there are a lot of people on this site claiming to be feminists yet claiming to hate men, which makes them misandrists and not feminists
people who claim you can be a feminist while still hating men truly scare me because it’s like claiming you can hate children while still “supporting and upholding the safety” of all ages, you get me?
you can’t uphold that safety if you have actual venomous hate for an entire group of people under that umbrella.
when a person says they hate men, realise it isn’t just “white cishet dudebros” that they mean. it isn’t a stereotype that they hate. they are saying that they hate allmen. think about how varied humanity is. think about how varied men are. doesn’t that scare you?
it scares me.
it scares me, and i am a victim of torture and rape at the hands of a man over the course of four years of my life. i am scared to be alone with strange men, but i do not hate them. i understand there is violence because i am a victim of that violence and i know all too well the scars that it leaves.
there is a difference between being alert to the statistics, and actively seeking out men on tumblr to hurt them for no other reason that they are male.
which is what a lot of tumblr is doing.
you’re hurting the people you claim to protect.
men of all races,
men of all abilities,
men of all physical and mental health,
men of all sexualities,
men of all status,
men of all ages,
masculine-presenting nonbinaries
and transmen (that too fall into those categories) as well.
these are the men that these people are putting in danger and hurting with these violent thoughts. i am not claiming that every man is innocent and i am sure as hell not claiming that every woman is. i am a feminist and as a feminist i first and foremost must believe that we are all born equal and recognise the need to fight for everyone’s equality - which a lot of you seem to be forgetting.
i’m not going to get in a debate of who has it worse. i’m not going to get into a debate over anything because this is what i think and goddamnit i will keep screaming it out until the day i die. misandry on tumblr scares me, as a pansexual woman. it hurts those in the communities listed above. it hurts people that i dearly love. people that i would do anything to protect. it’s not trendy, it’s not cool. it’s out of control. people on actual feminist boards look at this site and get scared shitless by how extreme you people are. some of you are even promoting the mass killing of males for existing as males. think about that for a second.
does that seem like something a nonviolent person would say? advocating for a mass slaughter, for suffering, for a so-called revenge?
no. it sounds like something you’d tell the police or an authority figure if you heard people talking that way in real life.
if you think that hating men is “real feminism” get the fuck outta my face because feminism is about equality for all people with the current goal of getting all women to an equal place in world society. but it also means that we need to help and support men instead of hating on them for their “place” in society because they need help as much as women and nonbinaries do.
"Feminism is mainly focused on women’s issues, but […] since feminism seeks gender equality, it must necessarily include men’s liberation because men are also harmed by sexism and gender roles." - Wikipedia
i don’t care how fucking trendy something is. how cool certain phrases are. there is nothing to be gained except violence and hatred. i am a woman and a feminist. i believe in love, in hope, in optimism, in protection, in education, in equality, and in freedom. i am here to build, to construct, to support and scream.
i am not here to watch the man i love with my entire heart nearly cry his eyes out, become scared of what is supposed to be his safe and happy place, and consider turning his back on tumblr because of you jackshits.
i am not here to watch my masculine-dressing nonbinary friend get inbox hate for presenting as such and posting their opinions.
i am not here to watch my bisexual male friend get long, vile messages for daring to offer up his support in a feminist post on a site that’s supposed to be for all people
i am sick of living with the fear that this is the post that gets me a flooded inbox full of people marching me off of this site for daring to post this opinion.
i am sick of this. it hurts my heart. it makes my blood turn into ice and acid fill up my throat, to know that a lot of the people i love will read this and attack me for it.
but this is life, and i’m not hiding my opinions anymore.
If only more feminists were like this, I’d probably still be a feminist.
Yes, this is good. Call out the radfems and reclaim the movement.