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If asexuality, bisexuality, polysexuality, and pansexuality aren’t going to be recognized as real sexual identities, then let’s just call them superpowers instead.
"I have a superpower." "Oh really?" "Yeah, I find more than one gender attractive" "IMPOSS IBLE!" "Or IS IT????" *Sailor moon transformation sequence ensues*
or “My power is that I DON’T experience sexual attraction!” *Batman theme plays*
that is a very good idea. Both of my friends and I will be superheroes.
99% of the time, whenever I hear someone say “Don’t be so quick to label yourself,” it’s really just another way of saying “Don’t accept yourself as LGBTQ+. Keep letting society tell you that you’re straight and cisgender. You are not qualified to make judgments about your own experiences. If you try to exercise autonomy over your own identity, then you are being frivolous and unreasonable.”
It’s especially disturbing because it tells young people to be silent, isolated, and passive about their identities, and does so while pretending to encourage open-mindedness and flexibility.
Today begins LGBT History Month! Let’s celebrate our victories, remember our roots, and never stop making history.
"We can’t use A in our acronyms because it allows shitty allies to weasel themselves in!"
Perhaps if the lgbtqia community prioritized and cared more about ASEXUALS than about straight allies, we wouldn’t have this problem.
The A is not for allies. It has never been for…
I think what this friend is trying to get across is that it’s important to include everyone. As I’m sure you know! So currently the best acronym to use would be MOGAI (marginalized orientations, gender alignments, and intersex). It’s a good and easy way to make sure every gender, sex, sexual and romantic orientation is included.
P.s. I’m v happy to see people trying their best to include others you two are doing good c: Though the harshness was unnecessary.
im always harsh, itsy worst quality. anyways. An even SHORTER version of MOGAI is OGM. Orientation and Gender Minorities.
the best thing about MOGAI and OGM is that there is 1) no way to dispute including aces&aros in there; 2) no way to justify including allies somehow
I care. Other lgbt people care. People should care at least to the point where they are aware that I am not straight. Its not like I want them to worship me or anything I just want to be treated as an average human being who happens to be bisexual. And I want to be able to talk about being bisexual without being accused of shoving my sexuality down people’s throats while almost every single couple in every tv show, film and popular book is heterosexual (who’s shoving their sexuality down people’s throats now hmm).
90% of the world’s population is straight. Your parents are straight. Or are they also shoving their sexuality down your throat?
Straight people don’t talk about how great it is to be straight. They don’t have straight clubs in school. They don’t have Straight Pride parades. They don’t have straight awareness months.
You are the only ones being loud and obnoxious and naked on the streets in front of kids.
Everyone’s aware of lesbos gays and dick chicks and all that shit. There’s no awareness to do and everyone for equal rights is already for equal rights and everyone sympathetic to what it’s like is already. We all know, we get it. It’s not a big deal to most people. Not having certain first world privileges isn’t oppression, most of us are cool with you we just get it already. We’re good.
LMAO cishet people using transphobic phrase and pretending cishet don’t shove their identities down other people’s throats are SO FUCKING OBLIVIOUS it’s hilaaaaaarious
Like it’s actually kind of sad how warped their perception of reality is
this is why i fucking hate most cishets.
I don't hate most cishets, but I do hate this sort of ignorance. Hey guys, when I come into the fandom and my favorite character who is /obviously/ (to me) asexual is shipped with all guys around her and called "waifu" (uuuugh this word) and insisted to be ~very sweet and romantic beneath~ and called tsundere guess what you are doing with your sexuality and my throat
girl scouts are letting in trans girls and letting girls replace God with whatever they want in the pledge, also they use cookie income to support abortion and LGBT agendas
boy scouts are just now allowing gay scouts in, officially in january, but gay leaders are still banned and they’re talking about segregation on camping trips, with gay scouts and straight scouts in different tents. also they still ban atheists,
girl scouts: 10000 boy scouts: 0
can straight girls please stop shitting their pants over being mistaken for lesbians or being called lesbians as an insult?
when someone tries to insult you by calling you a lesbian, they’re a homophobe. if you actually find it insulting to be called a lesbian, you’re a homophobe too. this is not a difficult concept to grasp.
ok I get what this is going for but “can people stop being upset over x” is not a good approach
"if you actually find it insulting to be called a lesbian, you’re a homophobe" is exactly the same as saying "if you actually find it insulting to be called a man, you’re a misandrist"
and yet a lot of people, such as transwomen, DO have reasons to take issue with being called a man without actually hating men
the reasons things bother people are complex and depend on the person’s own personal mindset and experiences AND THAT DOES NOT CHANGE JUST BECAUSE THE PERSON IS STRAIGHT OR CIS OR ANYTHING ELSE
When I was in the kindergarten, other kids found it funny to come up with insults based on my surname. It's not even unusual. I was called Beard, Ballerine, Bread. None of those were actually insulting by themselves, you know? Yet I did feel insulted each time those were used instead of, you know, my actual name. Because those kids' intent was to insult. I wasn't bothered by the actual words themselves - none of those were in any way bad - but I was hurt because they were being purposefully mean to me.
If a straight guy calls a straight girl a lesbian, meaning it as an insult, there are lots of reasons for the girl to be offended without her being in any way homophobic. Not even mentioning the whole "he purposely insulted her" angle, the girl can be offended on behalf of her actually lesbian friends who she doesn't feel are in any way inferior to her. The girl can be insulted by an underlying idea that girls only have value as commodities to guys and lesbian girls are therefore useless, if that's what the guy meant. The girl can be insulted by an underlying idea that straight girls are feminine and if a girl is unfeminine she must be lesbian. There are so many layers of heteronormativity and gendernormativity and just vague societal sexist bullshit at work, depending on the situation, the very idea that someone would decry a girl for being offended...
are you trying to defend your inalienable right to call girls lesbians regardless of their actual orientation when you want to, or what
I mean if a girl was, like, making out with another girl for some reason and then had issues with being assumed lesbian instead of straight, then yea, the girl probably has problems - then again, she might be irked by bi&pan erasure in such an assumption...
Her face in the last one is pure beauty
Go, Gramma!
A guy once told my lesbian friend that being a lesbian is a huge turn off for guys and that she’ll never find a boyfriend.
Allosexism, therefore, refers to an ideology privileging people who are sexually attracted to other people, and prejudices arising from that ideology.
So without touching the rest of this, I’m just going to come right out and ask, exactly how are homosexual people sexually privileged? Before you can even begin to bandy about allosexism, you must first demonstrate how having sexual attraction is something which privileges ALL people of ALL non asexual orientations. And, if this IS something you can demonstrate then you have to explain how it does NOT apply to gray and demi people, as they DO feel sexual attraction.
I just.
This is why ~sexual supremacy~ is a dumb as fuck concept, and I just wish people in the asexual community would stop trying to make it a thing over and over again. There is no privilege for experiencing sexual attraction. There is only one sexual attraction that is privileged in this society, and it’s the hetero kind. This is an immutable fact about society that you cannot deny, and it’s really infuriating that so many people seem to be intent on the casual dismissal of how homophobia affects homosexual people in order to bandy about concepts to apply to homosexual people that don’t actually apply at all.
If I tell my coworkers I’m gay the will not treat me less awfully if I assure them that my gayness is totally sexual. If anything I will get MORE shit for it. Because homosex is especially disgusting and awful. Homosexual sexual attraction is not privileged. Allosexism is YET ANOTHER version of the homophobic tripe that is ~sexual supremacy~. Just. Please. Stop.
I don’t think anyone is claiming that all allosexuals are privileged over all asexuals in all situations, or even that asexuals are more discriminated against than homosexuals, over all.
I’d say discrimination exists against both homosexuals and asexuals (and any other sexual minority), and that the form and level of discrimination in both cases can vary depending on the specific situation, the people involved, etc.
Here are just a few examples of times I, personally, have experienced allosexism:
Yes, there are definitely some communities and situations in which there is more discrimination against homosexuals than asexuals, but there are also definitely cases where the opposite is true. The existence of homophobia and the existence of allosexism are not mutually exclusive.
Unfortunately, I’m about to run, but regarding the allosexism and homophobia, can I jsut say:
It’s called intersectionality.
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got it?
Privilege is not a binary; it’s not as simple as being privileged or being not privileged. For example, I can be at the same time privileged for appearing white, yet oppressed for being a woman - these two identites will affect me differently, but they do not cancel each other out, nor does one trump the other - instead, they intersect.
And the same goes for someone who is sexual, but not heterosexual: They can simultanously be privileged by allosexism, but oppressed by heterosexism. And again, one does not erase the other or cancel it out - instead, they intersect.
until 1979 homosexuality was classed as an illness in sweden so you could call in sick bc you had the hots for paper boy in the morning
Ellie, I’m disappointed in you, you left out the best part. The reason they took it out in 1979 was because, to protest it, a shitton of people actually did. They’d get calls upon calls upon calls with “I can’t come in today, I’m feeling pretty gay”
I finally saw the new episode of Sailor Moon Crystal: Jupiter.
It’s like they listened to all those rumors from the original series about Makoto being trans and just said “Yeah, let’s run with that!” Literally every scene is a…
Fine point I really don’t know nothing.. just after reading da post I watch the episode 3 times to see if I can spot da signs yall was seeing. I’m just a knowledge whore I just wanted to know show still great either way
You know, I really respect that position. So here are 15 points at which I said “This feels familiar…”
Standard availability girls’ clothes don’t fit Makoto
Girls don’t get transferred to new schools for getting in “a” fight. They get transferred when they’re “causing a disruption” or having fights picked with them every day.
Trans girls early in transition tend to be stronger than you’d expect. Also, Makoto, like all trans girl, can catch a softball with her bare hands. This is our power. This is our curse.
Makoto is not used to being complemented for her feminine features.
Tall, leggy, cis redheads aren’t usually avoided in high schools.
Someone’s parents kicked her out. And this time it wasn’t Usagi’s.
As above, Makoto’s been in some fights. Which seems a little strange because she’s been extremely feminine and shy so far…
Makoto, literally admitting no one has ever called her “little girl.”
Despite being in junior high, she seems to be completely fascinated by what appears to be her first contact with a wedding dress—or at least the idea that she could wear one.
Again, she’s not used to people calling her girly. At leats not as a positive trait.
Makoto is the only girl snatched by the Bride Ghost yoma, which tells me that the Negaverse is full of transphobic douchebags.
Nephrite, confirming that yes: The Negaverse is full of transphobic douchebags.
Lots of girls know what it’s like to be turned down by a guy they’re crushing on. Not a lot of girls know what it’s like to have a penis, be kicked out by their parents, and then have to befriend Usagi…
Yeah, sure, that something might have been superpowers. Or it might have been autonomy. Also friends.
And don’t even get me started about how every time she talked about “sempai” it felt like she was embarrassed by meeting a guy who looks like she used to pre-transition.
Reblogging for the f*ing awesome explanation
Because nobody deserves to feel alone.
-and it sucks how people are like ” Oh you’re going to die a lonely virgin with no love life hahaha “
1. Nothing wrong with being a virgin
2. Sex isn’t important/necessary
I'm sorry if this is a really annoying question or one that you receive a lot, but I was just wondering if you could try to describe asexuality to me. I don't mean to be ignorant but I just have some questions about it and I wanted to try and understand that perspective a little more
hey buddy this question isn’t annoying or one that i receive a lot, but thanks for prefacing your question with that, it alerts me to the fact that even though you aren’t knowledgeable on this topic, you’re sensitive enough to the situation to understand that it’s not necessarily my job to educate you on it, and that actually makes me more open to doing so
sorry, that was a wordy compliment, my point is: nice form, thank you for asking politely. i’m happy to answer your question
asexuality is a sexual orientation like heterosexuality, homosexuality, bi- and pansexuality, etc. people who are asexual do not experience sexual attraction. this means that, while they can observe that someone is aesthetically attractive, or experience sexual arousal, they do not generally experience those things in tandem. sexual attraction = “that person is hot, therefore i would like to engage in physical intimacy with them.” asexual people generally do not experience this feeling.
asexual people sometimes have a romantic orientation — that is, genders to whom they are most frequently romantically inclined, whom they would like to have a romantic relationship with. hetero-romantic aces are romantically attracted to people of different genders, homo-romantic people are romantically attracted to people of their same gender, bi- and pan-romantic people are attracted to people of all genders, etc. aromantic people are not attracted to people romantically, and do not desire to form romantic attachments to others. i am a panromantic asexual, and have previously had relationships with people of several different genders.
some asexual people can and do have sexual relationships. some don’t. some asexual people are repulsed by the act or implication of sex. some are not. i personally vary a lot on this from day to day. having sex does not make someone less asexual. the act of abstaining from sex is called abstinence, and it is a choice. asexuality is not a choice, or an act; it’s an orientation.
one thing that’s important to understand about asexuality is that we live in a world that caters almost exclusively to allosexual people. sexuality is inherent in virtually all forms of media, education, and culture — in america, we are taught from a relatively young age that sex is an eventuality, and a “natural, human urge”, “a biological imperative” that all people will want eventually. people relate sex to something base and crucial, like food, water, and air. that ideology — which is very pervasive — can cause asexual people to feel “broken” or otherwise very alientated from the society in which they live, as though they are missing a vital component within them that everyone else has. i know that before i learned about asexuality, i thought i might be sick, or brain damaged — i constantly felt that everyone else had received a manual on how to be human that i had not.
people can be very rude about asexuality without meaning to, or without realizing it, mostly due to this ideology of sex being a natural thing that everyone secretly wants/needs. this ideology leads to many rude or offensive assumptions and stereotypes: that asexual people don’t exist, or that asexual people are allosexual people but haven’t realized it yet (aka “they’ve never had sex so they don’t know what they’re missing!” or “they just haven’t met the right person yet”); that asexual people are fundamentally broken and need to be fixed (by having sex); that asexual people are in fact just allosexual people with a low sex drive who need to stop whining (this is something that i think is said a lot particularly to dfab people); asexual people in relationships with allosexual partners are being cruel to those partners by refusing to have sex with them (aka “if you don’t have sex with them, they’ll find someone else who will”); etc. i have heard statements like these from people who love me very much, just because they don’t really understand how cruel what they’re saying is.
this ideology also makes its way into the lgbt community, which has never really been a welcoming space for asexual people. there are still debates over whether or not asexual people should be included in the community at all, and the widespread reappropriation of the a (as in “lgbtgia+”) as standing for “allies” — which, if you hadn’t guessed already, it absolutely does not… it stands for “asexual” — is a symptom of this problem. in many ways, asexual people are generally not allowed to exist anywhere, including queer spaces. asexual erasure is a big thing to be aware of.
one place where i have felt a real sense of asexual community is on this site. the ace presence on tumblr is strong and growing, since growing access to education on asexuality helps people identify themselves earlier and with greater accuracy.
do you have any other questions you’d like to ask? i’d like to continue talking to you about this, if you’d like.
