can straight girls please stop shitting their pants over being mistaken for lesbians or being called lesbians as an insult?
when someone tries to insult you by calling you a lesbian, they’re a homophobe. if you actually find it insulting to be called a lesbian, you’re a homophobe too. this is not a difficult concept to grasp.
ok I get what this is going for but “can people stop being upset over x” is not a good approach
"if you actually find it insulting to be called a lesbian, you’re a homophobe" is exactly the same as saying "if you actually find it insulting to be called a man, you’re a misandrist"
and yet a lot of people, such as transwomen, DO have reasons to take issue with being called a man without actually hating men
the reasons things bother people are complex and depend on the person’s own personal mindset and experiences AND THAT DOES NOT CHANGE JUST BECAUSE THE PERSON IS STRAIGHT OR CIS OR ANYTHING ELSE
When I was in the kindergarten, other kids found it funny to come up with insults based on my surname. It's not even unusual. I was called Beard, Ballerine, Bread. None of those were actually insulting by themselves, you know? Yet I did feel insulted each time those were used instead of, you know, my actual name. Because those kids' intent was to insult. I wasn't bothered by the actual words themselves - none of those were in any way bad - but I was hurt because they were being purposefully mean to me.
If a straight guy calls a straight girl a lesbian, meaning it as an insult, there are lots of reasons for the girl to be offended without her being in any way homophobic. Not even mentioning the whole "he purposely insulted her" angle, the girl can be offended on behalf of her actually lesbian friends who she doesn't feel are in any way inferior to her. The girl can be insulted by an underlying idea that girls only have value as commodities to guys and lesbian girls are therefore useless, if that's what the guy meant. The girl can be insulted by an underlying idea that straight girls are feminine and if a girl is unfeminine she must be lesbian. There are so many layers of heteronormativity and gendernormativity and just vague societal sexist bullshit at work, depending on the situation, the very idea that someone would decry a girl for being offended...
are you trying to defend your inalienable right to call girls lesbians regardless of their actual orientation when you want to, or what
I mean if a girl was, like, making out with another girl for some reason and then had issues with being assumed lesbian instead of straight, then yea, the girl probably has problems - then again, she might be irked by bi&pan erasure in such an assumption...