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lesbian maverick, feminist extremist
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PROJECTS

DETRANSITION: beyond before and after lesbian feminist essays on transition & detransition by my girlfriend :) you should read it and/or request it to your local library

ugly truths publishing collective supported self-publishing for feminist works. got a project? email us! or check out our store :) don’t have money to order - message me! happy to send free copies - some stuff is also in the US library system & some other countries as well. ARE YOU ASKING WHY? a website of resources for detrans & desisted women (and our allies) who are against right wing creep in our feminist spaces. NO COLLUSION WITH THE RIGHT!

@detransition an archival blog making the detransition tag a more welcoming place for questioning people & combating “detransition kink” spam​. please send posts you’d like to see added or contact me if you’d like to help mod.

OPEN SUBMISSIONS

DETRANS & DESISTED WOMEN’S POETRY (untitled as of yet) open submissions for an anthology of detransitioned & desisted/reconciled/reidentified women’s writing. more info here.

WHAT MUST BE DONE writing and art on women killing men. editing is in process - if you have submissions, SEND THEM NOW (note from 6/5/24). more info here.

ESSAYS

on hurting trans women: how do you measure pain? a response to an anonymous message | tumblr link

taking back your mind: a radical feminist approach to recovering from porn use a how-to for feminists struggling with porn addiction | tumblr link

male violence and misgendering in the modern age an essay on the online censorship of sex-based language

YOU TOLD ME YOU WERE DIFFERENT: an anthology of harm the introduction to a consciousness-raising anthology discussing mistreatment & abuse within the queer and transgender community. it contains 43 anonymous works of art and writing.

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Yes a male sexually harassed me today when I was receiving a service that I paid for BUT because of that sexual harassment I

1) called his boss/the company that was providing the service. The entire customer service office was women and they all came together to tell me I did the right thing and that they were proud of me. Sisterhood grew in that moment

2) I told my mom about it and her and all of her female coworkers talked about it and bonded more with each other and now know that they can confide in one another about these things

3) i did not let it diminish my love and joy and a woman stopped me in a parking lot to tell me basically that and we had a sisterhood bonding moment even as strangers.

Men, even when they think they’re above you, cannot diminish our sisterhood. In fact their attempts to diminish it only grow it stronger and make it more necessary.

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killallxys2

Happy for you girl!

Thank yoouuuu im just happy he wont be answering help calls from vulnerable women and girls anymore

Hope he rots in hell, and I'm glad you found the bravery to report him. Ladies, you're never truly alone. So many women you don't know would come to your aid the moment you needed them.

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nothing like attending a training on lgbt+ diversity training to really hammer in how fucking stupid, ignorant and homophobic everyone is

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I just fucking remembered velvet poster coloring pages what the fuck

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Sue Lyon became famously reticent about speaking to the press after she stopped acting, giving a rare statement in 1996 that lambasted the effect Lolita had had in her life. "My destruction as a person dates from that movie," she said. "I defy any pretty girl who is rocketed to stardom at 14 in a sex-nymphet role to stay on a level path thereafter." While there have been appraisals of Nabokov's novel and Kubrick's film, Lyon has been markedly absent from the cultural conversation. James Fenwick, senior lecturer in the Department of Media Arts and Communication at Sheffield Hallam University, says that "what is missing from these studies is the voice of Lyon and of the way in which she experienced the production of Lolita. She is absent, silent, and silenced". Obvious parallels to the source novel arise here: in an essay titled The Art of Persuasion in Nabokov's Lolita, Nomi Tamir-Ghez writes that "not only is Lolita's voice silenced, her point of view, the way she sees the situation and feels about it, is rarely mentioned."

But I think being young in Hollywood – we've seen it 1,000 times with young actresses – they'll pull you to the top, let you do whatever you want, until you do one thing that's too much, and then they'll just destroy you."

Today, the iconography associated with Lolita (1962) has been adopted in varying degrees of earnest by wider pop culture. Those heart-shaped sunglasses, symbolic of knowingly babyish kitsch, have become a stand in for "sex-kitten" tendencies – wilfully ignoring the dark elements of the story it cribs from.

By making his version of Dolores a wordly participant, Kubrick's adaptation set off a domino effect that continues to poison pop culture to this day. She appears in the lyrics of the song Don't Stand So Close to Me by The Police, that details a teacher's sexual attraction to one of his students, in which one lyric reads: "He sees her / He starts to shake and cough / Just like the old man in / That book by Nabokov". Or she rears her head as the sordid moniker used to describe disgraced sex offender Jeffrey Epstein's private jet: the "Lolita Express". In 1992, Ellen Von Unwerth shot Kate Moss for Glamour Italia, in a cover and spread titled "Charming Lolita". In the photos, 18-year-old Moss is styled with a red lollipop, a doll, ringlet curls – years earlier, John Galliano had selected the 15-year-old to open his show as his "Lolita", launching her career as a forever-young waif. This alone reflects how the word has become a stand-in for a young girl who is a willing participant in her own premature sexualisation.

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6B4T

Lately there has been talk about 4B and so I wanted to bring up 6B4T which grew from the South Korean 4B movement, and specially the 6B4T movement as it is practiced by our Chinese sisters. Before that however differences between the both are as followed:

4B

No sex with men

No giving birth

No dating men

No marriage with men

6B4T

Includes the original commandments of 4B and adds the following:

Don’t buy products from misogynistic brands

Support single women/women that have chosen to be celibate

Reject the corset (rejecting toxic beauty standards)

Reject idol culture (as in male-worship and idolization of entertainment figures this ALSO includes rejecting idol culture for female kpop idols/entertainers)

Reject otaku culture (rejecting misogynistic anime culture)

Reject religion

(**You may see 6B4T referred to as 10bt to avoid censorship as CN social media sites are heavily monitored by government censors, even outside of CN social media CN sisters will still refer to it as 10bt because 6b + 4t = 10bt)

Now that there's a basic understanding... I wanted to talk about some of the differences that the CN 6B4T movement has compared to what I usually encounter in English speaking radfem circles. Please note that this is my own experience and as with any political movement there can a myriad of women that agree and disagree (except on the 6B4T principles as a whole, those are rock solid for them haha.)

I was first aware of this movement around 2020 and have been following women on twitter/x since then that follow these beliefs. All of this has been gathered from tweets by 6B4T users on twitter/x + interactions with them. I am not a CN speaker and have used translation apps to piece together details on the 6B4T movement and have cross referenced this with some of the writings I can find in English about this and the conversations that I have had with some of the 10bt sisters that were willing to interact with me.

I do not feel comfortable just singling out specific accounts for people to look up on twitter but anyone that wants to do their own research can search the keywords on twitter 6B4T or 10bt and go under the "People" filter to populate accounts of CN women that have 6B4T and/or 10bt in their bio.

One thing that I want to talk about right away - the term donkey. It will come up quite often when you search 10bt accounts and is used to describe women that are perpetuating patriarchy because they "carry the patriarchy without protest and allow themselves to be exploited." (This includes married women.) 10bt sisters DO NOT have an emphasis on educating women that perpetuate patriarchy. You can find sayings such as:

"Feminism is like being given a weapon to support yourself with, do not use it to commit suicide by having a complex of saving donkeys" 

“Don't do donkey work for donkeys".

“Don’t get derailed by women support women, leave the donkeys alone.”

Which leads me to the next point - 10bt sisters are for empowering women independently. There is obvious acknowledgement of bonds and relationships between women but the general feeling is more to focus on the individual self, connections are based solely on shared interests and can be let go of as needed. (I have also seen discussions of letting go of romantic ties not just for straight sisters but for lesbian sisters as well.) Sentiments such as "focusing on oneself is a foundation for a happy life" "All thoughts and ideologies cannot be separated from down to earth efforts and dedication" are plenty. Really a focus away from "altruistic" causes so to speak

And on that note: anti veganism. 10bt sisters in general are adamant that 6B4T principles should only include tackling patriarchy and not have other causes added to it. Anti veganism sentiment also seems to stem from certain aspects in CN culture of serving smaller portions to young girls and discouraging them to eat meat as opposed to men. The focus on improving one's self from before also shows up here: "Women need strength to overthrow patriarchy, only then should we focus on improving the lives of animals."

Some 10bt sisters are also very open about criticism and believe women that openly identify with the 10bt movement should be prepared to have their posts critiqued, and while some will debate this... one of the things that is absolutely non negotiable is that actions MUST back up words. There’s lots of debates that go on in the 10bt movement but the bare minimum is that if you follow 6B4T then you must follow its core beliefs otherwise what are you here for? There is a huge disdain for those that say they belong to this movement but don’t follow its beliefs.

With that being said, how do the 10bt sisters feel about 4B taking off in the states? Well…

 “4B grew into 6B4T and they only dared to do half of the movement? It’s disappointing.”

“At this point in time, it is crazy to deliberately go back and start from 4B. You have someone’s shoulder to stand on but you won’t take it.”

“4B: No marriage, no giving birth , no sex, no dating. Doesn't that mean they are still serving as donkeys: supporting idols and otaku, believing in religion, using pornographic content, and consuming misogynistic brands... It really makes one recognize by a glance what stupid things they are still doing.”

“I don't understand how this kind of castration of the feminist movement came about.”

Is some of the general consensus on twitter/x.

Two more things I will add here before I wrap this up:

I have seen a post in English about other principles to follow such as 5B, 7B or 8B. I am not aware of what these principles are and could not find a CN source to confirm this so if 5B, 7B and 8B do exist, I do not believe it originated from the CN movement. 

There is also the concept of icing men out aka if a man comments on your social media posts immediately delete the comment EVEN if it is a comment in agreement. For this while I also could not find a specific CN source for the 10bt sisters, it feels like it is just natural to not interact with men. I have yet to see debates on whether someone can be part of 10bt and still have a boyfriend, husband, etc since the answer will always be a resounding NO. (And on this note… if you are curious about attitudes towards male family members.. rejection of filial piety is something that is very agreed upon. I would recommend first learning what filial piety entails in CN culture as whole if there is curiosity about this.)

I will wrap this up with one of my favorite concepts I have encountered from our 10bt sisters:

“When one woman keeps house*: five women are trapped: herself, daughter, mother, sister-in-law, and female coworkers”

[*keeps house meaning  - “when one woman marries…”] 

If there are sisters out here who are involved with this or have more info to add please feel free to do so! Also would love to get in touch with any that know more on the CN 10bt movement.  

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Landyke's guide to learning auto mechanics as a womon on your own:

1. Buy a total beater (of a common make and model so you can find parts) that you can test drive that has a decent engine/ transmission. Ideally it is a truck/ SUV type. Sedan is not ideal but ok. Minivans are bad. Get triple AAA and try to only drive it locally for a while. Get an older car without all that plastic junk covering everything important up.

2. Buy a socket set, oil drain pan, and Chilton manual for your new chariot. Rhino ramps if you got a sedan or vehicle you can't get yourself underneath easily. With ramps you won't have to jack it up every time you want to change oil or look at something.

3. Change the oil, air filter, transmission fluid and coolant. There are many YouTube videos you can look up. Might want to flush brake fluid too, if you're in a humid climate and they're spongey.

4. Look up the maintenance schedule for your vehicle, do at least the engine/transmission maintenance.

5. Something will break! Read your Bible (Chilton). Replace it. Look up how mechanics diagnose problems you have. Decide if you want to buy the tools for the job, or if you'd rather loan them from the auto parts store. You probably don't need to own a fuel pressure test gauge kit for example.

6. When you change your brakes, don't take your noble steed onto the road until you're SURE you did it right (particularly on drum brakes.... trust me...)

7. Keep doing this until your vehicle completely shits the bed.

8. Get a new vehicle that is hopefully less of a beater and repeat.

Remember that cars are designed to be worked on by lazy, ignorant men with, on average, a HS diploma and *maybe* some formal training. Most things are not super complicated. Most of the time you'll spend fixing things will be prying 20+ year old parts off.. seriously it's like they get superglued.

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