i think it would be great if we made unsolicited advice as socially unacceptable as shouting insults at strangers
#as a recovering fixer myself it’s not like i don’t understand the impulse#but what if as a place to start#when you find yourself wanting to respond to someone’s account of an experience by telling them what to do about it#you first pause and ask yourself: why do i want to respond in this way?#just. as a start#things about relationships#this is about an incredibly trite reply to a years-old post that just absolutely mystifies me#in its combination of obtuseness and condescension and sheer capacity for missing the point#but as a general principle just. ask yourself. why giving advice is how you want to respond to another person