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Full offense, but if your coping mechanism involves hurting others, or other people are hurt as a result of your coping, then it is in fact a shitty coping mechanism that you need to get rid of, and the people you hurt have every right to be angry with you and call you a shitty person.
some people??? condemn the galaxy to an eternity of submission??? to cope???
Shipper: I relate so so deeply to this character because of my abuse and mental health issues. This character and the fan community around them got me through some really tough times so it really messes me up that there are people who actively hate?? my ship??
Anti: As it happens I’m an abuse survivor too, and I try to stay away from your ship because it brings back painful memories. I also push back against abuse apologist arguments for your ship because that same logic has been used to hurt me and others in real life.
Shipper: No… that can’t be right… only I can cope with trauma in fandom spaces, not you… it’s not abusive sweaty, it’s just fiction :) ship and let ship :)
@lj-writes please correct me if im wrong,so in this situation you would tell to the shipper not to ship even if it is to cope? if not idk how they would reply in such a way,so defensive. also the shipper
also i dont understand the thing of "fandom space" like is the shipper here telling you that you cant ship??? i dont understand
Where in the post do I mention anyone telling anyone else not to ship something? Maybe read again without defensive lens. This post is about the hypocrisy of certain shippers saying only their type of coping through fiction is valid, and people with different reactions to their ship are losers who can’t distinguish between fiction and reality.
Hey anti-Reylo fam, I’m switching over to your side. I’m sure some of my Reylo followers are going to be pissed (pls don’t hurt me, I still get why you ship it since I was there just yesterday).
As these clips of Kylo and Rey keep popping up, I’ve noticed an eerie resemblance between Kylo’s mannerisms and those of my abusive ex.
I think part of why I shipped it was because, subconsciously, I knew there was that connection and I wanted it to work out in this situation - sort of a vicarious happy ending… but, the more I’ve looked into meta-analyses on both sides (a productive way to spend finals week) I can’t bring myself to ship it anymore. Maybe my feelings will change once I see TLJ, but as of now, I am finally seeing Kylo as the manipulative man that he is, trying to get his way by using a young girl.
After TFA I shipped Finnrey, and now I’m like “wait why did I stop? How did I get swept up in this?”
Anyway, SW fandom, I hope that everyone can still enjoy TLJ even if it isn’t what we wanted. I get that people are attached to the series and characters, but let’s not be vulgar with one another.
I completely understand the urge to work out a bad past situation vicariously, goodness knows I've tried it before and in real life no less. I hope you're able to heal in a way that gives you peace and happiness.
