I’ve always love dolly parton’s Jolene and I finally realized why
the song isn’t about a woman terrified of losing her husband to another, more beautiful woman
the song is about a woman transfixed with desire for a red haired woman named Jolene whose voice is “soft like summer rain”
and the only way she can voice that desire is through a plaintive entreaty not to “steal her man”
an entreaty during which “the man” is never described, while line after line praises Jolene’s beauty and allure
and in which the singer admits to Jolene “my happiness depends on you” and “I could never love again”
it doesn’t matter that after each stanza on Jolene the singer quickly inserts a hetero relationship
because it’s all there in the song, and how it’s not called Don’t Leave Me [insert generic man name] or Don’t Take my Man
and you can’t sing it without lingering yearningly on her name over and over again
what ultimately terrifies the singer is not her man leaving her for Jolene
but what happens after the man has left
and she still can’t stop singing about Jolene
what happens when there’s no tenuous hetero relationship in place which can cloak her very real, very queer desire
for a woman whose “beauty is beyond compare”