Laerwen Mith

hey where’s that post about how it’s important to be aware before recommending/calling suicide hotlines that They Will Call The Cops On You. i have it saved somewhere but i can’t find it & i want to reblog it today For No Particular Reason

note that Trans Lifeline doesn’t call the police on actively suicidal people so if you’re trans that can be a good resource! and if you’re Catholic, priests aren’t allowed to break the seal of the confessional for any reason, and things said in confession are exempt from all mandated reporting in most U.S. states (and in the ones where they aren’t exempt, they’re mandated reporters of child abuse but not of suicidality AFAICT—still, worth checking your state laws in more detail first, I don’t know the details for every state). you can also go to confession as a non-Catholic but idk how they’d handle that, I never went before converting

if you’re not trans or Catholic you might be out of luck—most mainstream suicide hotlines (including the Trevor project) allow calling the cops on you if you’re actively suicidal (although the line for when they do this varies from organization to organization and volunteer to volunteer— it’s overall fairly unlikely ime but it’s a risk). followers feel free to add Suicidality Resources That Won’t Call The Cops No Matter What if you have any

also i’m aware this is very America-centric (<- American who mostly knows American resources and laws, writing this bc of the flood of posts aimed at Americans in crisis due to the American election) but if anyone has details on how non-American suicide hotlines work or the level of risk of cop involvement or forced institutionalization for various crisis options in other countries feel free to add that as well

[ID: An infographic titled "Warm lines that don't call the police:

Call Blackline: 800-604-5841 Centres BI&POC, LGBTQ+ Black Femme Lens

Trans Lifeline: 877-565-8860 (US), 877-330-6366 (Canada) Run by and for trans people

Wildflower Alliance Peer Support Line: 888-407-4515 Trained peer supporters

StrongHearts Native Helpline: 844-762-8483 Centreing Native Americans & Alaska Natives

Thrive Lifeline: 313-662-8209 Trans-led and operated

LGBT National Help Centre: 888-843-4564

More resources: InclusiveTherapists.com/crisis" /end ID]

and I haven’t looked into it much but one of my uk followers says samaritans might be good for the UK!

(id credit to @identityarchitect, thank you!)

This is being reposted, for the advent of American Thanksgiving, on November 17th, 2023. American Thanksgiving this year is on November 23rd.

If you are seeing this after November 21st 2023 do NOT come crying to me about it being too late. That ain’t my fault. I Do Not Control The Rate At Which Turkey Thaws

BUT! If you missed your deadline and need to do a quicker defrost, put the turkey in the sink and run cold water over it. If that doesn’t get it there, you can spatchcock it (cut it in half long-ways) to decrease the cooking time as well.

After watching Cinderella (the original animated movie, which was my favorite as a child), it strikes me how it solves many common problems people have with this fairy tale. Like:

Bonus round for answers that aren't part of the movie:

OP I hope you don't mind but

Cinderella's kindness is her armor. Her kindness is her keeping safe against Lady Tremaine. Because in the movie, when Anastasia finds Gus under her cup, Cinderella tries to defend herself. She tries to tell Lady Tremaine that she can't possibly think she did this on purpose, and Lady Tremaine sharply cuts her off, which is one of the few times she's actually sharp at Cinderella. It's only ever when Cinderella is not obedient or contrite that Lady Tremaine is even sharp at all.

Cinderella defending herself is met with a quick, "Hold your tongue." Cinderella saying she's already cleaned the thing she's ordered to clean is met with a biting "Do them again." And then in that scene when Cinderella finally relents and says "yes, Stepmother" is when Lady Tremaine relaxes and speaks softly again.

The only other time in the movie Lady Tremaine yells at Cinderella is when Cinderella interrupts the music lesson with the invite to the ball. Somehow, Cinderella has learned that aggression begets aggression, that emotion begets emotion, and so in being kind and quiet she keeps Lady Tremaine kind and quiet (on the surface, anyway).

When Cinderella speaks up that she wants to go to the ball, Lady Tremaine allows her to speak because she's presenting it calmly. "I'm still a member of the family, and an eligible maiden." She's not angry, just matter-of-fact, so Lady Tremaine is matter-of-fact about it. Of course you can go, provided you finish your responsibilities. Toe the line and we'll allow you to go.

Cinderella allows herself to break and cry only when Lady Tremaine leaves the house. It is after that door closes that Cinderella finally cracks and cries and has this flood of emotion as she runs through the house to the yard and allows herself to let it all out. Because she will not allow herself to give that emotional ammunition to Lady Tremaine. She will not give Lady Tremaine an ounce of emotion to play off of.

And when Lady Tremaine locks her in her room and she breaks again, crying and begging, Lady Tremaine bounces it right back by cruelly and smugly walking away to keep Cinderella away from her one chance at leaving. Because saying anything at all is unnecessary at this point; the action is crueler than anything Lady Tremaine could say.

Cinderella stays kind and calm through the movie because she has to, otherwise she is diminished and belittled and scolded.

I love this analysis. I cannot express to you how much energy an abuse victim, trapped in an abusive situation, puts towards pacifying the abuser. They make sure things are good so the abuser doesn’t lash out at them.

You don’t lash out at your abuser. That just escalates and then things get out of hand and worse and it’s a whole mess. But if you walk on eggshells, if you do what you’re told and just nod along for a time being, then it’s like tucking a child into bed for a nap and you can get some peace and quiet until they start crying again.

psa

Writing smut is fine.

Reading smut is fine.

Enjoying smut is fine.

Writing or seeking out books that contain smut does not make you bad. It does not mean you are stupid or "porn brained" or whatever other bullshit people like to say nowadays.

Smut is morally neutral. Enjoying smut does not make you a bad person. It does not make what you write or what you read "worse."

Smut is mortally neutral.

If you have the means to donate gifts to toy drives or shelters, please keep the above tips in mind so you can help meet people’s wants and needs! 💓

Just gonna go ahead and plug one of my fave charities, since it has a lot of these elements and you can fulfill what kids asked for! Especially now that the holidays are coming around:

bella was lucky she didn’t have a cell phone of any kind because you know ya boi edward would be blowing up that phone 24-7 going “saw a snail today…. effervescent” or some shit equivalent

Posts that changed the timeline

“Why’d you do that?” Please remember that I am using what I’ve seen in humans to mimic them

Reblog if you're using what you've seen in humans to mimic them

"Ok, ma'am that'll be $226.03."

I take my wallet out of my pocket and unfold it. It is empty other than a single moth that lazily flies out. The moth lands on the tap point of the card reader. There's a beat, and my payment is processed. The moth flies back into my wallet and I put it back in my pocket.

i don't think we talk enough about how much of a absolute cutie samwise gamgee is

like???? no wonder he was able to pull rosie OFC he could!! he just needed a confidence boost . i'm sure half the eligible hobbits in the shire wanted a chance with him he's the hobbit dream!!!

like he can cook he can garden and he's strong?? and a beautiful kind compassionate heart what more do u need !

forcing every character into romance or found family ruins character discussion imo

"really close friends" is in fact a thing people feel about each other

Wanted to draw a monster and settled on the Rabbit of Caerbannog from Monty Python

this is what it feels like to accomplish tasks on your period

Reblog because I laughed at the above comment for a solid 10 minutes

the most fun a girl can have is finding parallels, noticing patterns, making connections, contemplating

homer comparing odysseus’ curls to hyacinths will never not make me weak… hyacinths are my favourite flowers… men with curly hair are my type... therefore hyacinth-haired odysseus makes me want to combust. i feel personally blessed and victimised all at once do you get me