I've been sitting on this decision all day and I can't take it anymore.

A while ago I was pondering something about relationships and being aromantic would entail. I don't often make posts and I am not overt about this, but I'm aromantic, and I still develop very close and intimate relationships with others, but it feels wrong to use "boyfriend", "girlfriend", "partner", etc., so I started thinking. I realized that there are no real terms for close, intimate friendship that isn't just "fuck friend" or "fuck buddy". The term I was looking for wasn't just for friends you have sex with, it was meant to be something more, but not carry the same weight and commitment as "girlfriend", "boyfriend", or "partner".

So! I have coined the term "Smoochfriend". I define it as follows;

- "A 'smoochfriend' is someone who a person is emotionally attracted to in a platonic way, which could be mistaken as a committed partner, but is in fact not. It carries less commitment from the relationship, but is not a fuckbuddy."

The demographic intended to use this term is mainly aromantic people who feel like the word "partner", and similar, gendered, words, doesn't feel right to use for their kind of intimate relationship with other individuals.

However, I encourage widespread use of this term as it is gender neutral, and people who experience romantic love may also experience intimate platonic love.

Also the term is cute, so I'm at least using it as I've defined it. And for the rest of you who might want to adopt this word, use it responsibly and not as a free pass to do whatever the fuck you want; This is an emotionally powerful term to use and abuse and misuse of it still hurts others, and I'll personally come after you with a bear trap.

I've rambled long enough and I need to get my evening stream going.

Reminder that twitter is now an informal, unregulated (i.e. warrantless) information source for Trump administration use.

Mutual Aid Disaster Relief resource list masterpost

So I just found https://mutualaiddisasterrelief.org/resources/ And it is AMAZING.

I could share it as a link but many of you won’t click it and realize the abundance of things behind it that might be relevant to you right now. So Instead I’m gonna copy-paste the lot so you can all share in its glory. No part of this list was my work, I take no credit, I’m just the copy-paster.

The hotlines and specific services are US centric. If people wanna add less US-centric sources, please do.

Disaster Response

A Window Propped Open A Window Propped Open Issue 2: Lessons Learned Organizing After Hurricane Harvey A Love Letter to the Future Mutual Fire Brigade Basic Rescue Skills Trauma and Therapeutic Art: Information for Children, Families and Volunteers Transition is Inevitable; Justice is Not: A Critical Framework for Just Recovery Staying Above Water: Global Migration in the Face of the Climate Crisis Mutual Aid Disaster Relief: Navigating Trauma Citizen’s Guide for Readiness for Climate Extremes in the Desert Southwest Inhabit: Instructions for Autonomy Solidarity for Survival: A Graphic Illustration The Resilience We Want – A Guide to Making Your Community Space into a Hub for Resilience and Mutual Aid When We Got Handed Gatorade We Danced in the Street: A Survivor’s Survival Guide Prisoners in Disaster: The Legacy of Abuse, Exploitation and Endangerment of Prisoners in Disaster A People’s Framework for Disaster Response: Rewriting the Rules of Recovery after Climate Disasters

Disaster Disability Hotline

The Partnership For Inclusive Disaster Strategy’s Disaster Disability Hotline provides information, referrals, guidance, technical assistance and resources to people with disabilities, their families, allies, organizations assisting disaster impacted individuals with disabilities and others seeking assistance with immediate and urgent disaster-related needs.

The Disaster Hotline is always available for intake calls, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year at (800) 626-4959 and [email protected]. They will have their knowledgeable team respond to your call as soon as possible, often immediately, and intend to respond to all callers within 24 hours.

Safety and DIY Cleanup

Repairing Your Flooded Home  EPA Flood Cleanup Booklet DIY Field Guide For Clean-up Of Flooded Homes Safety Notice For Unskilled Or Nontrade Volunteers House Gutting Manual  Muckout Safety Guidelines Toxic Chemicals and Staying Safe Mold Cleaning and Prevention Mold Cleaning and Prevention (Spanish) Black Mold Flyer

Wellness/Community Care

An Activists Guide to Basic First Aid Peer Counseling and Active Listening Alternatives to EMS Home Remedies for Common Maladies Traveling Companions  Information on Heat and Related Illnesses  Hypothermia Responding to Critical Incident Stress Class Struggle and Mental Health Zine Madness and Oppression Guide A Call for Prefigurative Mental Health Support and Communal Care for Radical Orgs

Emergency Prescription Assistance Program

The Emergency Prescription Assistance Program, or EPAP, was created to help people in a disaster who don’t have health insurance so they have access to: prescription medicine, medical equipment, medical supplies, and vaccinations. Hotline: 1-855-793-7470.

Trauma and Burnout

Mutual Aid Disaster Relief: Navigating Trauma Trauma_Overview Preventing Burnout Understanding and Coping with Traumatic Stress Understanding and Addressing Vicarious Trauma Grounding and Centering for Activists Rising Up Without Burning Out Sustainable Activism and Avoiding Burnout Psychological First Aid Activist Trauma and Recovery Trauma and Therapeutic Art: Information for Children, Families and Volunteers Community Trauma Toolkit Coping With_Climate_Change_Distress

Disaster Distress Helpline

The Disaster Distress Helpline, 1-800-985-5990, is a 24/7, 365-day-a–year, national hotline dedicated to providing immediate crisis counseling for people who are experiencing emotional distress related to any natural or human-caused disaster. This toll-free, multilingual, and confidential crisis support service is available to all residents in the United States and its territories. Stress, anxiety, and other depression-like symptoms are common reactions after a disaster.

Call 1-800-985-5990 or text TalkWithUs to 66746 to connect with a trained crisis counselor.

Legal/Security

Security Culture – A Handbook For Activists  Ruckus Security Culture For Activists Know Your Rights: Immigration and Disaster Relief Council on American Islamic Relations Know Your Rights Guide National Lawyers Guild Know Your Rights Guide Why Misogynists Make Great Informants

Disaster Legal Hotlines

Legal Aid of North Carolina: 1 866 219 5262 Florida Legal Services’ Disaster Recovery: 888 780 0443 State Bar of Texas Disaster Hotline: 800 504 7030 California Disaster Legal Services For More Legal Aid Disaster Hotlines go to: American Bar Association

Anti Oppression

Accomplices Not Allies Why Misogynists Make Great Informants Who Is Oakland: Anti Oppression Activism, The Politics of Safety, and State Co-optation Anti-Oppression Reader With Allies Like These  Challenging Capitalism And Patriarchy  Confronting Classism  Contextualizing Katrina and Confronting Racism  Guidelines For Being A Strong White Ally  Overcoming Discrimination  Patterns of Patriarchy Commonly Observed within Social Justice Movements  Readings on Racism and Resistance for Solidarity Activists  Ten Things To Remember – AntiRacist Strategies For White Student Radicals  The Revolution Starts At Home – Confronting Partner Abuse In Radical Communities Towards A Perspective On Unlearning Racism

Kitchen and Food Handling

Food Safety First Manual

Popular Education and Direct Action

You Have Skills: Evaluating What Skills You Can Bring to Radical Organizing From Banks and Tanks to Cooperation and Caring Handbook for Nonviolent Campaigns  Handbook For Direct Action Affinity Groups  Affinity Groups 2 On Strategic Nonviolent Conflict  Participating In Direct Actions -A Guide For Transgender People  Planning An Action Rising Tide Climate Change Popular Education Ruckus Action Planning Manual  Ruckus Action Strategy Guide Ruckus Scouting Manual For Activists Social Change Vision Questions Core Curriculum – A Guide To Effective Nonviolent Struggle What Do We Mean by Mutual Aid? Metodo de Trabajo y Organizacion Popular Manual de Planificación Para Organizaciones Sociales

Water, Sanitation and Hygiene

No More Deaths – Compost Toilet User Guide Sanitizing Water (Spanish) – Saneamiento del agua (español)

Also for even more resources, check out this Mutual Aid Toolbox from Big Door Brigade and these How To guides from Shareable.

vyper!!!! new commission type dropped and also this was me experimenting with expression since i always give up easyyyy. so yay. vyper milliner -> real name achilleo is a character i played in @lixiebuilds game, and then later on and off in a 1 on 1. he's my evil hecata who's to bash in some heads, is real bad at necromancy and only really cares abt making as much drug money as possible. but he treats his ghouls well. (u didnt hear me say that)

Vyper yay! Also plagiarizng a bit of Lavender there are you? :)

finally, the update! anyone who has commissioned me before today obviously still gets the old prices.

anyways slots are open for now, feel free to message me either at [email protected], or here in dms! :>

will do:

wont do:

payment is only over paypal. my full T.O.S can be found here. cant wait to draw your fun lil blorbos!! :>

the thing abt vampire sex is that it's never as good as drinking blood. plenty vampires don't even bother because they could just have a bite instead. in this aspect vampires fucking without sucking (blood) is an exercise in restraint. sorry i think i was going somewhere with this but i imagined vampire kink dynamics involving muzzles and got hard

on an unrelated note i need to draw something

You are so wise

Hana-Rawhiti Kareariki Maipi-Clarke, the youngest MP in Aotearoa, starts a haka to protest the first vote on a bill reinterpreting the 1840 Treaty of Waitangi

Important to not forget this isn't the only thing happening. The haka disrupting the vote in parliament is supported by nation wide hīkoi of thousands of people on their way to the capital to protest this

If you want to learn about what the proposed bill is that people are protesting and what it would actually mean for the constitution of Aotearoa if it went through...

YTA

Out of all the cool stuff that mythbusters ever shot on high speed camera, shooting a soccer ball at 60mph out of a truck traveling 60mph is one of my favorites

Just look at it. It is the most perfect visual representation of Newton’s 2nd law of physics I’ve ever seen. The ball, which was shot out of a CANNON, drops straight down. Two equal and opposite velocities completely canceling each other out, leaving the soccer ball to drop to the earth with a net velocity of 0. Sir issac newton would be proud to tears of this gif.

And yet this “myth” is nothing more than basic physics at work. A 10 year old with an interest in science could have told us this is possible. 60mph in one direction minus 60mph the exact opposite direction is 0. Basic.

But what makes this so frieken cool is the fact that they went through all the trouble to actually demonstrate the invisible laws that govern the way our universe works. To get this shot both the soccer ball and the truck had to be moving at the exact same speed. Real world variables make that extremely difficult to pull off. It took them hundreds of attempts to get it right. They went through all that trouble to “prove” something we have known as fact for hundreds of years. And we get this amazing gif to watch as a result.

Mythbusters is incredible. Science is incredible. And the fact that this experiment in physics can be used in science classes for years and years to come to help children learn about physics is incredible.

Hana-Rawhiti Kareariki Maipi-Clarke, the youngest MP in Aotearoa, starts a haka to protest the first vote on a bill reinterpreting the 1840 Treaty of Waitangi

Goes insanely hard

To provide further context from what I understand the bill wanted to take the rights guaranteed to the Maori in said treaty and expand them to all New Zealand citizens. The issue with that is that it sort of defeats the point of the protections of the treaty.

So I want to tell you a little story about writing In Golden Flame, because it made me feel better.

I have weekly writing groups for IGF with a few trusted individuals, and we were working on a fight wherein a streamer confronts you with a swarm of drone mechs remotely piloted by members of their stream's audience. Each one has a unique callsign that, ideally, should read like something you'd see in the userlist of a Twitch chat. So we had a list of names that looks like this:

And I remembered this old Penny Arcade strip that was about banning player usernames that were weed jokes, which had the absolutely stellar weed pun "Bram Toker." I wanted one of those in the callsign list, so me and the writing team - particularly my old friend Greg, who's an inveterate stoner - set about trying to think up a suitable weed-related pun.

Greg quickly came up with a few, which we agreed were okay, but not of the calibre we required. Then, he came up with the phenomenal "TomBongadill," which I agreed was the sort of 10/10 content we needed but was sadly unusable because I felt it was too specific to the modern day (do they even have Tolkien in 5016u?) and also I didn't want to get sued by Tolkien's estate. We puzzled over the matter for a moment in silence. I wracked my brain for a suitable pun. I needed this.

Then, like a flash of divine light, its radiance almost blinding, it came to me, and I quite literally screamed it into the Discord chat.

UtokeanPillar

In that moment, I felt like Archimedes.

SO MUCH THIS

Also: it’s because in literally 5 minutes I did this

Jesse Dornfled is ~36 years old and lives in St. Paul Minnesota. I know his phone number and all of his previous addresses for the past 11 years. I know what high school he went to. Just because he used his real name

NEW ESSAY: anarchism starts in the now: hope for a better future

there is still time

cover art: @punkitt-is-here

hi i did the art for this!! please go read, if you've been feeling hopeless lately this article is a wonderful reminder of what we can still do <3

Elizabeth Kirkman Fitzhugh, Militant Mary

November 13, 1914

mutual aid request

hey yall. i hate to ask, but my computer is no longer working AND i'm having some car problems that look like a pricey fix. can i please get some help? my job is half an hour away from me so without a working car I'll be in a much worse place 😅

commissions are open as well if you'd like. thank you all so much