Kitten Night Farts

I'm fed up with "maybe later".

Good morning! I’m salty.

I think we, as a general community, need to start taking this little moment more seriously.

This, right here? This is asking for consent. It’s a legal necessity, yes, but it is also you, the reader, actively consenting to see adult content; and in doing so, saying that you are of an age to see it, and that you’re emotionally capable of handling it.

You find the content you find behind this warning disgusting, horrifying, upsetting, triggering? You consented. You said you could handle it, and you were able to back out at any time. You take responsibility for yourself when you click through this, and so long as the creator used warnings and tags correctly, you bear full responsibility for its impact on you.

“Children are going to lie about their age” is probably true, but that’s the problem of them and the people who are responsible for them, not the people that they lie to.

If you’re not prepared to see adult content, created by and for adults, don’t fucking click through this. And if you do, for all that’s holy, don’t blame anyone else for it.

This needs to be reblogged today.

Consenting to see adult content doesn’t mean you should have to see a bunch of shit romanticizing incest and pedophilia you walnut

Except this is the last line of consent before the actual work. So if you’re at this button you have already done the following:

1) chosen to go onto AO3 in the first place

2) chosen the fandom you wish to read about

3) had the chance to filter for the things you do want to see like a specific pairing or a specific AU

4) had the chance to specifically filter out any tags you don’t want to see like, oh I don’t know, incest and non-con and dub-con and paedophilia

5) had the chance to set the rating level if you wish to remove any explicit content at all

6) have read the summary of the story, which aren’t always great but are the only indicator of what the story will be like writing wise so something about it was good enough for you to click on it.

7) have read the tags of the story which will tell you what is actually in the story. If you have used filters to remove stories with things you don’t want then there shouldn’t be anything in here that’s a shock to you but maybe there is. That’s why the tags are there for you to check for yourself.

8) Then you have to actually click on the story. You cannot see anything other than the summary or the tags without personally deciding that you are going to open and read this story.

9) Only here, at step number nine, do you get to the adult content warning pictured above. You have been through eight different steps, the last six of which have also been opportunities for you to see that this has adult content. And AO3 has *STILL* stopped you to ask one last time “are you sure you want to read this because it has things that only adults should see in it”.

If after this point you are reading incest and paedophilia then it’s probably because you specifically went looking for it.

You walnut.

This is the most beautiful thing that I have seen about ao3

I'm fed up with "maybe later".

ngl it's driving me a little bit fucking insane that the whole conversation about image scraping for AI has settled on copyright and legality as a primary concern, and not consent. my shit should not be used without my consent. I will give it away for free, but I want to be asked.

I don't want to be included in studies without my knowledge or consent. I don't want my face captured for the training of facial recognition models without my knowledge or consent. I don't want my voice captured for the training of speech recognition models without my consent. I don't want my demographic or interest profile captured without my consent. I don't want my art harvested for visual model training without my consent. It's not about 'theft' (fake idea) or 'ownership' (fake idea) or 'inherent value' (fake idea). It's about my ability to opt out from being used as a data point. I object to being a commodity by default.

can you imagine being a 17 year old girl who recently broke up with her boyfriend because he showed your nudes to a bunch of people without your consent and then a 50 something nymag columnist writes a whole ass article about how sad your ex is because you and your friends are being mean to him for... distributing your nudes without your consent

please get of your high horse and set judgement aside for a moment and consider this: he just had to show off his beautiful posession girlfriend to His Bros

hey so, as a man who works with other men, here’s a quick relationship tip: if he doesn’t much like cats, that might be just a personal preference. if he hates cats, if he tells you he hates cats as soon as he hears that you have a cat and love your cat, he’s an asshole. he’s telling on himself.  

every guy i’ve ever worked with that makes a point of telling me how much he hates cats as soon as i mention that i have a cat and love my cat, is always someone who is regularly cruel for fun and who laughs in the breakroom about the mean things they do for fun to their girlfriends and children. 

I wish I could articulate all the ways this makes sense and why it makes sense and stuff but it’s just like… something something misogyny something something resentment of creatures that don’t need you and don’t hang on your attention and approval all their lives.

My dad gave me this exact same advice when I was a kid. “Anyone who hates cats is a control freak and an asshole.”

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hey so, as a man who works with other men, here’s a quick relationship tip: if he doesn’t much like cats, that might be just a personal preference. if he hates cats, if he tells you he hates cats as soon as he hears that you have a cat and love your cat, he’s an asshole. he’s telling on himself.  

every guy i’ve ever worked with that makes a point of telling me how much he hates cats as soon as i mention that i have a cat and love my cat, is always someone who is regularly cruel for fun and who laughs in the breakroom about the mean things they do for fun to their girlfriends and children. 

I wish I could articulate all the ways this makes sense and why it makes sense and stuff but it’s just like… something something misogyny something something resentment of creatures that don’t need you and don’t hang on your attention and approval all their lives.

My dad gave me this exact same advice when I was a kid. “Anyone who hates cats is a control freak and an asshole.”

Source

your yearly reminder that Baby It’s Cold Outside is a song about a woman having CONSENSUAL sex, at a time when premarital sex was frowned upon. The female singer is offering up the token demurrals society expects her to, because it’s expected, not bc she doesn’t fully intend to stay and have awesome sex with a dude she’s into. The male singer knows this, and is in turn offering her an excuse to give to the neighbors in the morning (“it was too cold for me to go home, the only responsible thing to do was spend the night at his place. because of the weather, get your minds out of the gutter”). A 1950s audience would have understood all this, but the nuance gets lost in a modern age where women are actually allowed to say yes when they mean it.  

Also the “hey what’s in this drink” thing was a common joke at the time, where the punchline was that there was in fact nothing in the drink. the woman’s making a joke that she wouldn’t do this if she was sober, oh goodness no! it’s only a joke bc both she and the man are in on the punchline: she is sober, and is only staying bc she wants to

my tags: The female singer IS saying yes but using an outdated social script that doesn’t translate well to the 21st century. this song was funny and sweet to 1950s audiences bc it was about two people having fun and hooking up, and using the winter weather as an excuse

#it’s a fun song about having fun sex while being snowed in together. which as i say it i realize is ABSOLUTELY a fanfic trope  #they were SNOWED IN TOGETHER. and there was only ONE BED  #OH MY GOD THERE WAS ONLY ONE BED 

I wish i could find this one article written in I believe the 90’s that went under the radar on abortion. The author said that the “life” arguments are basically useless on either side and what actually matters is that humans shouldn’t have a right to use other human bodies as a resource without consent no matter how alive or sentient they are, even if they’re on the brink of death you have the right to deny them access to you. It probably was too radical for pro-choice activists back in those days but like…that’s the most robust arguement lol so we need 2 being that back and dead the pontifications and splitting hairs about “life” in my honest onion

I found it. Actually, it was written in the 70’s. She was way ahead of the curve.

The article is ‘A Defense of Abortion’ by Judith Jarvis Thomson. Essential reading!

http://spot.colorado.edu/~heathwoo/Phil160,Fall02/thomson.htm

If you cannot demand that a person donate their organs to keep you alive, you have no right to legislate that an embryo gets to use a woman’s body to keep itself alive without the woman’s consent.

This is my personal stance on it. It makes the whole thing simpler. I don’t have to stand on my head pretending a fetus isn’t a living human being, because it doesn’t matter if it is or not: the pregnant person has the final say in whether or not their body can be used in that way.

I’ll represent you in court :)

Isn’t it consensual when she gave him the photos when they were together 🔚

From a lawyer: “The photos were consensual. But she did not consent to distribution “

He really thought he did something with that comment and his lil stank emoji at the end lol

SMASH REBLOG

She doesn’t! Neither does your son! Or you for that matter!   It’s pretty disheartening to see how many commenters don’t get this. 

Holy shit yes. Agree. Thank you Girl Scouts.

Fear is not consent

I WILL REBLOG THIS FOREVER. F O R E V E R

Fear is not consent

I WILL REBLOG THIS FOREVER. F O R E V E R

honestly why does Mr. Darcy, a man from the late 1700s and early 1800s, understand that an independent female is an awesome thing more than people from 2017? also he respects her decision to reject him?

Because a woman wrote him.

Sophie Turner talking about adult people waiting for the cast of Stranger Things in order to take their photos to then abuse them when they refuse.

Beyond this please be careful when reblogging images of minors. If the picture was taken without their permission or if it is a private picture being distributed without their permission give it a pass.

This should go for adults as well. Tumblr is particularly bad for this sort of thing.