house rules

about: hi! call me soph (she/her). i’m a lesbian recovering academic in her late thirties who loves star trek and cats and women and queers, for starters. i mainly reblog pictures of same, and also do some fairly intimately personal journaling, which i invite you to read and interact with in accordance with the guidelines below. 

when i say i am a ‘lesbian’, part of what i mean is that i am a queer feminist, and part of what that means is that i believe in trans futures and genderqueer radicalisms, kink as a project of sexual liberation, and justice and dignity for all sex workers. these are firmly held positions and generally not open to negotiation, but if you are unsure about any of these things i dearly hope you will ask me about them.

i love getting asks, and anon is always on. i have never had occasion to regret this. please don’t be the one to change that. 

okay! rules time:

here is a short version: 

1. do not reblog my personal posts without permission.  2. do not give me unsolicited advice.  3. whether i follow you or not, it’s always cool to dm me or use the ask box and i always have anon on. if i don’t reply it’s not personal.

now the long version:

your safety: 

i write here frequently and explicitly about my experiences of depression, agoraphobia, grief, trauma, and other emotionally difficult personal topics. these posts are generally tagged #comprehensive crazy tag along with a small handful of others. i do not generally tag them more specifically than that, in part because i can’t do so reliably. if you do not wish to see this content the thing to do is block the whole tag.

otherwise i do my best to flag content relating to the conventional range of major triggers and also make sure that anything with potentially offensive, upsetting, or harmful content is clearly marked and easy to avoid. crazyblogging notwithstanding, i’m here to have a good time and want you to have a good time too.

if you need me to tag something specific, please let me know (anon is just fine) and i will do my best to honor the request.

my safety: 

please do not reblog my personal posts without explicit permission. a ‘personal’ post is any original post that is in any way about me or my life or experiences, no matter how abstract or generalizable. i do not specifically tag these not to be reblogged, because the point is to rely on the ability of my followers to respect a basic boundary. when in doubt, please feel free to ask. 

please do not give me advice unless i have explicitly asked for it. the best way to respond to my crazyblogging posts is to click the heart and move on. it’s okay to comment in a way that is about solidarity or recognition, but please err on the side of caution. if you do something that makes me uncomfortable, i will gently let you know. (subsequent reminders will get progressively less gentle.)  

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these boundaries are important to me and i will defend them fairly ferociously, but please – please! – if you are unsure about something, always feel free to ask. 

anon is always on, and i will never take exception to an honest question. <3