do i have a crush on you or am i just lonely
do i like you or do i like that you like me
do I like you or do I like the idea of you
do i want to be in a relationship or do i just want to prove that i’m worthy of one
do i like you or have i been emotionless for too long
“If you can’t hold it, you take your ass to the men’s room and cry in private on the toilet. Like a man!“— Emerson, Pushing Daisies
This is an incredibly important scene because I believe this is the first time an MCU male superhero has cried. And Matt is not crying over the death of a dog, family member, love interest or cherished friend. It’s not an epic moment during battle or when everything he’s been fighting comes to a head. (Common examples of when it is acceptable for men to cry in media - see trope Manly Tears for more.) No, Matt is crying because he’s fighting with his best friend. Foggy, too, is crying because he’s fighting with his best friend. They’re crying because they care so much about each other and they feel so much. And it’s all expressed. Foggy feels deeply betrayed, but beyond that he’s overwhelmed with grief and worry over Matt. Matt finally is facing the fact that he personally hurt someone that he loved with his actions. And THEY ARE CRYING because of it.
I’m stressing this because crying over these “every day” events is not common for men in media. This is particularly important for Matt, who’s portrayed fairly traditionally masculine - physically strong and mentally stoic, reserved in his emotions. But yet, he cries when he’s fighting with his friend. And the narrative validates both his and Foggy’s crying. The scene is full of pathos and their fight is one of the more painful scenes on a fairly gruesome show. They’re expressing their feelings and talking it out and crying, and they’re not weak or any less badass for it. They are simply human for doing so.
I believe that these types of portrayals are very helpful in breaking down gender stereotypes, which is helpful for everyone. Men suffer from a lack of close and healthy male friendships where they can express themselves and be emotional, which causes not only them problems but society at large. Daredevil got this right and it’s important.
…and that’s what made the series for me I think.
(the first time was when steve was crying his eyes out after losing bucky in the ‘allow barnes the dignity of his choice’ scene) But this is so true and i love it
I wish more people got this because some ‘low-empathy’ people are the most compassionate and sympathetic in the universe, and I hate it when that’s taken to mean ‘unfeeling and probably hostile’ when nothing could be further from the truth
Or, as my dad put it,
Sympathy: I know how you feel Empathy: I feel how you feel Compassion: is there anything I can do to help?
“If you can’t hold it, you take your ass to the men’s room and cry in private on the toilet. Like a man!“— Emerson, Pushing Daisies
This is an incredibly important scene because I believe this is the first time an MCU male superhero has cried. And Matt is not crying over the death of a dog, family member, love interest or cherished friend. It’s not an epic moment during battle or when everything he’s been fighting comes to a head. (Common examples of when it is acceptable for men to cry in media - see trope Manly Tears for more.) No, Matt is crying because he’s fighting with his best friend. Foggy, too, is crying because he’s fighting with his best friend. They’re crying because they care so much about each other and they feel so much. And it’s all expressed. Foggy feels deeply betrayed, but beyond that he’s overwhelmed with grief and worry over Matt. Matt finally is facing the fact that he personally hurt someone that he loved with his actions. And THEY ARE CRYING because of it.
I’m stressing this because crying over these “every day” events is not common for men in media. This is particularly important for Matt, who’s portrayed fairly traditionally masculine - physically strong and mentally stoic, reserved in his emotions. But yet, he cries when he’s fighting with his friend. And the narrative validates both his and Foggy’s crying. The scene is full of pathos and their fight is one of the more painful scenes on a fairly gruesome show. They’re expressing their feelings and talking it out and crying, and they’re not weak or any less badass for it. They are simply human for doing so.
I believe that these types of portrayals are very helpful in breaking down gender stereotypes, which is helpful for everyone. Men suffer from a lack of close and healthy male friendships where they can express themselves and be emotional, which causes not only them problems but society at large. While Daredevil may not have gotten everything right, this they did, and it’s important.
DIFFERENT EMOTIONS BY MIKE LARREMORE
Photographer Mike Larremore (tumblr)
There’s two types of anger one is dry and the other wet and basically wet anger is when your eyes water and your voice shakes and I hate that cause I feel weak when I’m crying while angry I like dry anger when your face is like stone and your voice is sharp I guess wet anger shows that you care too much and dry anger means you’re done.
This is the best description ever
U know how in winter it gets so cold and u think u will never be hot again and in summer it gets so hot u think u will never be cold again I think that is how it is with ur feelings like when u r sad u think u will never be happy and when u r happy u think u will never be sad. But u will be hot again and u will be cold again and u will be sad again but most of all u will be happy again
This is so relevant
There’s two types of anger one is dry and the other wet and basically wet anger is when your eyes water and your voice shakes and I hate that cause I feel weak when I’m crying while angry I like dry anger when your face is like stone and your voice is sharp I guess wet anger shows that you care too much and dry anger means you’re done.
This is the best description ever
Wanted to share this helpful tool with anyone who needs it. A lot of people have a hard time putting their feelings into words and identifying what emotions they are feeling. This is called a feeling wheel. It can help you get to the core emotion you are experiencing and help you name each feeling when you’re overwhelmed with many emotions
this is so cool
THIS IS REALLY IMPORTANT
do u ever just try to like hold everything in because you don’t wanna burden people with your problems and don’t want them to feel sorry for you but at the same time when no one can see that you’re depressed you just wanna yell to the world that you’re upset
