I try my best to like stay out of this discourse but I’ve seen so many asexuals on here lately complaining about seeing gay pda in gay spaces and it just makes me kind of upset.
Like the debate around whether or not asexuality is ~queer~ or whatever is stale and old and I don’t care honestly. But like if you are going to come into gay spaces and be really uncomfortable with gay people being gay, maybe those spaces are not a place you should be? Like even for your own good.
But like worse, if you’re going to then complain about it or push for less pda in those spaces, you are literally bringing homophobia into those spaces which are meant to be refuge for gay people to be together without that kind of judgement or condemnation.
I hate to say it, but being gay isn’t just about some assimilationist notion of love, it also includes cruising, making out with strangers at a bar sometimes, a general hook up culture (that might be worth critiquing in some ways) and other cultural norms that you might just not like. Feel how you want, but you don’t have the right to demand that gay culture change for you in the spaces gays have made for themselves.
