t for you and it’s not about you.

You want to know what some of the biggest Pride events in my country are? Queer Culture Festival and Queer Parade. Not Gay Pride, because we reject the idea that cis gay men and cis lesbians represent us all. Not LGBT+ because we don’t all fit into neat categories, and no one gets to play cute little tricks like “Drop the T” or “A is for Ally.” Queer, because we are an indivisible whole, and those who want to pull shit like “Lesbian, not queer” know to stay home. We’re not changing that just because you have an issue with how inclusive the term is and the fact that dirty little aceys can claim it just as easily as you.

We’re here. We’re queer. Cover your damned ears and stay in your fucking lane.

“Here you are getting honest, telling me you want it to be relegated to historical and **limited** contemporary contexts. You want us to sharply cut back on its use, to the personal and whatever specific contents you decree.“

That’s really not what I said? I was offering clarification and an understanding that there are always going to be contexts where the word queer is required and necessary and important, especially if you’re referring to, like you mentioned, “a political movement with a lot of history.” 

Also, I didn’t use the word “limited”–you chose to add that, so maybe don’t put words in my mouth? Neither did I say that I wanted to “sharply cut back on its use”–you chose to add that take yourself, so acting like I said or meant that in some way is to have read my response in really bad faith.

“The reclamation is part of the radical act, turning derision and hatred and violence against us into strength.“

Except this isn’t actually all that simple, which was the whole point of my response. It’s much more complicated than that, especially given the complex history and evolution of the movement to begin with, as well as the complex history and usage of the word ‘queer’. This is what I mean when I say that this is a perspective that works for you, but isn’t one that’s shared across the board, especially when you consider the full breadth of the history of queer activism as a whole. 

Acting like “reclamation” in general falls neatly into two groups where one group is happy with the word as an identifier, and the other group is not doesn’t even come anywhere close to the actual reality. This perspective wrt “reclamation” has always been super ignorant of the variety of ways in which the word ‘queer’ has been used and is still used today. Quoting from this post:

The perspective also ignores the fact that perspectives on things like queer history/theory/activism are not monoliths, not even within the same organization, let alone the movement. The post I quoted from offers a number of those perspectives from a bunch of different sources, and even that doesn’t come close to just how many varied viewpoints there are, even from the people who were at the forefront of activism in the 90s.

So when I said that “reclamation is not universal.” I don’t just mean that there are some people who are unhappy with and don’t identify with the word ‘queer.’ I meant that there’s a spectrum of views, where the idea of “reclaiming the word” represents just one of them. This is what I meant when I said that it’s great that it works for you, and that this is your perspective, but this is nowhere near representative of the views of the queer movement as a whole. Even if that movement happens to have the word ‘queer’ in the title.

Again, to quote from the same post:

“Queer is purposefully not respectable like LGBT+ because it is meant to be a giant fuck you to heteronormativity. It is a different politics and replacing it with a word that is not a slur misses the entire point. You don’t like that it’s a slur? Then stay in your respectable LGBT+ boxes where you never have to hear a bad word with bad connotations.“

Holy shit, this is an entire mess. I didn’t address this implication in your original response, because I wanted to give you the benefit of the doubt, but now that you’ve set this down so clearly, it’s worth responding to. 

In what world are LGBT+ “respectable” and “tidy” categories of identification? Do you not realize what a profoundly bad take it is to imply that identifying as “queer” makes you somehow more radical in your subsequent politics? Do you realize what you’re saying when you say that LGBT+ is somehow less of a giant fuck you to heteronormativity? And do you even understand where this criticism of the LGBT+ movement as “heteronormative” even emerged from to begin with?

The implication that people who might not want to identify as queer for a variety of reasons are somehow less radical in their identities and their rejection of heteronormativity isn’t just a bad, incorrect take. It’s a deeply homophobic one. If your intention is to use the word queer in a way that encompasses and unifies radical politics against heteronormativity, then I’m gonna tell you flat out that the way you’re using it here is not only wrong, but also immensely disrespectful to the very movement you think it describes, as well as the people who are a part of it. 

And like, people have criticized this exact take on multiple occasions because of its limitations and also because it’s one of the most fundamental pitfalls of “queer politics/theory/activism” as a whole. Not only because it’s been a framework that has historically not accounted for things like “race, gender, class” etc, but also because it does the exact thing that you claim it doesn’t do, which is sanitize everyone’s identities into a nebulous, neatly defined little category that doesn’t even account for the sheer diversity of peoples’ identities:

(source)

“Queer, because we are an indivisible whole, and those who want to pull shit like “Lesbian, not queer” know to stay home.“

And speaking of homophobia, it really didn’t take you very long to break out the garden variety lesbophobia now did it? I mean, I would say I’m surprised, but I’m not. How are you honestly going to start off with the premise that “queer = inclusive” and then say something like “lesbians know to stay home if they don’t like it”? The fact that you typed this shit out with a straight face and zero awareness is emblematic of nearly everything that’s wrong with popular Tumblr discourse about the word queer, lol. 

It’s laughable that you state that “queer = indivisible whole,” except for those lesbians who should stay home if they don’t agree with you, because they’re probably too respectably heteronormative anyway. If your so-called “queer activism” and radical politics is one that seeks to exclude people, then it’s not radical, or inclusive, and it’s not activism. It’s just stale, rehashed bigotry. 

Also, have you actually spoken to local Korean activists at length, aside from Pride? Because if you sincerely believe that your dumpster fire of a take is somehow universal among the community, then you’re in for a really shocking eye-opener.

“We’re here. We’re queer. Cover your damned ears and stay in your fucking lane.“

That’s cute. Except the way you’re using the phrase “we’re here, we’re queer” is entirely divorced from its actual historical context. So maybe instead of throwing this around like a gotcha, you can spend some time reading up on the history of this chant and how it was born from HIV/AIDS activism, and how it isn’t actually a cutesy little catch-all snap back for people to fling around when they don’t have a leg to stand on. 

If “certain contemporary contexts” doesn’t sound limiting to you and you didn’t mean it that way, then fine. You already agreed that it’s okay for people to identify as queer, that it’s a political movement, and that it’s okay to use it. I agreed that it is a slur–a slur that, whatever its level of reclamation, we agree is all right for personal, political, and academic use, though its level of efficacy may be in dispute (more on that later). According to you, you didn’t even mean to tell people to limit its use when you went all “it’s a sluuuuur.” (Jeesh, we know!)

So what was even the point? What’s the point of contention here? You just completely change the subject from queer being a slur to critiques of the queer movement and the fact that my opinion isn’t universal. Why? Because you need to keep this “conversation” going somehow? Because you need to waste more of my time by shifting the conversation every time we reach an agreement?

I never claimed my opinion is universal or that I speak for the whole movement, because who can? Do you speak for the whole LGBT+ movement? The best “rebuttal” you can give is that it’s not that universal or simple, which is… okay? What movement is simple and homogenous? What theory is free from problems? If you were going to come at me about the efficacy of queer as a label and a movement then you could have done that from the start. You didn’t need to act like its being a slur was the end of the argument then move on to substantive critique when we reach an agreement on that. These critiques are valid and important but they really weren’t the point.

Also, you’re being deliberately obtuse if you think my stating the aspirations and background of (some in the) queer movement is an attempt to pin it down to one thing. I was explaining why a slur can still be useful and be worth reclamation and make a political statement–and you agreed. Your points of contention seems to be that it’s not that effective and there isn’t broad agreement, but again, that’s a different conversation that I’m not sure why you’re even bringing into a post about whether it’s okay to continue to use queer. It looks like we’re in agreement: It is! That was the whole point of the OP! To me the fact that you’re dragging things on by adding a ton of irrelevant stuff makes it look suspiciously like you’re still trying to say it shouldn’t be used, while also insisting that’s not what you mean. Maybe talk out of just one side of your mouth?

“The implication that people who might not want to identify as queer for a variety of reasons are somehow less radical in their identities and their rejection of heteronormativity isn’t just a bad, incorrect take. It’s a deeply homophobic one. If your intention is to use the word queer in a way that encompasses and unifies radical politics against heteronormativity, then I’m gonna tell you flat out that the way you’re using it here is not only wrong, but also immensely disrespectful to the very movement you think it describes, as well as the people who are a part of it.“

Holy strawmannig, Batman! Like, maybe read what I actually said? I was responding to people like you who object to its use for being a slur. Which you say you’re not. So what’s the argument here, again? I have already said on this very thread that you have reblogged that it’s not an umbrella term and cannot replace LGBT+, and in fact reacts against mainstream LGBT+ politics (M A I N S T R E A M which is by definition not radical, what even are words). That is why, I argued, they are not interchangeable and queer should continue to be in use. Way to accuse me of saying the exact opposite of what I said.

Thanks for the sources, like I said these are really important and good critiques but, again, doesn’t really pertain to this discussion, which is about the usage of “queer.”

“it really didn’t take you very long to break out the garden variety lesbophobia now did it?”

Zomggggg are you really ignorant of what “lesbian, not queer” was about or are you purposefully obscuring it? It’s the same slogan used by the “Get the L Out” people, a.k.a. TERFs, which is what they turned to after “Drop the T” failed. Here it is from the “Get the L Out” campaign’s own website (link):

“Lesbian not queer” is literally AT THE TOP OF THEIR WEBSITE. Did you really think these peeps are just stopping at not identifying as queer, that they are critiquing the problems of the queer movement in good faith? Did you really think they’re not flaming transphobes?

Jesus H. Christ, this is how aphobia and exclusionism become gateway drugs to TERF thinking and help mainstream their rhetoric. Get your head out of your ass and stop conflating pushback to transphobia with lesbophobia. That is literal TERF talk. You don’t seem like a transphobe yourself but what you’re doing here is called being a useful idiot.

“So what was even the point? What’s the point of contention here?“

My initial issue with what you wrote was the idea that the word queer has been “thoroughly reclaimed” because it’s been used in terms like “queer theory” and “queer activism” etc. I pointed out that this is really not how reclamation of a slur works, and you seemingly agreed, and it would have stopped there, but then you careened on and exposed the exact variety of “queer politics” that you ascribe to (not all of them are the same btw), hence my subsequent response with the sources critiquing your specific variant of queer politics and its efficacy lol (not the efficacy of queer as a label and a movement as a whole). 

It wasn’t the initial point of contention for sure. Heck, I was even willing to ignore the way that you created a shitty dichotomy between “LGBT+ politics” and “queer politics” in your initial response, but again, you were committed to misunderstanding what I wrote, and then you dug your hole deeper in the process. But I’m the one who shifted the goalposts, right?

“I have already said on this very thread that you have reblogged that it’s not an umbrella term and cannot replace LGBT+, and in fact reacts against mainstream LGBT+ politics (M A I N S T R E A M which is by definition not radical, what even is reading comprehension).“

I think it’s funny that you’re complaining about me lacking reading comprehension when you honestly don’t seem to understand that words have actual meanings, and they don’t just mean what you want them to mean. 

Where did I ever say that my complaint was about this idea that queer is going to replace LGBT+ as a label? I know that’s not what you meant. That’s not what my objection to what you wrote is about. My objection is entirely rooted in the fact that you literally stated things like, “Queer is purposefully not respectable like LGBT+” and that if people don’t like it they should, “stay in your respectable LGBT+ boxes where you never have to hear a bad word with bad connotations.” And also how you said, explicitly, that LGBT+ identities are “tidy” and “respectable” and that “queer activism was born as a reaction to mainstream LGBT+ activism.” 

Like, you jump straight to accusing me of strawmanning your argument when, frankly, there’s nothing to strawman to begin with. I know what you wrote. You know what you wrote. And what you wrote is fucking stupid. The idea that “queer politics” is inherently more radical and that the mainstream LGBT+ movement is by contrast “respectable” is false. It’s an idea that has an actual meaning and a history behind it, and it’s been criticized on multiple occasions for being flawed and limited in both thinking and practice, not only because it’s homophobic, but also because it’s racist and lacks any type of intersectional analysis regarding the diversity of identities in the movement to begin with. 

The idea that “mainstream =/= radical” in the sense that you’ve used it here is also rooted in the context of HIV/AIDS activism and its subsequent aftermath. The queer activist movement that emerged as a reaction to mainstream LGBT+ politics was incredibly limited in its scope, even as it claimed to be broader by virtue of its lack of respectability. My objection was never about the fact that I thought queer was meant to replace LGBT+. My objection has always been the way you’ve chosen to characterize the two as “respectable vs. not respectable” without actually considering what this has meant historically and in practice today. *That’s* what my sources were for. 

Even if your intentions behind the usage of these terms is benign, the fact remains that they came from somewhere, and it would be worthwhile for you to consider exactly why you conceptualize the mainstream LGBT+ movements and the queer activist movements in these exact terms. Just saying. If I were the type to argue as you do, I’d also say that this is the gateway drugs to racist thinking that lacks in any meaningful intersectional analysis. But I’m not an asshole. So there’s that.

The especially funny thing is that, as you pointed out, this was never the original argument to begin with. The whole conversation about “queer as a label and a movement” would have remained a whole different one, if and only if you hadn’t gone straight ahead and exposed your own self in the process of misunderstanding and acting like a douchebag about what I wrote in the first place lmao. You literally went into the details of what you think queer politics is on your own, and then you complained about me responding to your shit for some reason. 

“Jesus H. Christ, this is how aphobia and exclusionism become gateway drugs to TERF thinking and help mainstream their rhetoric “

Are you fucking shitting me? You accuse me of shifting goalposts? When did this conversation become about aphobia and exclusionism? Even setting aside the fact that this is a fucking appalling take that multiple trans lesbians on this website have addressed, I haven’t referenced either aphobia or exclusionism once in my responses. You’re the one who brought this up. So are you going to complain again about how I’m straying from the point and shifting the goal posts or what?

So I had a chance to look at the links you so thoughtfully provided, and I’m laughing hard because none of what you sent me rebuts my characterization of the history at all.

This article, linked by the post whose link you provided says in the very first page (link to PDF, emphases mine):

It’s almost like this article…. confirms the stance… that many saw queer politics as an alternative to assimilationist gay and lesbian politics? It may not be a monolithic view (which I never claimed it was, that’s all you), but it is a prominent enough view to be discussed in academic articles. It’s almost like your characterization of queer as “never” meaning what I said it meant is like… false and ahistorical or something.

In the Mark Halperin article (link), the portion you quoted is talking about limitations and problems of queer theory being institutionalized, which like I said is a valid critique, but doesn’t rebut anything I said. The paragraph right before that talks about the good that queer theory did, and Halperin himself is a prominent queer theorist.

I think your main objection is that I’m shitting on LGBT+ politics as a whole based on a false dichotomy with queer politics, but I’m not. When did I ever claim queer politics was the only radical politics for non-straight/non-cis people? I was responding to the kind of LGBT+ politics YOU seemed to endorse (and that queer activists from the late 80s were reacting to) when you appeared to denigrate the entire idea and existence of queer politics, and the usage of “queer” itself, outside purely personal identification choices. If that’s not what you meant, then there was really no point to this whole tiresome exchange.

When did this conversation become about aphobia and exclusionism?

Are you going to just ignore the part where you defended actual TERFs and called me lesbophobic for pointing out that people spouting out-and-out transphobia should not be welcome at Pride? Since you rightfully object to these transphobes’ bigoted positions, where did your terrifying bout of stupidity come from if not your dislike of the queer label and its inclusiveness of aces?

Or are you still in denial that “lesbian not queer” is a TERF thing? Are you still so attached to anti-queer rhetoric that you’re willing to accept them as good-faith critics of queer politics and identification? Here’s an article that’s actually friendly to the “get the l out” protesters (link, endorsement of transphobia at linked article) where, yes, it explicitly says “lesbian not queer” was one of their slogans. If you don’t think the stance that trans inclusion is a plot for trans women to rape cis lesbians is not violently transmisogynistic, please let me know so I can block you and never interact again.

@sophrosynic Obviously reclamation is not universal. Words in such common usage by the community such as “gay” and “dyke” are still slurs in many contexts and places, but we don’t see the “queer is a slur” crowd running around trying to shut down these terms.

Also, queer can’t be an umbrella term for all people who are not straight/not cis, and the claim that we’re trying to use it to describe the whole LGBT+ community is false. “Queer” is associated with radical activism and resistance to heteronormativity specifically as a reaction to mainstream LGBT+ politics, so it can’t be replaced with LGBT+ and vice versa.

If you’re not queer then you’re not queer. Simple as that.

Except the problem with the word queer has never really been what you’re saying here. No one is saying that people who use the term as an identity can’t do that, or that the word has to be scrubbed entirely out of existence even in historical & certain contemporary contexts. What people have overwhelmingly tried to critique are the politics of reclamation that people ascribe to when it comes to the word queer, specifically the idea that reclaiming a slur on a personal level somehow stops it from being a slur, period, when this is really not true.

It’s not comparable to words like ‘gay’ or ‘d*ke’, mainly because the word gay is not an analogous slur to begin with, and ‘d*ke’ is a slur that is overwhelmingly derogatory towards lesbians and no one else. Many of the lesbians who use the term don’t deny that it’s still a slur, regardless of their own personal usage of the word, which is exactly why non-lesbians are not allowed to use it to refer to lesbians, even if said lesbian happens to use the word as a personal descriptor. 

It’s great that you’re happy with identifying as queer, and that this is empowering to you. That’s your personal decision, and no one should dictate to you otherwise on the subject. But it’s not a “reclaimed” slur, and it hasn’t stopped being a slur because some folks have chosen to identify as such. It’s still a slur. Acknowledging that is important.

So not being called queer against your wishes isn’t enough for you. Here you are getting honest, telling me you want it to be relegated to historical and **limited** contemporary contexts. You want us to sharply cut back on its use, to the personal and whatever specific contents you decree.

Like, buddy, of course it’s a slur. If it wasn’t a slur it would never have had to be reclaimed. The reclamation is part of the radical act, turning derision and hatred and violence against us into strength. And no it’s not just personal, it’s a political movement with a lot of history–bold of you to try to erase that on your say-so lmao. Queer is purposefully not respectable like LGBT+ because it is meant to be a giant fuck you to heteronormativity. It is a different politics and replacing it with a word that is not a slur misses the entire point. You don’t like that it’s a slur? Then stay in your respectable LGBT+ boxes where you never have to hear a bad word with bad connotations. Queer isn’t for you and it’s not about you.

You want to know what some of the biggest Pride events in my country are? Queer Culture Festival and Queer Parade. Not Gay Pride, because we reject the idea that cis gay men and cis lesbians represent us all. Not LGBT+ because we don’t all fit into neat categories, and no one gets to play cute little tricks like “Drop the T” or “A is for Ally.” Queer, because we are an indivisible whole, and those who want to pull shit like “Lesbian, not queer” know to stay home. We’re not changing that just because you have an issue with how inclusive the term is and the fact that dirty little aceys can claim it just as easily as you.

We’re here. We’re queer. Cover your damned ears and stay in your fucking lane.

“Here you are getting honest, telling me you want it to be relegated to historical and **limited** contemporary contexts. You want us to sharply cut back on its use, to the personal and whatever specific contents you decree.“

That’s really not what I said? I was offering clarification and an understanding that there are always going to be contexts where the word queer is required and necessary and important, especially if you’re referring to, like you mentioned, “a political movement with a lot of history.” 

Also, I didn’t use the word “limited”–you chose to add that, so maybe don’t put words in my mouth? Neither did I say that I wanted to “sharply cut back on its use”–you chose to add that take yourself, so acting like I said or meant that in some way is to have read my response in really bad faith.

“The reclamation is part of the radical act, turning derision and hatred and violence against us into strength.“

Except this isn’t actually all that simple, which was the whole point of my response. It’s much more complicated than that, especially given the complex history and evolution of the movement to begin with, as well as the complex history and usage of the word ‘queer’. This is what I mean when I say that this is a perspective that works for you, but isn’t one that’s shared across the board, especially when you consider the full breadth of the history of queer activism as a whole. 

Acting like “reclamation” in general falls neatly into two groups where one group is happy with the word as an identifier, and the other group is not doesn’t even come anywhere close to the actual reality. This perspective wrt “reclamation” has always been super ignorant of the variety of ways in which the word ‘queer’ has been used and is still used today. Quoting from this post:

The perspective also ignores the fact that perspectives on things like queer history/theory/activism are not monoliths, not even within the same organization, let alone the movement. The post I quoted from offers a number of those perspectives from a bunch of different sources, and even that doesn’t come close to just how many varied viewpoints there are, even from the people who were at the forefront of activism in the 90s.

So when I said that “reclamation is not universal.” I don’t just mean that there are some people who are unhappy with and don’t identify with the word ‘queer.’ I meant that there’s a spectrum of views, where the idea of “reclaiming the word” represents just one of them. This is what I meant when I said that it’s great that it works for you, and that this is your perspective, but this is nowhere near representative of the views of the queer movement as a whole. Even if that movement happens to have the word ‘queer’ in the title.

Again, to quote from the same post:

“Queer is purposefully not respectable like LGBT+ because it is meant to be a giant fuck you to heteronormativity. It is a different politics and replacing it with a word that is not a slur misses the entire point. You don’t like that it’s a slur? Then stay in your respectable LGBT+ boxes where you never have to hear a bad word with bad connotations.“

Holy shit, this is an entire mess. I didn’t address this implication in your original response, because I wanted to give you the benefit of the doubt, but now that you’ve set this down so clearly, it’s worth responding to. 

In what world are LGBT+ “respectable” and “tidy” categories of identification? Do you not realize what a profoundly bad take it is to imply that identifying as “queer” makes you somehow more radical in your subsequent politics? Do you realize what you’re saying when you say that LGBT+ is somehow less of a giant fuck you to heteronormativity? And do you even understand where this criticism of the LGBT+ movement as “heteronormative” even emerged from to begin with?

The implication that people who might not want to identify as queer for a variety of reasons are somehow less radical in their identities and their rejection of heteronormativity isn’t just a bad, incorrect take. It’s a deeply homophobic one. If your intention is to use the word queer in a way that encompasses and unifies radical politics against heteronormativity, then I’m gonna tell you flat out that the way you’re using it here is not only wrong, but also immensely disrespectful to the very movement you think it describes, as well as the people who are a part of it. 

And like, people have criticized this exact take on multiple occasions because of its limitations and also because it’s one of the most fundamental pitfalls of “queer politics/theory/activism” as a whole. Not only because it’s been a framework that has historically not accounted for things like “race, gender, class” etc, but also because it does the exact thing that you claim it doesn’t do, which is sanitize everyone’s identities into a nebulous, neatly defined little category that doesn’t even account for the sheer diversity of peoples’ identities:

(source)

“Queer, because we are an indivisible whole, and those who want to pull shit like “Lesbian, not queer” know to stay home.“

And speaking of homophobia, it really didn’t take you very long to break out the garden variety lesbophobia now did it? I mean, I would say I’m surprised, but I’m not. How are you honestly going to start off with the premise that “queer = inclusive” and then say something like “lesbians know to stay home if they don’t like it”? The fact that you typed this shit out with a straight face and zero awareness is emblematic of nearly everything that’s wrong with popular Tumblr discourse about the word queer, lol. 

It’s laughable that you state that “queer = indivisible whole,” except for those lesbians who should stay home if they don’t agree with you, because they’re probably too respectably heteronormative anyway. If your so-called “queer activism” and radical politics is one that seeks to exclude people, then it’s not radical, or inclusive, and it’s not activism. It’s just stale, rehashed bigotry. 

Also, have you actually spoken to local Korean activists at length, aside from Pride? Because if you sincerely believe that your dumpster fire of a take is somehow universal among the community, then you’re in for a really shocking eye-opener.

“We’re here. We’re queer. Cover your damned ears and stay in your fucking lane.“

That’s cute. Except the way you’re using the phrase “we’re here, we’re queer” is entirely divorced from its actual historical context. So maybe instead of throwing this around like a gotcha, you can spend some time reading up on the history of this chant and how it was born from HIV/AIDS activism, and how it isn’t actually a cutesy little catch-all snap back for people to fling around when they don’t have a leg to stand on. 

If “certain contemporary contexts” doesn’t sound limiting to you and you didn’t mean it that way, then fine. You already agreed that it’s okay for people to identify as queer, that it’s a political movement, and that it’s okay to use it. I agreed that it is a slur–a slur that, whatever its level of reclamation, we agree is all right for personal, political, and academic use, though its level of efficacy may be in dispute (more on that later). According to you, you didn’t even mean to tell people to limit its use when you went all “it’s a sluuuuur.” (Jeesh, we know!)

So what was even the point? What’s the point of contention here? You just completely change the subject from queer being a slur to critiques of the queer movement and the fact that my opinion isn’t universal. Why? Because you need to keep this “conversation” going somehow? Because you need to waste more of my time by shifting the conversation every time we reach an agreement?

I never claimed my opinion is universal or that I speak for the whole movement, because who can? Do you speak for the whole LGBT+ movement? The best “rebuttal” you can give is that it’s not that universal or simple, which is… okay? What movement is simple and homogenous? What theory is free from problems? If you were going to come at me about the efficacy of queer as a label and a movement then you could have done that from the start. You didn’t need to act like its being a slur was the end of the argument then move on to substantive critique when we reach an agreement on that. These critiques are valid and important but they really weren’t the point.

Also, you’re being deliberately obtuse if you think my stating the aspirations and background of (some in the) queer movement is an attempt to pin it down to one thing. I was explaining why a slur can still be useful and be worth reclamation and make a political statement–and you agreed. Your points of contention seems to be that it’s not that effective and there isn’t broad agreement, but again, that’s a different conversation that I’m not sure why you’re even bringing into a post about whether it’s okay to continue to use queer. It looks like we’re in agreement: It is! That was the whole point of the OP! To me the fact that you’re dragging things on by adding a ton of irrelevant stuff makes it look suspiciously like you’re still trying to say it shouldn’t be used, while also insisting that’s not what you mean. Maybe talk out of just one side of your mouth?

“The implication that people who might not want to identify as queer for a variety of reasons are somehow less radical in their identities and their rejection of heteronormativity isn’t just a bad, incorrect take. It’s a deeply homophobic one. If your intention is to use the word queer in a way that encompasses and unifies radical politics against heteronormativity, then I’m gonna tell you flat out that the way you’re using it here is not only wrong, but also immensely disrespectful to the very movement you think it describes, as well as the people who are a part of it.“

Holy strawmannig, Batman! Like, maybe read what I actually said? I was responding to people like you who object to its use for being a slur. Which you say you’re not. So what’s the argument here, again? I have already said on this very thread that you have reblogged that it’s not an umbrella term and cannot replace LGBT+, and in fact reacts against mainstream LGBT+ politics (M A I N S T R E A M which is by definition not radical, what even are words). That is why, I argued, they are not interchangeable and queer should continue to be in use. Way to accuse me of saying the exact opposite of what I said.

Thanks for the sources, like I said these are really important and good critiques but, again, doesn’t really pertain to this discussion, which is about the usage of “queer.”

“it really didn’t take you very long to break out the garden variety lesbophobia now did it?”

Zomggggg are you really ignorant of what “lesbian, not queer” was about or are you purposefully obscuring it? It’s the same slogan used by the “Get the L Out” people, a.k.a. TERFs, which is what they turned to after “Drop the T” failed. Here it is from the “Get the L Out” campaign’s own website (link):

“Lesbian not queer” is literally AT THE TOP OF THEIR WEBSITE. Did you really think these peeps are just stopping at not identifying as queer, that they are critiquing the problems of the queer movement in good faith? Did you really think they’re not flaming transphobes?

Jesus H. Christ, this is how aphobia and exclusionism become gateway drugs to TERF thinking and help mainstream their rhetoric. Get your head out of your ass and stop conflating pushback to transphobia with lesbophobia. That is literal TERF talk. You don’t seem like a transphobe yourself but what you’re doing here is called being a useful idiot.

@sophrosynic Obviously reclamation is not universal. Words in such common usage by the community such as “gay” and “dyke” are still slurs in many contexts and places, but we don’t see the “queer is a slur” crowd running around trying to shut down these terms.

Also, queer can’t be an umbrella term for all people who are not straight/not cis, and the claim that we’re trying to use it to describe the whole LGBT+ community is false. “Queer” is associated with radical activism and resistance to heteronormativity specifically as a reaction to mainstream LGBT+ politics, so it can’t be replaced with LGBT+ and vice versa.

If you’re not queer then you’re not queer. Simple as that.

Except the problem with the word queer has never really been what you’re saying here. No one is saying that people who use the term as an identity can’t do that, or that the word has to be scrubbed entirely out of existence even in historical & certain contemporary contexts. What people have overwhelmingly tried to critique are the politics of reclamation that people ascribe to when it comes to the word queer, specifically the idea that reclaiming a slur on a personal level somehow stops it from being a slur, period, when this is really not true.

It’s not comparable to words like ‘gay’ or ‘d*ke’, mainly because the word gay is not an analogous slur to begin with, and ‘d*ke’ is a slur that is overwhelmingly derogatory towards lesbians and no one else. Many of the lesbians who use the term don’t deny that it’s still a slur, regardless of their own personal usage of the word, which is exactly why non-lesbians are not allowed to use it to refer to lesbians, even if said lesbian happens to use the word as a personal descriptor. 

It’s great that you’re happy with identifying as queer, and that this is empowering to you. That’s your personal decision, and no one should dictate to you otherwise on the subject. But it’s not a “reclaimed” slur, and it hasn’t stopped being a slur because some folks have chosen to identify as such. It’s still a slur. Acknowledging that is important.

So not being called queer against your wishes isn’t enough for you. Here you are getting honest, telling me you want it to be relegated to historical and **limited** contemporary contexts. You want us to sharply cut back on its use, to the personal and whatever specific contents you decree.

Like, buddy, of course it’s a slur. If it wasn’t a slur it would never have had to be reclaimed. The reclamation is part of the radical act, turning derision and hatred and violence against us into strength. And no it’s not just personal, it’s a political movement with a lot of history–bold of you to try to erase that on your say-so lmao. Queer is purposefully not respectable like LGBT+ because it is meant to be a giant fuck you to heteronormativity. It is a different politics and replacing it with a word that is not a slur misses the entire point. You don’t like that it’s a slur? Then stay in your respectable LGBT+ boxes where you never have to hear a bad word with bad connotations. Queer isn’t for you and it’s not about you.

You want to know what some of the biggest Pride events in my country are? Queer Culture Festival and Queer Parade. Not Gay Pride, because we reject the idea that cis gay men and cis lesbians represent us all. Not LGBT+ because we don’t all fit into neat categories, and no one gets to play cute little tricks like “Drop the T” or “A is for Ally.” Queer, because we are an indivisible whole, and those who want to pull shit like “Lesbian, not queer” know to stay home. We’re not changing that just because you have an issue with how inclusive the term is and the fact that dirty little aceys can claim it just as easily as you.

We’re here. We’re queer. Cover your damned ears and stay in your fucking lane.

I’m gonna be real here, I have way more trauma around the word gay than queer. For the most part gay is what people called me when threatening me with violence - queer is what they called me when they wanted to build a community. Not to say it didn’t go the other way round but, for me and honestly a lot of people, gay and d*ke were just as likely to be used against us, if not more so, so given the logic here I should be policing people who use those words. I’m not because I’m not a giant ass but I could very easily use your same arguments. Not to mention they were historically slurs too - pretty much every term for us has been a slur.

@sophrosynic Obviously reclamation is not universal. Words in such common usage by the community such as “gay” and “dyke” are still slurs in many contexts and places, but we don’t see the “queer is a slur” crowd running around trying to shut down these terms.

Also, queer can’t be an umbrella term for all people who are not straight/not cis, and the claim that we’re trying to use it to describe the whole LGBT+ community is false. “Queer” is associated with radical activism and resistance to heteronormativity specifically as a reaction to mainstream LGBT+ politics, so it can’t be replaced with LGBT+ and vice versa.

If you’re not queer then you’re not queer. Simple as that.